In 376 days...

[MainStMandy]

I will be 30 I know everyone handles birthdays differently, some say 30 isn't so bad but 40 is awful...my worst so far has been 27.

30 is just terrifying for me. I know I have a LOT going great in my life but I can't help but think this is not where I thought I'd be...

Anyone else struggle with 30?

 

[Disney1fan2002]

You haven't even turned 29 yet! Relax and enjoy life as it comes. You may not be around to see thirty........

 

[maidenfairy]

Celebrate it! I always say the alternative is a lot worse.

 

[MainStMandy]

You haven't even turned 29 yet! Relax and enjoy life as it comes. You may not be around to see thirty........

Lol gee thanks

I know, trust me...29 isn't coming very easy either. I had some people visiting from out of town last week. They spoke a lot about their grandchildren, which prompted my mother to remind me that she doesn't have any. Needless to say they were all reminding how close I am to 30 and still no kids...

 

[rie'smom]

Is the cup half full or half empty? It's the same with birthdays. Are you glad that you're here and able to celebrate or would you not be here to celebrate?

 

[Cogswel_Cogs]

LIVE LIVE like in 378 days you will be thirty.

 

[NMAmy]

Oh, heavens, that's more than a year away! Enjoy being 29. Heck, my mom was 29 until all three of her children passed that age. She LOVED being 29 a lot, apparently.

I'm 45 and I still haven't hit an age that freaked me out yet. I really enjoyed my 30's and I bet you will, too.

 

[doxdogy]

I'll be 50 in July and I really haven't given it much thought.

 

[John Smith1]

Wow, you're KIDDING right?

You're alive, you're healthy and you're regretting living?

Hang in there, kid. Getting older is part of the deal and it's NOT a bad thing. The bad thing is the stuff we THOUGHT we'd do by such and such an age and we beat ourselves up because we didn't make that criteria.

I was SUPPOSED to be married/with children/own house with white picket fence/won the Oscar... WHATEVER.

Take away the criteria, roll with it and enjoy your life. It's the only one you're dealt. I know it's easier said than done but one day you're gonna WISH for 29 again, and you spent that time unhappy.

Don't do it.

 

[MainStMandy]

Easier said than done...it's not that I don't want to be living...just want everything to slow down!! I just can't believe I am going to be 30...or we'll start with 29 and am where I am in my life. That's all.

 

[redshoes]

I use to think that 30 was old until I turned 30 . Life is alot about enjoying the moment and not wishing for things that have passed or things that are still on the horizon. Easier said than done, I know.
I will honestly tell you that I like being in my 30's. I know who I am, I'm more realistic about what the future holds, and I'm more confident in the person that I have become. Each stage of life holds something different both good and bad and it's all what you make it.

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

Each year that we are alive to celebrate another birthday is a true gift regardless of the number we are turing. I am so thankful that I learned this when I was was 27 and my docs told me that I terminal lung cancer. As it turned out I did have cancer in my lung. Luckily for me it was not terminal. One doc went further to write in his notes, never said to me, that I had only a 20% chance of living five years after diagnosis. I am more than happy to report that I have beaten that.

OP I am sorry that you are having a hard time with this. The only advice I can really give, meant in the very best way, is to get over it and enjoy your life for what it is.

 

[Angelhalo]

YES. I'm sure you'll have plenty of people come in and tell you what a whipper snapper you are, and wait till you hit 40 or 50, or you should look at every day as a blessing and not focus on age BLAH BLAH BLAH ....but I totally understand, AND you have EVERY right to your emotions!!! I will be 30 in 25 days and it is freaking me out!!!! I just got married at 29 whereas I thought I would be done having kids by now and we don't even have one yet. I know that its what God willed but it's something I struggle with that I am not exactly where I thought I'd be in life at 30.

 

[Angelhalo]

Easier said than done...it's not that I don't want to be living...just want everything to slow down!! I just can't believe I am going to be 30...or we'll start with 29 and am where I am in my life. That's all.

