I am aware that can be a problem, and it is ugly. It's even caused strife, wars and genocide on the African continent without the interracial component.
As I said, I've been at gatherings of family and in discussions with close friends where there was speculation about who an expected baby might look like. It was absolutely not out of concern or valuing skin tone -- merely curiosity about how the genetics would play out.
I have a cousin with three children, two of which have darker skin. One of those children and the child with lighter skin have dark brown eyes, while the other child with darker skin has greenish blue eyes. Two have more afro type hair, one more similar to maternal grandpa. Another cousin was also in an interracial marriage (now divorced) and both of his children take more after their mother's looks, including darker skin. If you had family members write comments on slips of paper about each kid without naming the kid and then played guess who this is about, you'd be trying to pick up clues based upon if the comment mentioned gender or mentioned a specific talent or interest, because I don't think you'd get comments about skin tone or looks. BTW, the conversations about what the unborn babies might look like came from family members on both sides, chatting with each other and speculating together. Everybody was excited there was another baby on the way. It wasn't really much different than the conversations in my husband's mother's extended family, who are always dying to know who's going to be the next redhead in the family.