In Search of my Body...Not The One I ate...#3 "Crowning Goddesses As We Go"

[BrcsDisneyPrncs]

Argh, i suck, i admit it, i've been MIA.

Tons of long hours at work, out of town on weekends i haven't even checked my email in a week

I'm going to go back and read through, might take me a while...

Little bit of exciting news though, i'm going back to school (b/c i'm not busy enough ) So i'm really excited about that, getting all of my info together and narrowing down my choices.

WEll, off to catch up!

 

[AKASnowWhite]

Little bit of exciting news though, i'm going back to school (b/c i'm not busy enough ) So i'm really excited about that, getting all of my info together and narrowing down my choices.

That IS exciting!

Good morning all!

I weighed in for the challenge - no change for me. Well - I should say, no change in my WEIGHT - but I feel as if I have made positive changes in my food plan, so things should start to move in the right direction soon...

SO - anyone want a KITTEN? She really is quite adorable. Just one thing....she PEES IN THE LAUNDRY. I am so angry. She just peed in a basket of clean towels...now they are in the laundry again. I don't have time to wash things ONCE let alone TWICE!

She's an indoor/outdoor cat who has just earned more time outside! And yes - they have a litter box...and while I don't race to clean it out after every use, it certainly is acceptable! If I hadn't just spent $200 to get her spayed, I'd send her on her merry way... ...I may send her on her way ANYWAY!

 

[3DisneyKids]

Stacey--good to see you! And that is exciting news! Of course, we will need to know all of the details! (And if I can be of any help, please let me know. This is what I do, after all. )

Nancy--yikes! That is awful...not to mention gross. That cat would SO be out of my house. But then again, you are much more animal-friendly than I am. We have just the one dog, and she is so tiny, she barely qualifies for pet status.

So I woke up with a massive headache...and TOM! I feel like SUCH an idiot. I wasn't in a funk these past couple of days, I just had PMS. Duh! I don't know how many times this has happened over the years. Omg, you'd think I would be used to it by now. It doesn't happen every month, but every once in a while I will get in these types of funks and it always turns out just to be PMS. I mean really, when will I learn?

Challenge--I will post the table with our first round of results soon.

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

DO I DARE?

I found this HI LAR IOUS! And no, I don't want a cat. Espically one that pees in the laundry.

I did 100 crunches tonight.

That's just showing off. (I'm only kidding.)

I've been doing at least 200/week and I swear it is making a difference, inches wise. Was supposed to do pilates tonight too but I have been getting my drink on since I got home from work and I just didn't feel like it.

I did however feel it necessary to make an emergency run to Target to see what kind of Tampa Bay Rays stuff they had, since they are in the MLB playoffs for the first time ever and I wanted a shirt. They didn't have any. Grrrr. I did get DD red sparkly shoes to go with her snow white costume and myself a halloween "good witch" shirt.

Cheers Everyone!

Awww, we will have to see pictures. Target is a must. Always.

Hi All and thanks for the good wishes. I am slowly turning the corner and getting out of this funk...but not quite there yet.

Progress. Good.

LOVE it! Your team looks like it has a lot of fun women! I am so glad for you that you have this team and this league!


Agree.


First, OMG on the 3.8!!! You SO SO SO f'ing rock! Goddess crown, natch!

As for the storybook life...this bounced around in my head a lot today. (And no, it didn't annoy me ) You know, I really do have it good. I do. And I need to remember that. Like, we do the stuff that people say "no families really act like that". We do. We have family game night at least once a week. On Sundays in the winter we make a fire in the fireplace in the living room and all play charades and laugh hysterically. (Lest you think this is Leave it to Beaver-esque, you also should realize that after each round J and I go into the other room and do a tequila shot! )

And yeah, we are an LL Bean family...we hike and camp and surf and all of that healthy-family-laughing-in-the-great-outdoors-crap.

And Lyz was right...J does all of the dishes and all of the laundry. I don't know any other husband/father who does as much around the house as he does. Of course, I do more than my share as well, but still...it is very equitable.

All of this is leading up to me realizing that I need to stop whining! I mean, really! No, my life isn't perfect. And even though my husband does all of the laundry, he is far from perfect as well. But if I can stop being self-absorbed long enough, I can see how good my life really is. This is totally helping me de-funkify and put crap in perspective. So thanks Lyz and Liz.

