In Search of my Body...Not The One I ate...#3 "Crowning Goddesses As We Go"

[BrcsDisneyPrncs]

I

Am

Pissed!!! Stupid Husband and his Stupid Germs!!

But of course it's OE so i have to go be a crusty, stuffy, ear-poppy, sore throaty, coughy MESS all day at work (ok, so im being a little dramatic....)

Everyone have a great day!

 

[3DisneyKids]

Hey all--thanks for the well wishes, but I can't say that I am sick. I am just all...bleh. No headache, no stomach stuff, no sore throat, etc. Just lethargic--which is so unlike me. So who knows. Maybe it is just good ol' fashioned burn out. From life, kwim?

Don't you go straight to hell when you nap during your dad's sermon?

No, I figure I'm ok because of my dad. He's like connected, you know? Fastpass to heaven.

Lyz - Please get that all checked out. Um, have fun in Plano? Why did we not get advance notice of this trip????

Ditto on both accounts. This is the second time there has been a trip with no notice. Not ok.

Stacey--hope you feel better.

Deb--try to make it out of the hotel to have at least one meal in the city and a quick buzz around town.

Kat--glad the cold is being kept at bay. Good for you for staying on it!

Dawn--still no word?

Aimee--thanks for posting! And I LOVE what Lyz asked about after being on SBD for 10 weeks...on the floor with a poptart in one hand and french toast in the other! Yeah, give us the run down on your progress.

Paula--welcome back! And awesome job opting for the stairs!

I am going to try to get some work done before heading up to campus. But all I really want to do is curl up on the couch. Again, I never do that...and rarely feel like I want to. So...

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Hey all--thanks for the well wishes, but I can't say that I am sick. I am just all...bleh. No headache, no stomach stuff, no sore throat, etc. Just lethargic--which is so unlike me. So who knows. Maybe it is just good ol' fashioned burn out. From life, kwim?


That is SO odd. I think of you as the energizer bunny. Maybe your iron is low?



No, I figure I'm ok because of my dad. He's like connected, you know? Fastpass to heaven.


You probably shouldn't have said that either.


I am going to try to get some work done before heading up to campus. But all I really want to do is curl up on the couch. Again, I never do that...and rarely feel like I want to. So...

Sorry you feel so bad. Makes you want to turn on the faux fireplace in your corner office.

About the notice, I didn't buy the plane tics until Saturday morning. I don't post unless it's a done deal. And I gave you 2 days! Geezsh. Did you want me to pick you up something?

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Happy Monday!!!

We drove all over Maine as we are looking for property/lake houses since prices are so good. Found 3 really promising places, so we are going to move forward from here.

ooohhh...FUN!


NANCY--hope you can get SOME downtime in the next week. I know this is your busy season, so hang in there. If you are super busy like this, do you tend to eat or not? If I am whacked out busy, then I forget to eat, so sometimes that can be ok.

Yeah - sometimes I *forget* to eat! (as IF! )

Really though - my schedule gets so wonky that I have to be really mindful of the clock. If I wait to eat when I'm actually hungry - forget it. I cram anything and everything not nailed down into my mouth!

I am focusing on lifetime stuff here, so it was a good day to try out a new way!

What a great day for you! Good food choices, good CLOTHES! what a great feeling!

I am going out for a run. Yes. A run. I am hoping it will help clear the cobwebs.


It'll either kill ya or cure ya! Here's hoping for the CURE!

I had a blast in CT... Spent the weekend at a scrapbooking convention in Hartford with two of my girlfriends from college. It was fun talking to them and even more awesome when the first words out of their mouths after seeing me was how great I looked.... Loved that....

It's so nice when our accomplishments get noticed isn't it? All that hard work pays off!


OMG - the bodies of those dancers are amazing... I may have to take up dancing as a form of exercise once I lose a little more weight and develop a sense of rhythm in my hips....

Yeah - I'm totally the girl with no rhythm....much like Elaine from Seinfeld...

tomorrow is the start of a new week.... let's start this one off on the right foot and make good choices...

A-MEN!

So I'm off to London for the week.

