If you were single, would you consider Craigslist to find a date?

[BeachGirlFLA]

From what I have heard about Craigslist people, (present company excepted) they are a very special kind of stranger. It amazes me the number of people that will get a roommate from that site.

That's where I got my roommate and he and his dogs (especially the dogs ) are wonderful.

 

[10_Kyle_10]

Ive met a few people from there but I have to say in all honesty all of them were "different". Everyone on there was extremely open and willing to meet ASAP which I wasn't given the situation (keep in mind these were girls not guys). On a related note other friends of mine have met some people on there that have worked out into relationships.

 

[mickilee]

i knew my Xboyfriend always posted stuff on craiglist.. I busted him posting on there for more then just equipment. I knew from his style of typing.. and his facebook pix.. Kicked him to the curb fast.
Someone that knows him , sends me a email once in awhile.... "You have to check this out".. and they give the link..

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Though, one fellow mentioned that he wasn't good enough to sign on for eharmony. I wonder if there is an income minimum for those dating sites.

I don't think there's an income minimum, but I do know people who were considered "unmatchable" by eharmony.

I would never consider dating someone that needed one of these services to find a date...

That's kind of harsh.

It's not always easy finding dates in other ways. The majority of my friends are married and have kids and just don't know a lot of single people to match me up with. So "needing" one of those services isn't a reflection on the person using it.

I'm not a very trusting person, and I have a hard time looking at pictures and saying "oh yeah, I'd like him". That's just not me. So internet dating wouldn't work for me just for that reason. But I don't understand why people look at it badly.

That being said, I didn't even know people used Craigslist for that!

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

...It's not always easy finding dates in other ways. The majority of my friends are married and have kids and just don't know a lot of single people to match me up with. So "needing" one of those services isn't a reflection on the person using it.

I'm not a very trusting person, and I have a hard time looking at pictures and saying "oh yeah, I'd like him". That's just not me. So internet dating wouldn't work for me just for that reason. But I don't understand why people look at it badly.

That being said, I didn't even know people used Craigslist for that!

If they are married and have kids, they wouldn't need the service, right?

Seriously, people with good personalities have tons of friends and can utilize that network to find dates. I know a bunch of people that use on-line dating services, and they need to because they have major personality flaws. Some of them have recounted some of their arranged dates and the people that they meet are even more messed up.

I think that I would rather stay single. I have too many foibles of my own. I wouldn't know what to do with someone WORSE than me (if such a person exists )...

 

[toddlers_mom]

I know that people really meet other people through these services, but I just don't get it. I would never consider dating someone that needed one of these services to find a date...

I don't think its a matter of "needing" them, its just more convenient. As a single parent who is a full time student...its hard for me to meet people in the real world sometimes. About once a year I reactivate my match.com subscription to see who's out there. I'm also a sissy and won't approach an attractive man

And I don't have major personality flaws I also don't like asking my friends to "hook me up" even though they have at times. I prefer to do it on my own.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

A co-worker of mine uses Craigslist to meet men. She plays by a few rules she has set for herself. She never says she's looking for a relationship or romance. She usually has something specific like "looking for someone to play tennis with," or "looking for someone who is interested in a particular film festival" etc. She gives a gmail address with a very anonymous address instead of her regular e-mail address. If the person who responds sounds OK, she will communicate with him on e-mail for a few days. She never gives out her phone number and only uses her first name if she agrees to meet him. If she doesn't want to meet the person, she'll say so politely on e-mail before giving him her name. She only agrees to meet in very public places, like a Starbuck's, preferably during daylight hours. If she has a good feeling about the guy and they agree to go on a date (or play tennis, etc.) she will arrange to meet him and still doesn't say where she lives.

After the first date, she might give him her phone number if she thinks they'll continue seeing each other. She met her current "friend" by placing an ad for someone who was interested in seeing a particular play. They totally hit it off and have been dating for 2 months. She says she's not ready to call him her boyfriend yet but she will be very soon! By the way, this woman is 62 years old! She's met some duds before but chalks that up to experience!

 

[SandrA9810]

i've met people off the internet a few times. I used to chat in local AIM chat rooms, and met some one in real life a while later.
my biggest thing, was i flew to Canada to meet some one from a gaming forum. We chatted for about a year... And on the phone for months before i flew to meet him. My aunt was more terrified than i was, she even called the local police department to ask about him. He was from a small town, worked on the radio, and his father was a well known person. It worked out great... Except i don't suggest a native floridian go to northern canada in the dead of winter.

I also used craig's list to find a room-mate. She was coming on the college program, but had two cats so she couldn't be in disney housing. I was desperate at that point to find some one so we could get our own place again. And well it's worked out nicely.


i have a strange belief in, if it was meant to be it will happen, no matter what precautions you take. Like if a theif really wanted to break into your car, it'd only take him two seconds to jimmy it. Doesn't matter if you lock your doors.

What makes a person different online than a random stranger on the street??

 

[arielsleepingbeauty]

Try these:
www.plentyoffish.com
www.bookofmatches.com

When I was divorced, i didn't knwo where to meet someone. I didnt want the bar scene and I work with mostly women. Not many prospects to find a guy. I joined(and paid for) match.com, eharmony, and yahoo personals. There were many of the same guys that were on Plentyoffish.com which is a free site. I met my DBF of almost 3 years on Plentyoffish and we are so much in love. If i would have known beforehand, i wouldn't have had to pay for any of them to find a great guy.
I see nothign wrong with Craigslist. I guarantee there will be many of the same guys. But with any site (paid or not) , you need to be careful. Any stranger is a reason to be cautious. You need to just follow your intuition if something doesn't feel right. You don't give out any identifying information at the start.
My DBF and I emailed for 2 weeks, then talked on the phone for 2 weeks before meeting. We met for lunch at a coffee shop. I had my friends come in about 5 minutes after me and sit at another table. When the date was over we left separately. Then we tried an evening dinner. It worked out great from that date on.

 

[KramBerries]

Single...no. If I lived in a small town and had a spouse that traveled a lot, that might be another story.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

If they are married and have kids, they wouldn't need the service, right?

No silly... I didn't mean that they would need the service. I meant that I have a great personality... I'm fun to be with. But everyone I know is attached and have been for so long that they don't know single people to set me up with. I'm shy... until you get to know me. Then I don't shut up. LOL.

I think I'm the kind of person these services were created for, not because there's anything wrong with me but because I don't have a wealth of other single people to chose from. But I'm just not willing to use them.

 

[C.Ann]

Probably not - and I'm even "iffy" with eHarmony and such places.. But - my brother met his GF through an online dating service and they have been happily attached at the hip for around 9 years now.. They were both in their 50's when they met (my brother was divorced, she was a widow).. The only reason they haven't married is due to finances and both of them having adult children.. Although they do co-mingle their money in certain areas, in other areas it's "his" and "hers"..

 

[PebblesMK]

Anytime I might be tempted to consider it, I'll think of the guy who wanted to find a "freind" for some quality NOOD SKYDIVING, and I'll just say no.

You know you're jealous of whoever decided to be nood with him. Nood at Noodles....Nood in the air...he was funny, wasnt he? Amazingly, he disappeared his posts....


ETA~ Hahahah, "he disappeared his posts". I'm thinking he has taken over my thought process and I'm no longer capable of proof reading my posts.

 

[krcit]

Single...no. If I lived in a small town and had a spouse that traveled a lot, that might be another story.