And as a P.S.--I have no problem with kids watching tv once in a while, so please don't anyone think I was judging parenting based on something like that. It is more that...part of my funk is that I feel like I am not as in touch with my kids and their lives as I should be. But I think that is just because we have just finished the first month of school and it is an adjustment after being with them 24/7 all summer.

Well, you are certainly allowed to whine. You can't be go go go, positive positive positive all the time. At some point things will feel heavy.

Last night we did Q&A at dinner. (just 1 like and 1 dislike, gotta start small). I started with Madeline, whose eyes sparkled at the question. Molli was like, "are you gonna ask me" cause it's all about fair at 12. And daddy said, "what, did you watch Oprah today?" It was fun.

I just re-worked my exercise schedule and I am pretty psyched about it. Adding lots of different stuff:

Monday - 5 mile run; modified upper body weight training (not as complete as the upper body routine later in the week); 15 minutes of core
Tuesday - 4 mile run; weight training--full leg work-out (hams, quads, adductors, abductors); 15 minutes of core
Wednesday - cross-train cardio 45-60 minutes (bike until it gets too cold, then elliptical), followed by full upper body workout (bis, tris, chest, back, and shoulders); 15 minutes of core
Thursday - the long run. Tomorrow I will start with 5.5 miles and gradually build for my next half in January. May or may not do core afterwards. Likely not.
Friday - cardio boxing (which is also upper body); full leg workout as above; 15 minutes of core.
Saturday - tempo run (usually about 3 miles...these runs are for building speed, so it is not about the distance); optional core workout if I missed one earlier in the week.
Sunday - rest

zzzzzzz

I'm kidding. You are the bomb. The engine here. You probably do 45% of the exercise that happens here.

Let's see I have writers cramp and I have never ever used my Middle initial more than I did to day! The house is MINEwell not really it is the banks but I can' say it is mine!!!

Steph, Yaaay! And buying a house now. That's a good thing.

Ok so the house is officially OURS now and I have all sets of Key's and let's see my room is empty except for my bed. This is including my clothes Stephen took it upon himself to bring all my stuff to the house! So now to get dressed I have to drive 5 miles across town!

Yikes! Did you want him to do this?

In other news Sam went for her first physical therapy session today on her knee, her therapist thinks she may have a torn ALC are at the least it is stretched so bad that he leg is unstable, so I will be calling the pediatrician in the am to have us set up with the orthopedist to get his prospective on it!

Whatever happened with the blood work Sam had to give a couple weeks ago?

Oh and Kat Sam's PT is a hockey Player too she plays for a league in Canada.. She lives up there ![/SIZE][/COLOR][/FONT]

You are just saying this now?

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

PMS! See, I was right. Chocolate would have helped.

Regarding the challenge. I have nothing to report. Same.

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Where the heck is everyone at?

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Where are we? Well, I went for a 3 mile walk in the FREEZING COLD. (It's 53 degrees. Not summer anymore. I am not pleased.)

EriKa is on a school field trip, where they all wear matching LL Bean anoraks. OMG, what if they DO???

After my walk i went grocery shopping and I was one of those women with the cart piled high that you look at and are like, for real? Who is going to eat all the food, lady?

Okay, gotta go unpack 8,000 things and shower and then I will sit down and catch up!

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Hey Dan,

I have been thinking about your post a few pages back. I've stopped unpacking groceries and sat down here to type this out to you, because I so believe it to be true.

You asked a good question, about difficult relationships, and your kids. In my book, Dan, the best gift a dad can give his girls is respect for their mother. No matter what has transpired between you and she, she is still the mother of your children. And those children are girls, and they look to their dad, consciously or unconsciously, for cues on how men should treat women. They will base their knowledge and choices on you, their greatest example.

So even though it is hard, even though you have been hurt, even though you feel attacked, show your ex wife respect. Whatever she says in front of those girls of yours shows her character, not yours. Be loving when you want to be hateful, and silent when you want to attack back. They will not think, my dad is weak, or my dad is what my mom says about him. They will grow to adulthood, and think, my dad treated my mom well even when my mom treated my dad badly; thus, men should treat me with kindness and respect.


You can discuss what their mom says with them later, privately. You can ask them how it makes them feel, and share your feelings. You can ask them if they want to know what you think about what their mom says. Open dialogue. In this way, you can address it without attacking back. Think of how relieved they will be to have an adult who calmly discusses feelings and issues without defending themselves or posturing. When you are in the right, you have no need to defend yourself. When you are in the wrong, you own it. This is an amazing example and a set of tools for living and communication your girls will not get elsewhere.


