Inspired by the engagement ring thread: Anyone "upgraded" their diamond later?

[chesirekate]

No. Of course, not having a diamond makes it pretty easy to never think about upgrading it. Diamonds don't interest me in the least and I can't imagine ever wanting one. DH knew that before we got married so there was no engagement ring. I wear my simple wedding band and that's enough for me. Now, my mother did upgrade hers, but that was only because she lost her original ring. She's much more interested in rocks than I am so she was pretty happy about that and had fun showing it off for awhile.

 

[TLinden16]

Kathy, I think you should get rid of your original engagement ring and walk around with one of the flashy ones that Mary gave us in Disney. Now that would be cool

Now, I've never been married, but I don't think I'd want to upgrade it. To me, the size or style of the ring isn't what matters--it's the meaning behind the ring that matters. I think I'd keep the original (and use the money that would have been spent on upgrading the ring for a weekend getaway with the honey).

Karen

 

[disneysteve]

I've grown pretty accustomed to this ring, and don't know if I'd feel like a different stone means it's no longer my "real" ring.

I agree, and DW does too. Your engagement ring is what it is. If you've got more money now, then get some other jewelry, but don't change your original ring.

 

[KimR]

I did. When DH and I got engaged, the diamond he gave me was not modest - it was downright tiny! It was fine at the time because as a college student, it was all he could afford. But I have always loved the look and sparkle of large diamonds so right before my 2nd DD was born, he gave me beautiful 1.75 carat diamond ring and I love it. He has since upgraded it further by adding surrounding baguets and I get so many compliments on it. I still have my original diamond, but to be honest I'm not that sentimental about it...the new one is just as much a symbol of his love as the original.

 

[PartyofSix]

Kathy HI! I can so feel you dillemma. I have a kt solitare engagement ring and my band was only 1/4kt and i always felt it did not do the ring justice. For years i begged for a bigger wrap and 2 years ago i got one. I cried and cried it was so lovely to finally wrap my beautiful ring with an big 2kt wrap! He picked all of those rings out so they all mean the world to me. Is your ring something you could get a upgraded wrap for? I would not every let go of the engagment ring but wraps now that's just a perfect upgrade to my set. Best wishes and Merry CHristmas Kathy!!

 

[Tinks]

Well, I didn't technically upgrade. My diamond is set in gold. I wear an equal amount of gold and silver...just usually not together! So for my 10th anniversary (this past November) I got a platinum anniversary band. It is an eternity band and I love, love, love it! Now I wear both off and on and I couldn't be happier So that may be an option for you.

 

[rbuzzotta]

I just changed my setting around for my 15th anniversary. I have the original stone. DH gave me a pair of diamond earring (5 stones hanging) and I had those incorporated into bands. I now wear 3 rings!! Two bands with 5 diamonds each, my original marquis diamone surrounded by 2 of the same size diamonds on each side.

My idea...............having 3 girls!!...............when I get older (way older!!) I will put my now diamond solitaire earrings into the bands and then each girl will have a ring!!

It was difficult to give up my original wedding set but it was out dated. It was a gold insert............now I have platinum. I just LOVE them!!

 

[vettechick99]

I just upgraded my wedding set. I did have a round solitaire set in platinum, but the more I tried to find a diamond band to match it, the more I hated the setting (even though that's what I asked for ). So a few weeks ago, we went and upgraded the whole thing...now I've got diamonds surrounding the solitaire and a matching band. They even gave me credit on the platinum setting I didn't need anymore.

To me, my wedding set and diamond is just that...jewelry. I don't attach sentimental value to it. If I lose it, I won't cry b/c I have insurance. I do love what I have, but more so I love what I have with my FI and that's all that matters.

If you want to upgrade, go for it! A lot of jewelers will give you what you paid for if you upgrade a certain amount. That's not a bad deal!

 

[Kimberle]

No, I would not do that. An "upgraded" diamond will NOT be the one I got engaged with and could pass down to my daughter. I would also not have my ring re-set because, again, it wouldn't be the same ring.

*I* would buy a new ring. If you don't want a ring, how about a nice dimond solitare necklace or stud earings? Again, you could choose another stone (ruby, emerald, etc). Whatever you choose should/will be meaningful to you.

