If I hear "You're having a THIRD? Are you CRAZY??" again I am gonna SCREAM!!

[rt2dz]

Just another congratulations and more support here.

We have 3 also--DS5, DS2, DS5months. Planning in #4 too, start trying at the end of this year. I actually found out closer in age is easier on me. Around here about 1/2 have 3, but as a pp said people start making the "nuts" type comments at the thought of 4.

What really drove me insane, were all the people who think it is because we're trying for a girl. What a lousy reason to have a baby. If you are going to have a child, you'd better do so because you want a child and not because you are hoping for a gender (which there is a good chance you won't get). Besides, I LOVE having all boys and would be just fine without a DD, not that a girl wouldn't be as wanted & loved, but you get the idea.

You just need to ignore those idiots. You just need to do what you do well.

 

[Christy93]

We have 3 boys-2, 4 and 6. We heard all sorts of comments when we announced out third . We can afford them, so who cares what other people think??? We wouldn't have it any other way. Our boys get along with each other well and we really are one big happy family!


Congrats!

 

[Kath2003]

I'm one of three. I was 4 and a half when my littlest sister was born; my other sister was two. Three kids under five...my Mum's a brave lady

When my Mum rang my Aunt to tell her that she'd had the baby and it was also a girl, she said, "Oh, never mind, I'm sure she'll be lovely" as if my mother wanted a boy! Mum didn't care what she had, so long as the baby was healthy.

My poor youngest sister had hand-me-downs which had been through both me and my other sister! She accumulated three times as many toys, though

Having three is only a pain a few times a year because yes, everything is centered around families of four. We always had to have a rollaway in hotels when we were younger and there's no way we can cope in confined spaces these days!

My Mum still cries when both me and my sister leave for University - her as a first year, me as a finalist. She says the house feels so empty without us there - just my parents and my youngest sister.

 

[Selket]

I have just 2 kids and we decided that was enough but I'm the 3rd of my parents' 3 children! What's wrong with three anyway? I was apparently a surprise for my parents too! My brothers were teenagers when I was born (I'm an October birthday too!).

When I had just one kid I thought one was fine - then two seemed good....I think it is totally your personal business. And congrats!

 

[kerry34]

Some people make me laugh. I dont know why it is a big deal really. I got my share of comments in the past. Once I was in walmart with my five. At the time my twins were 4 months old, other kids, 7, 5,4. A woman looked at me with a look of disgust and said "better you than me", and she wasnt nice about it. I looked at her and said "Yeah god must have thought the same thing". It wasnt like my kids were misbehaving or anything, they were just standing next to me at the checkout. Go figure!

Anyway, enough about me....Congrats to you OP!

 

[DisneyPhD]

Congtats on your pregnancy, I wish you a happy healthy baby!
I have 4 children 3 boys:12, 11 and 5 and a 1yo baby girl.
The little girl was a "Surprise" baby but she is one of the best surprises of my life. I tell almost no one that she was not 100% planned.
Like most have said I think we've heard it all.

That was my family growing up. I was the suprize baby girl at the end.
My brothers were 10, 8, 6 years older then me. (my mom turned 41 the week before I was born.) I was actaully surprized when my 1st child was a daugther, then really surprized when my 2nd was too. I fully expected to have to go through a few boys until I got a girl (given my family history.)

As the youngest child and only girl I had quite a life growing up. I was either picked on and picked apart, or very protected (from others, not my brothers.) However as an adult my brothers are some of my best friends now. Actually one of my brothers has 3 children and is a widdower so I often has his 3 kids along with mine. I tend to get that kind of comments about knowing what causes it and so forth, but so far only 2 of them are techically mine! (I still need a mini van though, the older kids make great baby sitters and are great help!)

I always feel a special conection with someone with 3 boys and a baby girl!

 

[PaulaSue]

Join the club! I heard it all the time.

Great Club by the way.

Conograts!!!!

 

[HappyLawyer]

well i would say are you crazy but since you don't want to hear that i will say CONGRATS, i have 5 4 of which are foster kids, and people tell me i am crazy right before they tell me i am going to heaven, anyway, hey, how about twins for you? That would be cool, yes i am crazy good luck

 

[rt2dz]

Some people make me laugh. I dont know why it is a big deal really. I got my share of comments in the past. Once I was in walmart with my five. At the time my twins were 4 months old, other kids, 7, 5,4. A woman looked at me with a look of disgust and said "better you than me", and she wasnt nice about it. I looked at her and said "Yeah god must have thought the same thing". It wasnt like my kids were misbehaving or anything, they were just standing next to me at the checkout. Go figure!

