Is a Friday Night Weddding inconsiderate?

[RN4Babies]

....and I still don't understand why the groom's many aunts, uncles and cousins can't drive home after the wedding if it's a financial burden to stay in a hotel. I went to my cousin's wedding in Chicago (a two hour drive) last October on a Friday night; I left the reception at 11:30pm and was home about 1:15am. What is the problem with that?

 

[mjkacmom]

I was married in the Catholic church at 5:30pm on a Saturday - guess it just depends on where you live?

But what happened to Mass? There HAS to be a Saturday night Mass in every Catholic church, right? I mean, Mass is never cancelled.

 

[olena]

I don't think it's inconsiderate at all and is the decision of the couple. I was married on a Friday night. It was in Las Vegas and those who were coming were already trekking cross country. We had maybe 20 people there, but that was fine with us. We never pressured anyone to be there. In our respective hometowns later on, we had Saturday cookouts, so family could gather and celebrate.

 

[mumom95]

When both bride and groom are married in the town they live in/grew up-most guests are in the area, so its no big deal what day or time.


My point in the Inconsiderate area-the groom's WHOLE family-masses of Aunts Uncles cousins etc HAVE to spend the night in a hotel to attend. In this economy, that is a financial burden for some.

A Saturday afternoon wedding would allow the out of town guests to go home afterwards.

That is all.

Why do they have to spend the night? An hour to an hour and a half drive is not long enough that I would say people have to spend the night, unless they have been drinking, but if they've been drinking, they shouldn't be driving at all.

In my opinion it's not inconsiderate, because no one is being forced to go.

 

[mumom95]

But what happened to Mass? There HAS to be a Saturday night Mass in every Catholic church, right? I mean, Mass is never cancelled.

The mass may have been at 4:15, which still seems to be cutting it close, but possible. I got married in a Catholic church on a Saturday night at 6:30. The evening mass at the church was at 4:30, over by 5:30 which still left an hour before our wedding.

I would have hated to have a Saturday afternoon wedding because that would mean I would have to get up the next morning and go to mass. And who wants to get out of bed early the morning after they get married

 

[baby1disney]

Ok...coming from a recent bride who had her wedding on a Saturday...wishing I woul've had it on a Friday!!

I work at a very popular hotel chain...Crowne Plaza..and let me tell you the difference in the prices!!

For the main ballroom on Friday night...you had to spend a minimum of $5500.
For the same room on Saturday night...$12,000 you had to spend!!!

Needless to say, I didn't have my wedding there. I got married there(for free since I work there) and had my reception somewhere else. I think my whole wedding cost me about 7500 with EVERYTHING included..dresses, suits, tuxes, decorations,etc.

Plus, alot of venues will either give you the hall for free on Fridays and Sundays or a huuuge discounts. Mainly because those night are hardly ever used for anything.

I would look at it as a way to kick off the weekend!!! You have two days top recover before going back to work!!

 

[stevenpensacola]

I'd much rather go to a Friday night wedding vs a 2PM Saturday wedding...the 2PM Saturday wedding pretty much wipes out your whole day...

there better be some good food if I'm going to a 2PM Saturday wedding!!!

 

[MovieJunkie]

I think it's hard to do Friday night - I mean that assumes that people from out of town will take a half day. I am sure it's hard to find a Saturday afternoon venue but ugh Friday evening weddings are so stressful.

 

[SydSim]

When planning a wedding, it's considerate to consider the couple. Two people decided to come together as one. That couple offered to allow friends and family to join them in their celebration of the union.

 

[disbridemimi]

.[/QUOTE
Sorry, guestzillas don't get to dicate when the wedding is.[/QUOTE]



I LOVE LOVE the word guestzilla, Ive got a few of those myself

 

[Inigo]

I got married at the courthouse on a Friday, with only a handful of people. .

I've been to several courthouse weddings even though I've never been officially invited, and in some cases never even knew the people getting married!