 

[lulu71]

I upgraded the setting, but kept all the diamonds. When we went to get the original setting resized, we started looking around at all jewelry store and the resizing turned into a whole new platinum setting. I'm as sentimental as the next person and since all the diamonds are there, I feel like what was blessed on our wedding day is still in that ring. I'd feel the same way if the setting were the same but the diamonds were different, so I say go for it!

 

[John VN]

What a difference with my DW.

Her engagement diamond was a nice one and she wore it proudly. When our DD was born in 1975 she took the ring off and has not put it back on. Her reason was "I don't want to scratch my daughter". Even after our son she never had the desire to put it back on.

When our son decided to get married she offered the diamond to be used as the stone for a new engagement ring. Well, we now have it back again and now it will be sold.

The only ring she wants is the wedding band she is wearing.

John

 

[Pin Wizard]

Nope, I'd never change a thing about mine even though it's small. The sentiment and meaning of it is much more important to me than the size.

 

[huey duey & luey]

I have changed my setting but kept the original stone. I am happy with the size of the diamond, but I could be happy with abigger one too (lol). If i were to 'upgrade" I wouldnt get rid of my ring now, you know you can never have too many diamonds

 

[m&m's mom]

Well being as DH lost his wedding ring this summer in a lake in Iowa I am trying to not be too sentimental.
I ended up w/ 3 1/2 carats on original ring so I should be happy (got married when DH was in his 40's). Although platinum instead of yellow gold would be nice. Hmmmm...
I am a jewelry freak so I would definitely get a larger diamond if offered, but I would not trade in 1st stone. I would keep it and try to used the stones elsewhere.
I have pulled several diamonds out of jewelry I have inherited and the original settings were not disturbed at all. I was very surprised.
On a side note, if you want to re-create setting I suggest "Harolds" on Main Street by Hobby Lobby. He has reset a few things of mine and I have been happy.
Good Luck - can't go wrong either way.

 

[theSurlyMermaid]

To me the ring size doesn't matter at all....quality of ring, clearness, cut, color and all sorts of different variables combine to make up quality.

I'm very happy with my engagement ring (DH did very well and researched it meticulously) but my wedding band is another story. The store flat out lied to us, telling us it was platinum when it is white gold (the color isn't right and it isn't as heavy as platinum is). I figured it out too late though, and now I wouldn't change it....although I'm still seriously irritated about it.

 

[palmtreegirl]

To me, my wedding set and diamond is just that...jewelry. I don't attach sentimental value to it.

That's how I feel.


My engagement ring is gone, lost, stolen maybe, I'm not sure. DH wants to replace it but he knows I don't want another diamond, I just don't like them for a variety of reasons. It doesn't really matter to me if I get another one or not, it was just a ring.

 

[kbkids]

Nope - still the same engagement ring we started off with. Our jeweler is a friend of the family's, and he always said he would buy it back and credit it towards a bigger one later. But, it's already a 1 carat solitaire, and honestly, I don't want it any bigger. DH did buy me a diamond anniversary ring on our 10 year anniversary, so I've got my wedding band, engagement ring, and then anniversary band all together. I love the look of it!!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'm totally upgrading when finances are well enough for it.

Tragically I lost my engagement ring--3/4 ct. heart shaped diamond set in platinum.

Fiance, now hubby--got me a replacement--which I very very much appreciate...but as of late (6 years married)--I've been making plans for my 10th anniversary or so and showing him pics. I would like a larger diamond than I have (.25 ct) and set in platinum like the original--I have my wish...and I have my would like to have. I just want something closer resembling what I got originally. And next time we will have a rider on our policy for loss in case anything bad happens again.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

That's how I feel.


My engagement ring is gone, lost, stolen maybe, I'm not sure. DH wants to replace it but he knows I don't want another diamond, I just don't like them for a variety of reasons. It doesn't really matter to me if I get another one or not, it was just a ring.

My mother has emeralds as they are her favorite stone. They have to be specially set though as they are soft and prone to falling out which had happened to her once already.

 

[sap1227]

DH wasn't making much money when we got engaged, so my ring is smaller than I'd like.

My plan is to get a 3 stone anniversary ring for our 10th anniversary. I'm going to take my current engagement ring stone & make it one of the side stones in the 3 stone ring.

We are doing the same