Ahh...the less-than-glamorous life of a business traveller! Hope you get some time to "tour"!

Stupid Husband and his Stupid Germs!!

Feel better!

No, I figure I'm ok because of my dad. He's like connected, you know? Fastpass to heaven.


Yep. Gotta love the Fastpass!

Off for a RUN (yep...a run!) before work...gotta get movin' here! I'll post about my weekend later...

 

[amykab]

Hey everyone..

I am not completely caught up yet, but it sounds like everyone one needs some feel better vibes!! Lots of people!

I did PR my 5K this weekend by almost 3 minutes, and I ran/jogged almost the entire thing!

Off to catch up!

 

[3DisneyKids]

Ok, I am dragging my sorry a$$ out for a run. Nothing huge. Just a 4-miler. I am FORCING myself, I tell ya. Again, when have I ever had to force myself to work out??? Weirdness abounds in my life lately.

 

[amykab]

My totally lame attempt at catching up! Please let me know if I've missed any exciting news!

Hi Gang! I'm in. My name is Amiee and I have insulin resistance. I will be back after I read a few pages, lol.

Welcome Aimee!! I am pretty new here too!


Paula: Will you have any more flirting opportunities this week?

Kat: I think baby steps, small goals are the key. That is how I operate, especially when I feel myself getting off track.

Erika: Hope you are feeling better. I find that running or any exercise helps most of the time when I just feel kind of blah. A lake house sounds like so much fun and it is a great time to get one. My parents are looking for one in Vermont. 36 degrees?? I just got the shivers reading it!

I got this from someone on the Disneyland Diva Board and I love it:

We should do a No Halloween Candy Club! The rules are as follows:

- No purchasing or eating any Halloween candy until Oct 30.
- Can eat Halloween candy for 5 minutes on Halloween only
- No purchasing any Halloween candy after the 31st

The question that always comes up is NO you cannot pre-unwrap the candy before the 5 minute window opens.

I love this idea? Who is with me?

I am with you on this! Also, congrats on the 180’s…I hope to be there by the end of the month!

Yikes germs germs everywhere! I hope i don't get sick, Bruce is sick and I guess there is a bug that is just ravaging his office, they had 8 call ins yesterday alone (so of course, bruce being bruce, instead of sleeping and getting well, picked up overtime and went in at 3 am this morning, earliest he will be home is 4:30 this evening).....

Hope you feel better! Your furbaby is adorable!

Here I am! Not at home. Cooling my heels. At the Miami airport. Because I forgot the cardinal rule of int'l travel - check the flight before you leave the house. Yup, got here 2 hours before my scheduled departure and found a 2 hour delay. They should have known it before I printed my boarding passes but didn't post it.So I'm off to London for the week. Don't anyone get excited. I'm staying at the Heathrow airport and going to meetings at the Heathrow airport. Gack. And I'm traveling by myself. Kaitlyn wants a picture of London - she'll probably get a postcard.

Have at least 6 pints of beer for me, or whatever your drink of choice is!!

To anyone I have missed

 

[goofyfan-12]

My totally lame attempt at catching up! Please let me know if I've missed any exciting news!

Paula: Will you have any more flirting opportunities this week?

Don't think so.... I am not sure when this guy will be back on site - if ever... Perhaps it was not meant to be... or I should chaulk it up as a lesson learned... act when the moment is there and don't wait... the opportunity may not present itself again...

Oh well - keep moving forward as Sarah would say...

Hope everyone is having a good day... Work is crazy busy, but that is proabably a good thing... no time for snacking...

Talk to you all later after my weigh in...

Paula

 

[lisaviolet]

Hi everyone,

Well, I'm in shock. I just found out that one of my best friend's husband left her. Of course for another woman - since so many men can't seem to leave a marriage without one - ie. leave to be on their own because of unhappiness. Sorry about the rant there. I just don't understand why more men can't leave because of their own thoughts - not to have someone else waiting. Ranting. Sorry. And I didn't know because he went back and forth after the first break and so she and he were working on it for a short time. We don't live near each other, different cities - from university, so it was easy to keep.

