Inspired by the engagement ring thread: Anyone "upgraded" their diamond later?

[KathyTX]

I can't decide how I feel about this...

We're coming up on our 15th anniversary. We got engaged and married in our twenties, and money was tight. DH then gave me a lovely engagement ring, although the stone is a modest size. It's a simple solitaire in a simple band, surrounded by little channel-set diamonds. It's now surrounded by two matching bands with little channel-set stones. I like my ring, and I'd choose the same style today.

DH has suggested that he'd like to "upgrade" the stone for our anniversary. I'm not sure if I like the idea or not. Of course, I LOVE sparkly things and would be tickled to have a bigger rock! But I've grown pretty accustomed to this ring, and don't know if I'd feel like a different stone means it's no longer my "real" ring...

I don't really want an additional ring. I have a couple of other rings I wear occasionally, but the wedding ring is the only one I wear all the time.

Silly? Has anyone else changed their wedding set as the years go by? I'm not ready to trade HIM in, not sure if I'm ready to trade his ring in!

 

[skuttle]

I don't think I ever would. Now, I'd gladly take a new sparkly on my other ring finger , just not my engagement ring.

 

[Annette_VA]

DH wasn't making much money when we got engaged, so my ring is smaller than I'd like.

My plan is to get a 3 stone anniversary ring for our 10th anniversary. I'm going to take my current engagement ring stone & make it one of the side stones in the 3 stone ring.

 

[kasar]

I don't think I ever would. Now, I'd gladly take a new sparkly on my other ring finger , just not my engagement ring.

Yep, that's what we did. I get lots of compliments on my "Anniversary" ring (it just so happened that our 10 year anniversary fell on a really big year for DH, financially! Woo-hoo!). I'm not one that can be bought with jewels (LOL) but I really earned that baby and I wear it with as much pride as my wedding rings.

 

[DoeWDW]

My engagement diamond also is a modest size. DH said I could have a bigger ring but then we'd have to wait longer to get married - I didn't want to wait.

We've talked about getting a matching stone to mine, and having them set as earrings and then putting a new diamond in my engagement ring. However, it costs the same as a Disney trip & we'd rather go to WDW.

 

[helenabear]

I've honestly wound up changing my whole set... long stories as to why, but once it needed to be done and the other was an addition. We think the wedding band is a symbol... and just a symbol. My hand was hurt and I cannot wear certain metals on it due to weight. He'd rather me change to a set I loved and could wear, than to wear something that hurt or I wouldn't be able to wear in the end at all.

It's all about personal preference and feelings. I was able to do it... I can see why some can't.

 

[Chicago526]

I don't have my ring yet (he's working on it!). He said he wanted to go out and buy the biggest honkin' stone he could afford. I don't care for large stones (of any kind) in rings that I wear, so I told him I don't want anything bigger than 3/4 carat. I'd rather have quality than size!

Anyway, I don't think I'll upgrade later. If he wants to go all out on a later aniversary, I'll just have him get me diamond earings or a pendant (or both)! It just wouldn't be "my" ring anymore. But I've got no problem with those that do, whatever makes a person happy!

 

[Cruisin]

I don't think the I would ever do it. Mine is big enough for me.

I would love a diamond anniversary band ring though

 

[bigbabyblues]

Haven't yet, but I'm thinking about it. If I get a new on though, I'll wear my original one and it's wrap on my left hand....unless I get an anniversary band at some point. Also thought about having the solitare reset as a pendant, we'll just have to see. Gotta convince DH I need a bigger one first!

Steph

 

[CamColt]

DH and I were talking about this recently because my band broke so when I got it fixed, I ended up get both my rings sautered together(solitaire for engagement & a wrap for wedding).
Of course I think more diamonds are always good, but I dont know about trading it in. To me that sort of defeats the whole meaning behind the ring. Of course the band breaking wasnt exactly a good sign either, but... I know a lot of people do it, and I dont think theres anything wrong with it, but I know it would bother me.
Im hinting for a nice anniversary band sometime in the future now that I really only have 1 ring.