That's my 2 cents, for what it's worth.


Okay, back to the groceries!

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Liz. That was excellent advice. Excellent. I am in awe of your critical thinking.

You were unpacking for 40 minutes! You did get a bunch.

Good for your walk. I am enjoying the brisk air. Em was with wasn't she.

My younger sister and I went for a 5 mile bike ride. (on the flood wall, Liz.) Which I am so SO thankful she called. I was so tired this morning. I didn't walk on the treadmill and felt like a slug. She called. Voila, I'm back in the game. And it was fun.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Hey Dan,

In my book, Dan, the best gift a dad can give his girls is respect for their mother. No matter what has transpired between you and she, she is still the mother of your children. And those children are girls, and they look to their dad, consciously or unconsciously, for cues on how men should treat women. They will base their knowledge and choices on you, their greatest example.

So even though it is hard, even though you have been hurt, even though you feel attacked, show your ex wife respect. Whatever she says in front of those girls of yours shows her character, not yours. Be loving when you want to be hateful, and silent when you want to attack back. They will not think, my dad is weak, or my dad is what my mom says about him. They will grow to adulthood, and think, my dad treated my mom well even when my mom treated my dad badly; thus, men should treat me with kindness and respect.

This is truly the best post in all 400+ pages of this thread. It is so true. Your girls will look to you as an example of how men should treat women.

We often hear about the cycle of abuse (and please do not think I am saying that there was physical abuse in your home...I am just pointing out how people get stuck in cycles). A young girl grows up in a house where the father beats the mother. And even as a young child and then a teen, she hates her home life and can't wait to get away from it. And then people are stunned when she grows up and marries an abusive man herself. It is because this is what she knows. It is what she grew up with; and even though horrible, it is her comfort zone because again, it is what she knows.

This pattern extends far beyond physical abuse. It happens with words and verbal abuse, it happens with patterns of disrespect and dishonesty, and it even happens with food. If young girls grow up seeing the male figure in their life being disrespectful to the female figure in their life, then that is what they will seek out (unconsciously) as adult women. Similarly, if they see the adults in their lives medicate their emotions with food, they will do the same. Or if they get "rewarded" with food, then they will continue to reward themselves that way once on their own. And thus the cycle of obesity.

But as Liz said so well--they look to their dad, consciously or unconsciously, for cues on how men should treat women. They will base their knowledge and choices on you, their greatest example.


You are their primary example of how men behave toward women. So when you think about how to act and react to the situations before you, do so with that in mind.

 

[3DisneyKids]

Hey all--

I just found this thread over on the Events and Competition part of the WISH boards. It is all about cycling and I though some of us (ahem, Nancy....) might enjoy joining this group.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=27935224#post27935224

I joined since I am brand new to cycling. And even though I seem to be doing ok, I really have no idea what I am doing. There are some very experienced riders and newcomers alike, so it seems like it will be a great source of information on all things biking.

Yes, today I was a Field Trip Goddess. I swear, whatever they pay elementary school teachers, it is not enough. The patience these people have! But, I went because Cammie wanted me to and it made her happy that I was there, so it was worth it.

Today is supposed to be long run day, but I am going to switch that to the week-end. TOM is really awful today. Since starting this whole exercise thing back in Feb., I have never had to miss a workout due to TOM, but boy, I just have nothing to give today. I feel like I got run over by a truck...achy, sore, and tired as hell. So to run today would be to risk injury. Maybe this evening I will feel strong enough to do a workout dvd or something, but as for now...sheesh. Just staying upright is a challenge.

LisaV--where ya been hiding? Come on out! If you are feeling low, then POST. That is the time to be here, not to disappear. Let us know what is going on with you. Hope all is well. I miss your particular brand of crazy.

LYZ--Glad you liked the dinner conversation thing. And HA! No. I am no Oprah.

Steph--WOO HOO for the move! Yes! This is it! Are you going to sleep there tonight? Are you going to start the renovations right away (getting rid of the wallpaper, etc.)? And when do we get more pics? I know that purchasing your first home can feel overwhelming, but you will be amazed at how quickly you end up with equity in the house, etc. You made a great financial decision....so much better than paying rent.

Any more challenge news before I post the update?

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Hey all--

I just found this thread over on the Events and Competition part of the WISH boards. It is all about cycling and I though some of us (ahem, Nancy....) might enjoy joining this group.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=27935224#post27935224

I joined since I am brand new to cycling. And even though I seem to be doing ok, I really have no idea what I am doing. There are some very experienced riders and newcomers alike, so it seems like it will be a great source of information on all things biking.

