sayhello
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I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm glad your son was able to figure it out in his head, and deal with it. Teens can be cruel, and you're right, even ABD is not immune to that.In general, I fully agree with this sentiment. In 4 out of 5 of our trips, our DS has made friends that he still keeps in contact with. However, I think you should also consider what happens when it doesn't quite go as you envisioned. On our last ABD, we had this. Basically, as our DS14 tried to hang with a group of 6 other teens, he was essentially told by one of the other boys, that the teen group is these 3 boys and these 3 girls, and that was it. He should find another group to hang out with. He had about a 36 hour period of feeling bad, then one morning woke up and said to us that he came to experience Australia first and foremost. It was disappointing that he wasn't going to become friends with the other teens, but experiencing the country was why we went on the ABD. So, he hung with us and got to know alot of the other adults. There were some awkward moments along the way as the guides seemed to cater to the gang of 6, but overall he thoroughly enjoyed the Australia experience. My point in sharing this, is that you have to know how your child would handle a situation like this. I know for him, at 14 he was able to rationalize his priority. If this would have happened on a previous trip when he was 11 or 12, he would have been miserable. Again, for the most part we have had wonderful groups of kids, but don't always assume it will be that way. It can be 80% of the time, but be aware of how you would handle that 1 in 5 times where it may not be so great and your child may feel left out.
I'm curious if you ever discussed this with the Guides? Were they aware he'd been ostracized from the group of 6, and not just choosing to hang with you guys?
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