He left her, the original time, five days after the birth of their second child. Five days. WTH. I"m in shock. And so mad. And so sad that she was in pain and kept it to herself. Life.

Wow, eh? So sad. I'm just so sad. So sad. I don't get people sometimes..... I just don't......

Thanks for listening everyone. I'm very grateful for this thread,

Lisa

 

[amykab]

Lisa That totally sucks about your friend. And how horrible for him to leave the first time within a week of having a baby. It sounds cliche and it may be hard to see it now but in the long run she WILL be better off without him.

 

[goofyfan-12]

Lisa - Yikes.... That is not good news at all.... The world as a whole is still trying to figure out why people do what they do. Suffice to say, we may never have an answer to that question, but rants about it are welcome...

Good luck to you and your friend...

Paula

 

[HockeyKat]

Hi everyone,

Well, I'm in shock. I just found out that one of my best friend's husband left her. Of course for another woman - since so many men can't seem to leave a marriage without one - ie. leave to be on their own because of unhappiness. Sorry about the rant there. I just don't understand why more men can't leave because of their own thoughts - not to have someone else waiting. Ranting. Sorry. And I didn't know because he went back and forth after the first break and so she and he were working on it for a short time. We don't live near each other, different cities - from university, so it was easy to keep.

He left her, the original time, five days after the birth of their second child. Five days. WTH. I"m in shock. And so mad. And so sad that she was in pain and kept it to herself. Life.

Wow, eh? So sad. I'm just so sad. So sad. I don't get people sometimes..... I just don't......

Thanks for listening everyone. I'm very grateful for this thread,

Lisa

So sorry Lisa.

One thing I do know, is that people have so much going on underneath that others just don't know. I have had couple friends that I thought were so in love and so together, that it turns out behind closed doors they were barely hanging by a thread.

For example, I thought two of my friends were practically so glued together physically that they probably spent all of their spare time in "exercise"... and it turned out the male in this hetero marriage was struggling with being attracted to women at all.

I think that people are afraid to air their concerns, problems, to their friends and family because of side-taking. Once you have confided all of the issues from your POV, esp if you believe that you are being treated at all unfairly, that friend or family member is likely to now dislike your partner strongly, no matter what he or she does to make restitution and/or how skewed your POV is. Sometimes this is a good thing because it keeps you accountable, but it can also be very awkward at times...

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Lisa - I am so sorry to hear about your friend. How hard for her. Is she taking measures to take care of herself and her children?


Kat - Interesting point. I think it holds true depending on the family member/friend and the situation. Speaking only for myself, my opinion is based on what my friend is getting out of their relationship and knowing the difference between difficult and destructive.

For instance, I have a very good friend who has had a rocky marriage. Her husband has done things some would not forgive him for. I know all these things. Yet, I still like her husband and am supportive of their marriage. I believe that while he made some bad decisions, he really loves her and wants to be different. As things go up or down, I try to look at his intentions and not just her anger. If she came to me and said she was thinking of leaving him, I would counsel her to reconsider, try marriage counseling, etc. Their marriage has been difficult, but he wants it to be good and works at that, and she derives pleasure from their marriage, even though it's not easy all the time.

I have another good friend whose spouse has done things that are less, shall we say, "surface bad". There's stuff, but not one good pinpoint to say "There! Ditch him!" However, she is not happy, and nothing he does shows he wants to change. Sh$t happens in every marriage; often I want to get on here and write "I hate my husband" because that thought does go through my mind! But the test for me is, does this marriage make you happy? Does it nurture you? Are you getting anything out of it? If the answer is no for me or my friend, I have to be honest if asked. This is the difference between a difficult marriage and a destructive one.

I don't want to see a bright, loving woman waste her time and heart and get nothing in return. None of us do. And sometimes, yes, family or friends are so protective they never forgive your loved one a transgression that you can forgive. But too often, I think we keep silent to our own detriment. It's better to share our problems and struggles than try to make it on our own. After all, isn't that why we get married or enter into long-term relationships in the first place?