Anyway, enough about me....Congrats to you OP!

 

[pigletof4]

We are acutally expecting number 3 (not planned) and people asked if I was nuts. I actually can't wait for the baby to come. My other two will be 5 & 7 when this one is born in July, but I don't think I am going for #4.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I've heard, "3 is the new 2. " also. I'd love to have 3.

 

[Kath2003]

I've heard, "3 is the new 2. " also. I'd love to have 3.

In the UK, 1 is the new 2. The trend has fallen from 2.4 children per couple to 1.8 per couple in the past twenty years...I don't babysit for any families with more than two children, whereas many of my friends are one of three, four or even five!

 

[OceanAnnie]

In the UK, 1 is the new 2. The trend has fallen from 2.4 children per couple to 1.8 per couple in the past twenty years...I don't babysit for any families with more than two children, whereas many of my friends are one of three, four or even five!

1 is the new 2 in the UK?! I didn't know that. I wonder why the trend has fallen.

 

[Kath2003]

1 is the new 2 in the UK?! I didn't know that. I wonder why the trend has fallen.

Yeah. I'm a geographer. We know these things People don't want to have loads of kids - it's hard work! When I was born, only 20 years ago, many parents gave up work so either Mum or Dad was at home to bring up baby. Certainly when I was at school, most people had a parent who didn't work but looked after the children. Now many people want to continue with their careers after having a child - childcare is expensive, so they tend to have fewer children. All bar one of the families I sit for have both parents working...which kinda makes me think I should charge more than £10 an evening

 

[PrincessasMommy]

Another supporter here!

Mom to 3 perfectly planned girls!

People thought I was crazy for different reasons, our oldest is legally blind due to a genetic condition that we have a 1 in 4 chance of passing on. We waited 7 years to ensure we could finacially provide for anothr special needs child, just in case. When #2 was healthy we decided to get pregnant again right away because we didn't want another huge gap; they are 17 months apart and the littlest one is also perfectly healthy.

People often make rude comments to me, even my own family thinks I am insane. 2 is the normal number around here.

This is my take - I am glad they have just 1 or 2 children because I wouldn't want them to be so rude and have the responsibility of role-modeling for too many children!

I am soo bad I know but really, on such a personal subject as your children and your sex life, how dare people feel that they can comment!

People often ask if we are trying for that boy - I sometimes tell them "I am going home right now to work on it!" Sure shuts them up! LOL!

 

[triplefigs]

Congratulations! We are the proud parents to three children (2 boys/1 girl), and it is wonderful. But talk about comments when you have three ALL AT ONCE !!!!!!!!

 

[Jennasmomma]

first of all....congratulations to all of you on all of your babies!

I get comments because I have one. Keep in mind Im a single parent! I get asked when Im having another one. When I say Im not, I get comments about how cruel it is to make my dd to be an only child. No one to play with, and when Im gone (how morbid) she wont have anyone.

I shut them up with comments like "oh yeah..I'll run out and have enough so she has a playmate. Or...I could have 10 kids...doesnt mean she'd get along with them all later in life. Shuts them up

I always said I wanted one and was told I could have any! My dd had other plans ehehe

 

[grlpwrd]

Congrats to all you expectant moms!

We have 5 kids and because dh works out of state I take the kids with me on errands and we sometimes hear the typical comments..."Are they all your's? You do know what causes that, right? You finally got your boy!" etc. ack!

I don't really mind "you really have your hands full" because that is not as rude to me.

 

[java]

Proud mom of 4 here. And get ready for the Are they ALL yours? comments. Although I think at 3 you are pretty safe..The 4th put us into the BIG family patrol. Even DH noticed that we have other BIG families talking to us and in our lives we joked that it is like we walked into some secret club- not exactly walked.....
Congratualtions on your 3rd and good luck! It will be fine.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

We are acutally expecting number 3 (not planned) and people asked if I was nuts. I actually can't wait for the baby to come. My other two will be 5 & 7 when this one is born in July, but I don't think I am going for #4.

Our children are exactly the same years apart. Our 3rd was a huge surprise.

My DS3's preschool teacher said at his conference that she can certainly tell he has older siblings. He will "not" play with preschool toys. He loves Stars Wars, G.I. Joes and Jurassic Park dinosaurs. (Hand me downs from brother)

Lori