 

[antmaril]

My husband and I have been married 30 years. When we got married, we didn't really have money for a diamond, so my mother gave us the small diamond she had when she got married. I wore that for 25 years. For our 25th wedding anniversary my husband bought me a much bigger "bauble" in a lovely setting and I now wear it proudly. I "earned" this one LOL!!!

My original ring will always have a special place, but I love this one too!!!

 

[Tasha+Scott]

I have a modest sized diamond too b/c we were married at 19 and 21 and money was extremely tight. At one time I would have said yes to having it upgraded, but now I wouldn't. It symbolizes a lot to me since it was the original one we could afford and it has a story to it. It wouldn't be the same to me now. I love my modest ring!

 

[DiaDeGuadalupe]

No upgrades here. I still have (and can wear again. yay!) my original rings, and wouldn't change them for the world. We too, were poor when we got engaged, so I got a small diamond. A couple of years after we were married, DH presented me with a small band with channel set diamonds to go with the wedding band and engagement ring. I'm one of those girls who isn't really into the sparkly stuff, so there haven't been any other rings that I had been coveting.

I do like metals, though, and on our 10th anniversary, DH gave me a nice platinum band. It's always on my right hand.

 

[skiwee1]

Nope. I like my plain single diamond just fine and couldn't imagine parting with something I wore on my wedding day. What DH did do was get me a diamond anniversary ring where the diamonds go all the way around the band. Gorgeous!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I upgraded at the store when we were purchasing it. I wouldn't want a bigger stone than what I already have.

My MIL got new rings a couple of years ago. She loves them.

And this year my Mom got the ring she always wanted-one with no stones. My Dad insisted she get a "diamond" in her ring when they got engaged even though she didn't want one. So she had basically a chip. It was so small and she never really liked it.

This year my Dad bought her a plain band and she LOVES it since it is what she always wanted.

 

[Crankyshank]

I have a tiny little engagement ring and wedding band because we were broke back then, but I wouldn't trade it for the world.
However, a nice (large) anniversary ring will be very much appreciated but a few years off. I inherited my mother's taste for expensive jewelry

 

[stinkerbelle]

nope - i wouldn't.

this ring was a gift from my DH...it's what he wanted to give me and what he wanted me to wear.

 

[Strawberry Lemonade]

DH's mother made her original diamond into a necklace when she was "upgraded". I don't think I would do it though. It's a modest stone, but DH picked it out himself and it's flawless. I think it would hurt his feelings if I upgraded just to get a bigger stone. I would definitely love an anniversary ring once we hit a nice, round milestone.

 

[transparant]

I can't decide how I feel about this...

We're coming up on our 15th anniversary. We got engaged and married in our twenties, and money was tight. DH then gave me a lovely engagement ring, although the stone is a modest size. It's a simple solitaire in a simple band, surrounded by little channel-set diamonds. It's now surrounded by two matching bands with little channel-set stones. I like my ring, and I'd choose the same style today.

DH has suggested that he'd like to "upgrade" the stone for our anniversary. I'm not sure if I like the idea or not. Of course, I LOVE sparkly things and would be tickled to have a bigger rock! But I've grown pretty accustomed to this ring, and don't know if I'd feel like a different stone means it's no longer my "real" ring...

I don't really want an additional ring. I have a couple of other rings I wear occasionally, but the wedding ring is the only one I wear all the time.

Silly? Has anyone else changed their wedding set as the years go by? I'm not ready to trade HIM in, not sure if I'm ready to trade his ring in!

Oh my gosh....this is my thoughts exactly! My husband and I just celebrated our 16th anniversary, and he wants to get me a new setting for my rings. I know I really need to do this, because my rings were antique to begin with. But like you...I have mixed feelings. These are *my wedding rings* I'll be sad to see it change.

 

[princesstommi]

Since my DH did not propose with a ring (we picked it out later), I don't have such an emotional tie to the ring as I know others do. So, in the future, I will have no problem *upgrading*. However, I know I have no intention to ever change my wedding band.