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Hey Lyz- just wanted to update you....ummm...yeah. Those popsicle stick squats that I previously mentioned to you? My legs are still sore. I've been hobbling around all weekend - hubby keeps telling me I'm walking like I have a stick up my a$$! So yeah. They're nasty.

I did PR my 5K this weekend by almost 3 minutes, and I ran/jogged almost the entire thing!

Nice job on the PR! 3 minutes is a big drop!!!

Well, I'm in shock. I just found out that one of my best friend's husband left her.

Lisa- I'm sorry for your friend... and for the pain and anger you feel for her!

Speaking only for myself, my opinion is based on what my friend is getting out of their relationship and knowing the difference between difficult and destructive.

And that is what can be so difficult to determine. My sister was married far too long IMHO...not that either one of them was necessarily a *bad* person - they were just bad for each other....w-a-y beyond the point of "difficult" and definitely well into "destructive" by anyone's definition.

All I (or anyone!) could do was listen, support and tell her how much we cared about her health and happiness. My family has very strong faith based values. Like Erika, I am the daughter of a minister. So for my sister to make the decision to leave that marriage was not made easily or lightly (or quickly! )



I don't want to see a bright, loving woman waste her time and heart and get nothing in return. None of us do. And sometimes, yes, family or friends are so protective they never forgive your loved one a transgression that you can forgive. But too often, I think we keep silent to our own detriment. It's better to share our problems and struggles than try to make it on our own. After all, isn't that why we get married or enter into long-term relationships in the first place?


Amen to that!

Well...after that rather heavy post...I'm going to go have a cup of tea and figure out dinner....

 

[HockeyKat]

Liz, have I told you lately how much I love you? Really. That was such a good post.

 

[lisaviolet]

Thanks so much everyone. It just shocked me to the core. It wasn't sugar sweet by any means. But another woman during pregnancy, a tough pregnancy, is just a tough one for me. I do remember hearing a therapist say that pregnancy is tough for a lot of men. And when they are already unhappy it sparks a lot of crap. Please don't think I'm giving excuses. I'm simply talking. That's all. To get pictures of the new little one. Plead my way for more baby pics and got the truth. I saw her in May - she dropped some stuff. But it was the same things - communication issues.

I finally found her home after I posted. Thank God. I so wanted to hug her. And she is wow. I thought of you all and your advice to Dan when he asked. Because she could only talk to me because her daughter is at kindergarten. She is already on that - not talking one iota around her. Wow and kudos I say. Someone is doing it right in this world. Difficult as that is. She is already in counselling. Has her daughter ready to go. (Not because of the separation because of the multitude of losses and she is already acting out strongly - because of that part) She has had a load. They lost their cat during this period. And my friend had to have her husband take the dog - (who is very high maintenance - abused dog from shelter) because she was finding she couldn't cope breastfeeding, dealing, and giving much needed attention to their daughter. And the husband wasn't seeing the kids as much as needed. So now the daughter has all this - cat, dog, father - gone. And of course she is lashing out but not at her father who she just wants to please. My friend is looking at what she has to do. Give up control of certain issues. Looking at all of it - where emotions could easily take over all of us. I told her how flippin' proud she should be of herself and she cried. And she not someone who lets go. I am so proud of her.

I am many things - good and bad. But one of the most lovely things about me. God did I say "lovely things about me" - Lord I've come a long way. Love it. Just a minor programming minute for how far I've come in this world because of all my work. Yeah! Okay back.

Anyway one of my lovliest traits is that I never, ever see people as good and bad. I just don't. I don't see things as black and white. I see hurts even in people who are committing the most hurtful things. I don't ever want to change that part of me. I never allow it to make me a doormat or to let others use it but I have endless compassion. I see us all as far from perfect - capable of making mistakes. I know, and I don't give it too much time because the wife is my dearest friend - not him, that he is hurting. That this isn't what he wanted for his life to be. And that no matter what happiness in the other place - he has a long road ahead of him. And I so wish that communication could have been at the point where he could have said "something is not right with me; with us; I need some help" to someone. His wife, a friend, a therapist, a pastor - whomever. I wish that for all of us. I'm just rambling. It's just flowing out of me. Thanks guys. Sad all around.