Yes, today I was a Field Trip Goddess. I swear, whatever they pay elementary school teachers, it is not enough. The patience these people have! But, I went because Cammie wanted me to and it made her happy that I was there, so it was worth it.

Definately.

Today is supposed to be long run day, but I am going to switch that to the week-end. TOM is really awful today...Just staying upright is a challenge.

Yikes!

LisaV--where ya been hiding? Come on out! If you are feeling low, then POST. That is the time to be here, not to disappear. Let us know what is going on with you. Hope all is well. I miss your particular brand of crazy.

Ha.

LYZ--Glad you liked the dinner conversation thing. And HA! No. I am no Oprah.

So I FINALLY made it to a sports store. They had biking shorts. The pads were super thin. Really, I'd be better of slapping some maxi pads to the outside of my seat. I am going to have to keep looking. Or make something myself. Get some Scholl's gel insoles...

 

[3DisneyKids]

Where the heck is everyone at?

Yeah, that. What she said.

 

[HockeyKat]

Don't feel good.

Throat hurts, body achy, head foggy, and TOM on top of it all.

I want to eat everything not nailed down.

 

[goofyfan-12]

Kat - sorry you are not feeling great.... put the fork down and get well soon....

Hi everyone...

I'm here, just been a busy day at work... Lots of meetings, lots of issues, lots of crap to deal with... OK - does flirting with one of the guys on one crew count as working??? wonder what code on my time sheet that falls under.... Seriously, need to figure out what is going on there... mental note, must find reason to go out and review that part of the jobsite tomorrow... anyways...

I am home tonight doing laundry, packing and getting ready for my trip to Hartford this weekend. (Nancy - I'm coming to your part of the world... I promise not to hit any bikers....kay...) I'll check in from time to time, but I have to get my workout in as well so it may not be until later....

I'll even try to spend some time on AIM (Erika, I know you're shocked, but get up off the floor... fainting does not count as exercise...)

off to eat some dinner and put some laundry in...

talk to you all later,
Paula

 

[lisaviolet]

Particular brand of crazy?????


, she says!!!

 

[3DisneyKids]

So I FINALLY made it to a sports store. They had biking shorts. The pads were super thin. Really, I'd be better of slapping some maxi pads to the outside of my seat. I am going to have to keep looking. Or make something myself. Get some Scholl's gel insoles...

I have an awesome idea for you. They have this new thing. It is called the internet. I understand that you can shop for stuff on there and can find everything and anything you want. One catch though. You have to have a computer.

Ok so that was lame and patronizing. It has been that kind of day. I blame it on TOM.

Don't feel good.

Throat hurts, body achy, head foggy, and TOM on top of it all.

I want to eat everything not nailed down.

Sorry Kat! Feel better soon!

OK - does flirting with one of the guys on one crew count as working??? wonder what code on my time sheet that falls under.... Seriously, need to figure out what is going on there... mental note, must find reason to go out and review that part of the jobsite tomorrow... anyways...

I'll even try to spend some time on AIM (Erika, I know you're shocked, but get up off the floor... fainting does not count as exercise...)

off to eat some dinner and put some laundry in...

talk to you all later,
Paula

Um, ok...flirting. On the job. Details. All of them. Now, please. k?

And sorry, but I will barely be on AIM tonight. Every Thursday I am in online conferences from 9-midnight.

Particular brand of crazy?????


, she says!!!

S'ok. It's a good thing!

 

[lisaviolet]

I just got home from work. I'm doing okay. I've just been swamped with work this week. Which is wonderful - when it rains it pours. Both ESL and my side business - booking travel - Disney.

I haven't posted because I don't have time to talk to everyone. Congratulate everyone on their accomplishments. Say when need be. Etc. etc. And not to talk to everyone and just simply post my stuff - well it makes me feel crappy.

But i'm doing it now.

Anyway, I had a level one, little if any English, this week. Levels one and two and literacy are probably my favourites ( I shudder every time I have a Cdn/Am spelling difference - can we say perfectionist issues?? )

I love this level. It's very fulfilling. Yet is just wipes you too. So my brain is mush.

Anyway, reading all about you guys. Thinking about you.

Lisa

 

[AKASnowWhite]

I am home tonight doing laundry, packing and getting ready for my trip to Hartford this weekend. (Nancy - I'm coming to your part of the world... I promise not to hit any bikers....kay...) I'll check in from time to time, but I have to get my workout in as well so it may not be until later....