I understand. You don't regret your life, you're not moaning about how you'd rather be dead....it's just a feeling that some people get and apparently some people don't. It doesn't make you ungrateful or whiney.

I feel you!

 

[IloveDMB]

Seriously? You're not even 29 yet and you're complaining about turning 30?

Do you know how much I'd give to see some people taken too early even make it to 20? I highly doubt they'd be complaining right now about a silly birthday that's over a year away.

I really don't get it. I get together with friends and family every year and toast the year that was and look forward to the year ahead. Sure there are things I wish would have already happen, but I don't dwell on them, I look forward to them happening.

It's all about a positive attitude.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Lol gee thanks

I know, trust me...29 isn't coming very easy either. I had some people visiting from out of town last week. They spoke a lot about their grandchildren, which prompted my mother to remind me that she doesn't have any. Needless to say they were all reminding how close I am to 30 and still no kids...

Try turning 36 with no prospects.

 

[Angelhalo]

Seriously? You're not even 29 yet and you're complaining about turning 30?

Do you know how much I'd give to see some people taken too early even make it to 20? I highly doubt they'd be complaining right now about a silly birthday that's over a year away.

I really don't get it. I get together with friends and family every year and toast the year that was and look forward to the year ahead. Sure there are things I wish would have already happen, but I don't dwell on them, I look forward to them happening.

It's all about a positive attitude.

Ouch.

Not everyone is the same. What a lame world it would be if we were. Clearly some people have issues with ages and where they thought they would be at that point in their lives. Clearly some NEVER have these feelings. There is nothing wrong with it either way. I never saw the OP saying that she regretted her life or that she is ungrateful for being alive. People are allowed to have anxieties. Sheesh.

 

[C.Ann]

I'm 59 now - and for some reason, "30" was very, very hard for me.. Not sure why.. Maybe way back then I considered 30 "old" - LOL - but somehow I managed to get through it..

Could it be that you're worried about your "biological clock" ticking? Are you worried about your career choice? Is there something you want to do, but somehow you feel "30" will be too "old" to do it?

Sounds like you're having an inner struggle.. Might be a good time to spend the next year examining where it is you want to be in life and what you have to do to get there..

One thing is for sure.. You will survive it!

 

[C.Ann]

Seriously? You're not even 29 yet and you're complaining about turning 30?

Do you know how much I'd give to see some people taken too early even make it to 20? I highly doubt they'd be complaining right now about a silly birthday that's over a year away.

I really don't get it. I get together with friends and family every year and toast the year that was and look forward to the year ahead. Sure there are things I wish would have already happen, but I don't dwell on them, I look forward to them happening.

It's all about a positive attitude.

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Geez.. That's kind of harsh, don't you think? I lost my DH in 2005 after a 10+ year battle with cancer and a multitude of other health problems - then my youngest brother was killed in 2006 in an motorcycle accident.. My mom is in a nursing home - and doesn't know who any of us are anymore.. One of my dearest friends lost her long, long battle with ovarian cancer on Nov. 24th.. We all have people in our lives that were taken "too early" - however, that doesn't make other peoples "feelings" not valid - or something that should be brushed aside as silly or negative..

A positive attitude is a wonderful thing - but when you're "down" (no matter what the reason) - you can't always magically pull it out of a hat..

The OP came here to vent a little and share her concerns - not get chastized because there are other things in the world that are so much worse..

I'm sure that even you have had times when you were "down" about something that others wouldn't consider "earth shattering".. I really don't understand your harsh response.. Or maybe I read it wrong?

 

[C.Ann]

Ouch.

Not everyone is the same. What a lame world it would be if we were. Clearly some people have issues with ages and where they thought they would be at that point in their lives. Clearly some NEVER have these feelings. There is nothing wrong with it either way. I never saw the OP saying that she regretted her life or that she is ungrateful for being alive. People are allowed to have anxieties. Sheesh.

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Okay.. Looks like you read that response the same way I did - as being rather harsh..

I agree with everything you said..