Lisa

 

[lisaviolet]

I

Am

Pissed!!! Stupid Husband and his Stupid Germs!!

But of course it's OE so i have to go be a crusty, stuffy, ear-poppy, sore throaty, coughy MESS all day at work (ok, so im being a little dramatic....)

Everyone have a great day!

Hang in there Stacey. Hey Stacey I hear Rochester ads lately on the radio. And about some surprises there to find. Big promotion. What gifts are you going to give me if I jump off my terrace and swim to Rochester? Anything? Oh I'm delirious now. My head feels like exploding. I yelled, in this way, at my mom for not breastfeeding me. Just joking guys. It's just that my parents could roll in germs and not get sick. And I have no immunity. Got shingles last year. Two parents lovely immunity and great legs - no forget that gorgeous - gorgeous like model ones - legs at seventy two and three. One offspring with flippin' tree trunks, cankles and no immunity. Where's the genes man?!?!??! Whoa is me today. WAIT!!!! It's not that whoa....is it?.....oh my aching head.....what is the word she says.....My head......stop thinking NOW!!! There is no sense in brain waves in this state.

Hey all--thanks for the well wishes, but I can't say that I am sick. I am just all...bleh. No headache, no stomach stuff, no sore throat, etc. Just lethargic--which is so unlike me. So who knows. Maybe it is just good ol' fashioned burn out. From life, kwim?

Hang in there Erika. Take good care of yourself.

Lisa That totally sucks about your friend. And how horrible for him to leave the first time within a week of having a baby. It sounds cliche and it may be hard to see it now but in the long run she WILL be better off without him.

Thanks Amy and thanks for this .

Lisa - Yikes.... That is not good news at all.... The world as a whole is still trying to figure out why people do what they do. Suffice to say, we may never have an answer to that question, but rants about it are welcome...

Good luck to you and your friend...

Paula

Thanks Paula. I know, I know. I'm just a ramlin' and ramblin'

Sorry to hear that your flirting boy isn't around anymore Paula. Maybe you'll see him. Crossing my fingers. Cause flirting is fun.

So sorry Lisa.

One thing I do know, is that people have so much going on underneath that others just don't know. I have had couple friends that I thought were so in love and so together, that it turns out behind closed doors they were barely hanging by a thread.

For example, I thought two of my friends were practically so glued together physically that they probably spent all of their spare time in "exercise"... and it turned out the male in this hetero marriage was struggling with being attracted to women at all.

I think that people are afraid to air their concerns, problems, to their friends and family because of side-taking. Once you have confided all of the issues from your POV, esp if you believe that you are being treated at all unfairly, that friend or family member is likely to now dislike your partner strongly, no matter what he or she does to make restitution and/or how skewed your POV is. Sometimes this is a good thing because it keeps you accountable, but it can also be very awkward at times...

Thanks so much Kat. I know. We had this before her marriage. She told me all the crap - which is what a friend should do - and then suddenly they were engaged and I was her maid of honor and everything was good. No bounceback time for me. So I know it's hard. But I'm not a side taking girl. And I grew to understand his ways more. He has always been aloof.

My sister does this to my parents. Tells them awful crap and then expected them just to simply and easily fall back into her guy at the time. Easier said then done.

It's not really the shock of her marriage as I knew a lot - just the timing.

Lisa - I am so sorry to hear about your friend. How hard for her. Is she taking measures to take care of herself and her children?


Kat - Interesting point. I think it holds true depending on the family member/friend and the situation. Speaking only for myself, my opinion is based on what my friend is getting out of their relationship and knowing the difference between difficult and destructive.

For instance, I have a very good friend who has had a rocky marriage. Her husband has done things some would not forgive him for. I know all these things. Yet, I still like her husband and am supportive of their marriage. I believe that while he made some bad decisions, he really loves her and wants to be different. As things go up or down, I try to look at his intentions and not just her anger. If she came to me and said she was thinking of leaving him, I would counsel her to reconsider, try marriage counseling, etc. Their marriage has been difficult, but he wants it to be good and works at that, and she derives pleasure from their marriage, even though it's not easy all the time.