Enjoy your time in Hartford....are you actually IN Hartford or somewhere else nearby?

I'll even try to spend some time on AIM (Erika, I know you're shocked, but get up off the floor... fainting does not count as exercise...)

I have an awesome idea for you. They have this new thing. It is called the internet. I understand that you can shop for stuff on there and can find everything and anything you want. One catch though. You have to have a computer.





Sorry Kat! Feel better soon!

Yeah -feel better...

Um, ok...flirting. On the job.

Wait - Paula...does FLIRTING count as exercise?

Most likely no AIM for me...watching the Vice Presidental Debate...

 

[lisaviolet]

Hey Dan,

I have been thinking about your post a few pages back. I've stopped unpacking groceries and sat down here to type this out to you, because I so believe it to be true.

You asked a good question, about difficult relationships, and your kids. In my book, Dan, the best gift a dad can give his girls is respect for their mother. No matter what has transpired between you and she, she is still the mother of your children. And those children are girls, and they look to their dad, consciously or unconsciously, for cues on how men should treat women. They will base their knowledge and choices on you, their greatest example.

So even though it is hard, even though you have been hurt, even though you feel attacked, show your ex wife respect. Whatever she says in front of those girls of yours shows her character, not yours. Be loving when you want to be hateful, and silent when you want to attack back. They will not think, my dad is weak, or my dad is what my mom says about him. They will grow to adulthood, and think, my dad treated my mom well even when my mom treated my dad badly; thus, men should treat me with kindness and respect.


You can discuss what their mom says with them later, privately. You can ask them how it makes them feel, and share your feelings. You can ask them if they want to know what you think about what their mom says. Open dialogue. In this way, you can address it without attacking back. Think of how relieved they will be to have an adult who calmly discusses feelings and issues without defending themselves or posturing. When you are in the right, you have no need to defend yourself. When you are in the wrong, you own it. This is an amazing example and a set of tools for living and communication your girls will not get elsewhere.


That's my 2 cents, for what it's worth.


Okay, back to the groceries!

it. Loved reading it. Just loved the advice Liz.

Liz. That was excellent advice. Excellent. I am in awe of your critical thinking.


.

I know eh Lyz.

Hey all--

Any more challenge news before I post the update?

Erika,

I think I've confused the situation by posting Biggest Loser losses as well. I weighed in today. I'm going to do BL and our challenge on Thursdays to make it easier.

So I"m down another 2.5 this week. So that's 2.5 for BL - 6.6 since I started three weeks ago. Yeah for me!!. I've got to start celebrating. I was watching Workout ( a Bravo show there?) and I sat there and was wowed by someone who lost 24 pounds. I was like wow - my goodness 24 pounds!!! Like I had never seen that anywhere. A huge wow . Which is true. That's great - tremendous.

But it took me a good ten minutes to go - hey wait - you've lost at least 60 pounds ( I hate the scale but I hate that I never knew my starting exactly). It's like I forgot. Forgot that I'd done it too. I'm looking at someone else and thinking wow and not even realizing I've done it too. So weird,eh? I think I just posted a particular brand of crazy!!!!! . Ya baby!!! . Oh gosh - my brain is mush. I've gone delirious on the DIS.

So that's 2.6/5 for our challenge. This is my first weigh in for our challenge. Don't ask. I'm so confusing and can't get to a point.

Don't feel good.

Throat hurts, body achy, head foggy, and TOM on top of it all.

I want to eat everything not nailed down.

Kat.

Kat - sorry you are not feeling great.... put the fork down and get well soon....

Hi everyone...

I'm here, just been a busy day at work... Lots of meetings, lots of issues, lots of crap to deal with... OK - does flirting with one of the guys on one crew count as working??? wonder what code on my time sheet that falls under.... Seriously, need to figure out what is going on there... mental note, must find reason to go out and review that part of the jobsite tomorrow... anyways...

I am home tonight doing laundry, packing and getting ready for my trip to Hartford this weekend. (Nancy - I'm coming to your part of the world... I promise not to hit any bikers....kay...) I'll check in from time to time, but I have to get my workout in as well so it may not be until later....

I'll even try to spend some time on AIM (Erika, I know you're shocked, but get up off the floor... fainting does not count as exercise...)

off to eat some dinner and put some laundry in...

talk to you all later,
Paula

Flirting. Please let me live through you Paula.