Haven't read this whole thread, but had an interesting conversation with a relative last night, who was there in July. She is more on the newbie end of the scale. She likes Disney, but is not a fanatic. She is a sporadic WDW traveler, might go and then be several years before she goes back. She has been more regularly and has been a few times in recent years as she is in her 50s and has grandkids and has been taking the grandkids or going with their families.
Her take on after going with one of her grandkid families for her recent trip was. "Disneyworld wasn't that fun this trip". This was an exact quote, the rest is as best I can remember. "We've always had a great time in the past, but this time it was a hassle before we even got there. We all had to spend days figuring out where we wanted to be when and negotiating for FP+ because kids had different priorities when it came to things we knew would have long lines, and with the tiers and limits, some of the adults had to give up FP+ for the rides we really wanted to we could split and take the kids on the ones they each wanted. So, it was kind of a battle a couple of months before the trip. The old days we would just get there, FP the ride we knew would have the longest lines, and then take turns FPing what each kid and/or adult wanted. We never had an issue. We all stayed together unless a kid was too short, and then an adult would stay with that kid and when the others came back could use their FP and go- and if the short kid or kid who didn't want to ride was 3 or over we would have grabbed a FP for them, so someone could go again with the person who stayed behind"
"When we got there this trip it just wasn't as fun. We were constantly watching the clock. I felt like every minute of every day was planned. Someone always had to be somewhere for the next FP+. Instead of staying together, we were split up a lot of the time because we did not have all the same FP+ because the kids had different priorities.We used to all go together on everything, and the only time someone stayed back was if a kid wasn't tall enough, and they would find something to do in the area and we would switch off and most of those rides were FP rides, so everyone got to ride with FP. There were favorite rides I didn't get to ride this trip because, I had to get a different FP+ to take one of the kids somewhere, and then the standby line for what I wanted was too long and no one wanted to wait for me to ride it, or wanted to be split any longer. All this stuff being planned out is too much hassle and takes the fun out of it".
Made me sad for her. I'm not sure she will be going back anytime soon, and she was really looking forward to this trip.
I also heard another perspective last week from a total newbie looking at their 1st WDW trip who was totally overwhelmed and contacted me asking for help. "Can you explain to me all this FP+ stuff". I did. "So you are telling me that I have to figure out what we want most to ride over 2 months in advance, and if it is something really popular, that I have to be on my computer at midnight eastern trying to book it, or else we might have to wait an hour or possibly even more for it". Yes, you will still get to ride if you want, you just might have a long wait for things like TSMM and 7DMT, SM, Splash in the afternoon etc. You might be able to find a time the lines are lower and get lucky and not have to wait that long. "But, I don't even know what my kids are going to like or want to do since we've never been there. Why don't they make everyone wait and do this FP thing in the park the day they are there. They could put a machine by the ride that spits out paper times to tell you when to come back to the ride". Me- after I quit laughing uncontrollably- "Yes they used to have it like that, but they changed it". Her: "Why the heck would they change something like that to this crazy mess? Now, I know my kids are going to want to see A&E and you are saying that even if I get on the computer in the middle of the night, it is possible that we don't get FP+ for A&E or 7 Dwarves, so I should keep messing on this website every day until our trip after that trying to get them". "Yep- you can still get in line for them, and you should keep an eye on the line and try to hit it when it isn't huge. Later at night might be good?" "Okay, yeah but other people will have FP+ and it isn't fair because the only reason they have FP+ and I don't just because they are coming in a day or two earlier than us. It isn't even for everyone". Me: "No it really isn't. At least you are booking 60 days out, people who don't stay onsite have to wait until 30 days out, so it is worse for them. At least book something, and then you don't have to use them if you get there and don't want to, and you might have some luck changing them while you are there. We didn't, but some people say they do?" Her: "You're kidding me, people staying on site like us get twice as long to book, but people that don't get stuck with our leftovers, and even with all those poor people getting stuck behind, I'm probably going to have issues getting A&E?" Me: "Yes, you might have issues, but you probably will be able to get everything except A&E and 7DMT at any time of day you want at 60 days out without hassle". Her "Yeah it's not going to be without hassle because my kids are going to have WWII over which FP+ we are going to pick because they like totally different things. I can see that coming already. Maybe I should just cancel our trip and we should do something else. I could handle the ADR thing you helped me with a while back, but this FP+ thing is totally overwhelming and I'm not sure I want to deal with it". Me: "WDW is still great. The kids are going to love it, and you probably will too". "Her, yeah but now I'm just so mad about the unfairness of this whole deal, and this whole going through all the rides and things and picking them in advance is just too overwhelming".
Just some perspectives on how some non-disers see this thing. We don't have the kid fighting issue as we have an only, but I still had to give up RNRC, which is one of my favorites, our last trip because TSMM is imporant to DD, and I like it too. Normally, DH and I would pull 2 FP for RNRC once our time let us after get got our first thing TSMM FP. Then, we would take turns riding it, as DD won't get near it (and before she was tall enough). Our last trip the standby and single rider were way to long for us to just take turns getting in there, so without being able to get FP, we just didn't get to ride it. We had a trip to DL/CA this summer, after we had done a FP+ trip. We realized just how great it was not to have to deal with that mess on our DL/CA trip. So much more relaxed before and during. We were back to going with the flow, and pulling FPs as needed when they suited us. It was wonderful. I miss those days at WDW!