We have juvenile court every Monday and Wednesday, and other days as needed for trials and detention hearings. Every once in a while, there will be a wedding in our very distinguished looking courtroom, performed by our judge or by the County Clerk. The happy couple always invite those of us waiting for court to start to stay for the ceremony. It's so fun to watch!

 

[C.Ann]

No worse than a Sunday evening wedding - 400 miles away..

Sometimes the bride and groom don't even have a choice.. Venues book quickly - sometimes they have to take what they can get - and sometimes it's considerably less money if it's an "off" time..

If it stressed me out, I would just politely decline..

 

[englishteacha]

My wedding was a Saturday at 2:00. Dh and I had considered a Wednesday night. It was the anniversary of our first date. My mom talked us out of it because no one would have come. Most of our family was from out of town, but driving a few hours for an event isn't a big deal. So 2:00 worked well. My relatives could come in the day of the wedding, attend the ceremony and reception, and still be home by 10:00 that night if they wanted to.

As a teacher, I can't often take time off for weekday events, so events that start on a Friday afternoon are hard for me. I know I'm the exception in most circumstances, though.

 

[aprilgail2]

I don't think they are inconsiderate - they are cheaper so maybe they dont have the money for a weekend wedding. I can't say that I would GO to a wedding on a Friday night though, after working all day the last thing I want to do is go to a wedding and a 4-5 hour reception after that- especially if it was in a different town. I was invited to a wedding once on a friday afternoon- like 2pm....umm...sorry but NO I am not blowing one of my personal days at work to take off to go to a wedding!

 

[JCJRSmith]

I don't think it is inconsiderate at all because the wedding ain't about you.

 

[Mandychelle79]

My wedding was on a Friday night so we could have the wedding compromise of our dreams ... smallish ( around 75 to 100 at the wedding) ceremony. Mostly local family and really good friends... and a huge dinner reception ( 300 or so).

 

[HighClass]

I think it's hard to do Friday night - I mean that assumes that people from out of town will take a half day. I am sure it's hard to find a Saturday afternoon venue but ugh Friday evening weddings are so stressful.

Not everyone can take off early from work

 

[scrump]

When both bride and groom are married in the town they live in/grew up-most guests are in the area, so its no big deal what day or time.


My point in the Inconsiderate area-the groom's WHOLE family-masses of Aunts Uncles cousins etc HAVE to spend the night in a hotel to attend. In this economy, that is a financial burden for some.

A Saturday afternoon wedding would allow the out of town guests to go home afterwards.

That is all.

I would just not go.

And not take it personally.

 

[Abbie]

Haven't read any responses but I'll just say you would HATE my DD's wedding this summer because it's on a THURSDAY night! We were surprised they picked it but after they explained, it did make sense. It's July 2nd and the next day, Friday, is the holiday for the 4th of July so we really were trying to make it easier for out-of-town guests to come, figuring most would have that day off. We fully anticipate there will be some who simply can't do it and we understand and will be sorry they can't come. We're not so much "all about us" that we think people should go to great lengths to make it work out!

On the other hand, even though it wasn't originally a consideration, we've reaped some wonderful discounts from vendors since it's really an "off" time!

My wedding was on a Friday evening (Catholic) 29 years ago. We also chose it because we thought it was Memorial Day weekend but we were wrong...oops!

 

[Abbie]

When both bride and groom are married in the town they live in/grew up-most guests are in the area, so its no big deal what day or time.


My point in the Inconsiderate area-the groom's WHOLE family-masses of Aunts Uncles cousins etc HAVE to spend the night in a hotel to attend. In this economy, that is a financial burden for some.

A Saturday afternoon wedding would allow the out of town guests to go home afterwards.

That is all.

Okay, just finished reading the entire thread and the thought that immediately jumped out at me here was that perhaps this was their way of thinning the guest list? Maybe they knew it might be inconvenient for these "masses of aunts, uncles, cousins, etc" to attend a Friday evening wedding so they are hoping to get a lot of "no" responses??