I'm so upset - prayers please

[Cool-Beans]

He will have a lot of explaining to do regarding his son being born 7 months after his wedding to his mother, as well as his ex not being married to the father of his older "son".

I think I need more explaining here.

I hope you and your husband are able to work this out. Dragging children into fights is just so mean and cruel. You don't hurt a child in order to "get back" at their parent.

 

[dcentity2000]

for you!



Rich::

 

[Wishing on a star]

Yasmina,

As you sort thru this, always remember, for the sake of your daughters, that these kinds of words and actions on the part of your DH are having a very very important impact on your daughters!!! The will accept behavior and treatment from men that they have learned from their father.

This isn't only about you. It is also about your children.

 

[yasmina]

Yasmina,

As you sort thru this, always remember, for the sake of your daughters, that these kinds of words and actions on the part of your DH are having a very very important impact on your daughters!!! The will accept behavior and treatment from men that they have learned from their father.

This isn't only about you. It is also about your children.

OMG you are so right. I just went into another 10 minute crying jag.

 

[hentob]

OMG you are so right. I just went into another 10 minute crying jag.

Sweetie, take a deep breath. Drink a glass of water to hydrate yourself and then try and get some sleep.

We'll be here in the morning for you

 

[Wishing on a star]

Ohhhh, I am so sorry!!

I know you are so upset and emotional right now... and that is okay!!! But, please know that I didn't mean to make you cry.

You all will get thru this..
It will work out okay!!!

 

[nhrenee]

I'm sorry he hurt you Hope everything works out for you.

 

[Buckalew11]

I'm sorry you are going through this tonight also. How dare him say such a thing in front of your children.
Has he ever been this mean before? Sending you a hug and I will say prayers for you all. Our pasts are just that...past. What a hurtful thing to bring up and what a crude way to say it. I really am sorry.

 

[yasmina]

Ohhhh, I am so sorry!!

I know you are so upset and emotional right now... and that is okay!!! But, please know that I didn't mean to make you cry.

You all will get thru this..
It will work out okay!!!

I know that, it's ok.

Sometime tonight I will eventually get some sleep.

 

[chisnpeke]

First and foremost him saying that in front of your children, is completely and totally inappropriate. You could have had 100 abortions and what he said in front of them is worse.

And last time I checked, abortion is legal and YOUR choice. You werent with him, so its absolutely none of his damn business.

Its an incredibly difficult decision to make, and for anyone to think you just woke up one morning, realized you were pregant and said "Gee, I think Ill go to the 'baby butcher' today" is asinine.

And today youre a wonderful mother - so him saying that would have gotten him a nice slap across the face, had he been my husband. But Im not calm, cool or collected.

What he said was wrong.... dont you dare feel bad,

Well said. I completely agree. If it were my husband, he wouldn't be in bed, he would be the one on the couch. I don't care if it was in the heat of the moment or not, he said that and it was a disgusting thing to say. to you.

 

[yasmina]

ugh, he just came down and tried to rub my feet. then he said "are you going to be down here all night?" I said "probably" He stomped upstairs and slammed the bedroom door.

 

[disykat]

More hugs and more prayers coming your way. Regardless of anyone's feelings on abortion, what he said tonight was said to specifically hurt you and your daughters. He picked the thing to say that he knew would hurt you ALL the most. I'm furious at him for you!

 

[Nynaeve]

I'm so sorry, what an awful thing for him to say. My thoughts are with you.

 

[chisnpeke]

ugh, he just came down and tried to rub my feet. then he said "are you going to be down here all night?" I said "probably" He stomped upstairs and slammed the bedroom door.

What in the world? He's acting like a child.

 

[cuterlt]

I'm sorry your husband said such hurtful things. I'm hopeful that you'll be able to communicate better tomorrow. I agree with those who said to talk to him about how much his comments hurt you and hurt your children.
Take good care of yourself, and hopefully things will work out.

 

[CathrynRose]

What in the world? He's acting like a child.

He's acting like a drunk.

You should'a kicked him when he was rubbing your feet.

***sorry - my sense of humor is warped***

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

I'm very sorry that your dh and you fought so badly especially in front of the kids. You're dh said some very hurtful things and hopefully you both can get past it.

It's hard to give you advice because its only one sided but you and your dh seem to hold onto things about each other and bring up when angry. You've mentioned several times about him with his sons. You both need to talk about your past and what's acceptible and what's not. No offence to your dds but its really not their business if you had an abortion, if your dh has a son born shortly after he married, and that he has a son that isn't really his. Your dds should learn these things only with the understanding that people aren't perfect and make mistakes. Things are so much better these days rather than having to hide those things. What your dh said about the abortion was deplorable, but its legal and its an action that you felt you needed to do. You did nothing wrong. Your dds should now that its an option that is available to them if someday they should need it.

Good luck with things, you too have been together a long time to just throw things away. I hope you get some rest & I hope your dd's party is lots of fun.

 

[diznygirl]

Sometimes the only "why" something is said is just to hurt. He knew something about you that he could throw at you to cause pain. And he used it.

I agree that he needs to do some serious groveling - hope it's sincere and you guys can move past this.

 

[Miss Park Avenue]

I'm so sorry. Having seperated from a difficult marriage for over a year now, I know how painful these kinds of fights can be. My divorce will finally be final a week from now (if everything goes smooth). But I remember well so many fights that left me wondering if my marriage was over. The pain is so bad.

What he said was terribly hurtful. Half a case of beer in him or not, there's just no excuse. If he gets nasty when he's been drinking, then maybe it's time to give up alcohol JMO.

 

[yasmina]

Fortunately, the fight wasn't in front of the kids - only the comment was (about the baby butcher), which some day I'll have to explain to them. I didn't light into him until the girls had left for church with my sister.

I'm still so angry that I'm torn between throwing the computer across the room (talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face!) and kicking him in the you-know-whats.

But with your strength and wisdom, by morning I'm sure to know exactly what to do.

Please keep the opinions coming, they are so helpful!