I have another good friend whose spouse has done things that are less, shall we say, "surface bad". There's stuff, but not one good pinpoint to say "There! Ditch him!" However, she is not happy, and nothing he does shows he wants to change. Sh$t happens in every marriage; often I want to get on here and write "I hate my husband" because that thought does go through my mind! But the test for me is, does this marriage make you happy? Does it nurture you? Are you getting anything out of it? If the answer is no for me or my friend, I have to be honest if asked. This is the difference between a difficult marriage and a destructive one.

I don't want to see a bright, loving woman waste her time and heart and get nothing in return. None of us do. And sometimes, yes, family or friends are so protective they never forgive your loved one a transgression that you can forgive. But too often, I think we keep silent to our own detriment. It's better to share our problems and struggles than try to make it on our own. After all, isn't that why we get married or enter into long-term relationships in the first place?

Loved the post Liz. She is taking care of herself. Thanks for asking. I really pushed it. But hard to push take care of yourself first and your kids will get the best of you when she listening to a childless girl!!! I still feel it strongly. Not igore them of course. But don't ignore yourself or you might break and then where would they be? Love reading your thoughts on life. Jean and I are so close - extremely for one reason. We have always brought stuff back to us. Always. I had a motto bring it here before it ever goes there so to speak. I had sisters that would let out to others and not to their spouses and I learned. But don't me wrong. There are two rational - yes I can be rational - people always wanting to push things through - Jean and I. Even as friends. You have to both want to work for sure. And no abuse. So don't think I mean anything by this. Relationships are hard at times all around. That's just worked well for me. To push at things and be with someone who will push it too. Not push but not ignore. I need some MEDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't even keep thoughts straight.

Hey Lyz- just wanted to update you....ummm...yeah. Those popsicle stick squats that I previously mentioned to you? My legs are still sore. I've been hobbling around all weekend - hubby keeps telling me I'm walking like I have a stick up my a$$! So yeah. They're nasty.

Yeah squating Nancy. You go.

Loved reading the rest of your words Nancy but I've lost them here. But not in my head.


Hi LYZ!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

I yelled, in this way, at my mom for not breastfeeding me. Just joking guys. It's just that my parents could roll in germs and not get sick. And I have no immunity. Got shingles last year. Two parents lovely immunity and great legs - no forget that gorgeous - gorgeous like model ones - legs at seventy two and three. One offspring with flippin' tree trunks, cankles and no immunity. Where's the genes man?!?!??! Whoa is me today.

Oh dear, Looks like Lisa was swimming in the shallow end of the gene pool

My Hubby is a genetic freak! He has a metabolism that I would KILL for. Can eat pretty much whatever he wants. All muscle, no fat - even when he's not working out. And it's funny, because he gets that from his grandfather, not his parents! Genetics....what a crapshoot, eh?

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Lisa, So sorry for your friend and you.

I think I know how you feel. I am always desprately sad when a marriage, close to me, falls apart. It's such a big loss. And you think, but... (There are so many buts.) And maybe this, or what about that... It's so uncomprehendable.

I can offer nothing better than what you have gotten. Just keep rambling, it will help.

xxoo
Lyz

Wait, yes, I think men are butts. But you all knew that already.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Hey babes--

Lisa, I am so sorry for you and your friend. I have been living this with my friend Karen for the past 2 months, so I am especially sensitive to it.

Liz--as always, thanks for talking me off the ledge.

STEPH--I heard from Steph today via text and she lost TWO POUNDS! SO, Woo Hoo for Steph as she gets settled in her new digs. She hopes to be back online tomorrow.

DAWN--I also heard from Dawn today and she is up and running and all is well for now. She hasn't had internet access, so that is why she is a posting loser. She will get caught up in the next day or so.

Amy--WOO HOO for your PR! Awesome! And a goddess crown for you! A 3 minute PT totally earns a goddess crown!

As for me....I am slowly getting back to myself. I did a 4 mile run today and did the rest of my scheduled workout as well...upper body and core. So at least that got taken care of. Now I am getting caught up with work.