If I hear "You're having a THIRD? Are you CRAZY??" again I am gonna SCREAM!!

[Grendalynn]

What a week it has been! DH and I recently found out that we are expecting Dear Child#3 in October. Being cautious and doing the whole "dont tell anyone tile the 3rd month thing". we have waited til about 8 wks before telling our friends, Family and co-workers. But Honestly - If I hear one more, "Oh My God! You are having a 3rd Child!!?? Are you Crazy?" again, I am going to scream!! Or Punch someone in the nose! LOL Most say Congratulations and mean it, but others say it 'cause their supposed to and look at me like I have 3 heads!!

DS#1 is 7 in April and DS#2 is 3 next week - Those are pretty spread out and managable!! Is it that absurd to have 3 children in this day and age?? All children were/are planned I might add - And whose business is it to tell me what is socially acceptable and whats not? I am beside myself !! With that being said - Have any Mothers or Fathers out there also experienced this type of thing? I am exasperated!! Sorry for the ranting and raving, but HELP!!

 

[huey duey & luey]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have 3 and I think it is wonderful

 

[lulugirl]

I would love to have a third child!
I think anyone who asks "are you crazy"....is really quite rude.

 

[mantysk8coach]

I think three kids is perfectly normal, especially that spread out! We are planning on having three also, and if things go according to plan, about the same age span.

People just don't think before they speak sometimes. Or they think they are trying to be funny...

Congratulations!

 

[DisneyMomx7]

You think that's bad - try having seven! A third child will be a wonderful addition to your family. I had four children and thought I was done. I had cancer and a year of chemo and the doctor told me I wouldn't have any more children - surprise!!! I was 39 when I found out I was pregnant with my fifth and there were 12 years between number 4 and number 5. People definitely thought I was crazy. They thought I was even more crazy when we had number 6 and 7 but we didn't want our dd to feel like an only child with such a large age spread between #4 and her. We can't imagine our lives without the last three and people definitely thought we were crazy.

 

[MOMOFMNM]

we have three...

and want to have a 4th one day!!!!

we love kids!! I can not believe some people!!

seriously, sometimes the third seems to be a lot because we have a "spare" KWIM???

That is why we may add on who knows!!

congrats on the third baby!!

I do not know why people have an aversion to larger families these days... but we LOVE ours and would not change it for the world

 

[Becky2005]

Congratulations!!

Wait until you get to baby #4. LOL! Not too many even blink an eye about #3 around here but once you hit #4 you get the occasional comment (which I'm sure are the same ones you have gotten for having #3 - having 1 boy & 1 girl - made having #3 also an *occasional* comment but not too bad around here.)

 

[LauraAnn630]

Its really none of there business! I know people that have 6 or more kids. Its a personal choice. A baby is always a blessing! I think we need to worry more about the millions of abortions! Pray for the unborn!



I think what people are really trying to saying is...

Thats A LOT of...


proms

graduation parties

weddings and receptions

college tuitions

and work in general!!!

We all know how much money it takes to raise children! We chose not to have anymore children because we wanted to make sure we could give to 2 children we have the best of everything.

 

[hopesmommy]

I only have one child and am exhausted watching her. I admire anyone that can handle more than one. I am happy for you! I thought I wanted more. Sometimes I still do. If we do, we will adopt.

 

[pigget74]

Congratulations-----We were shocked when we found out about number 3 but, I cannot imagine my life without him. People did out right ask us if he was planned because of the age span--11, 8, and now 5mths. Our friends laughed and asked if he was our souvie from Disney---that would have been great, but no. Every person has what they invision as the perfect number for their family-and then can't believe other people would want more or less-we are even considering having number 4 just because of the age difference. If you are happy then don't let it get to you.

 

[marcyinPA]

What a week it has been! DH and I recently found out that we are expecting Dear Child#3 in October. Being cautious and doing the whole "dont tell anyone tile the 3rd month thing". we have waited til about 8 wks before telling our friends, Family and co-workers. But Honestly - If I hear one more, "Oh My God! You are having a 3rd Child!!?? Are you Crazy?" again, I am going to scream!! Or Punch someone in the nose! LOL Most say Congratulations and mean it, but others say it 'cause their supposed to and look at me like I have 3 heads!!

DS#1 is 7 in April and DS#2 is 3 next week - Those are pretty spread out and managable!! Is it that absurd to have 3 children in this day and age?? All children were/are planned I might add - And whose business is it to tell me what is socially acceptable and whats not? I am beside myself !! With that being said - Have any Mothers or Fathers out there also experienced this type of thing? I am exasperated!! Sorry for the ranting and raving, but HELP!!

We've actually been talking about going for #3. My two are quite a bit older though: I have two DS's ages 11 (in May) and 7 (in May).

That "What are you thinking" response is one of the things that scares me. My family doesn't hold back on their opinions, and they thought I was crazy for having 2.

I'd go for it anyway, but I'm very nervous about my age (38 in June) and finances (always finances!)

I wish you the best of luck!! Happy and healthy 9 months!!

 

[princessjv]

Congrats! It seems that 'everyone' is having 3 lately! I keep hearing "3 is the new 2"! We, too are planning for 3, but not for a few years (we are going for a similar spacing of ages to yours).

Maybe next time you tell someone that you are prego, with #3, make a statement like, "We are so excited! We are pregnant with #3. And NO we are not crazy, we just have a lot more room in our lives to love another beautiful child!"

Good Luck and congrats!

 

[jennafo3]

I get the same comments all the time and I'm pregnant with our 4th!!! Our children (all girls) are 6,4, and 2 and the question I get most (after, wow, you're crazy) is "wow, gotta try for that boy, huh?? as if my family wouldn't be complete without a boy (don't get me wrong, boys are great, but i would love having 4 little girls)

 

[pigget74]

Just thought that I would add---all of my friends laughed when they found out when the baby was due---September----my oldes son is September, my daughter is September, and now the little man is September. I got a lot of comments on how much we enjoy the month of December--even from his mother

 

[DisneyPhD]

Congrats! It seems that 'everyone' is having 3 lately! I keep hearing "3 is the new 2"! We, too are planning for 3, but not for a few years (we are going for a similar spacing of ages to yours).

Maybe next time you tell someone that you are prego, with #3, make a statement like, "We are so excited! We are pregnant with #3. And NO we are not crazy, we just have a lot more room in our lives to love another beautiful child!"

Good Luck and congrats!

I hope that is true. I am so sick of how everything is made for families of 4 now a days. I have 3 older brothers and now as a mother of 2 girls myself I think my mom was a little nuts, but I am sure glad she didn't stop at 2!

I really don't know if we will have more, but I can see myself having another child a few years down the line. The thing is just because some other people don't feel they can handel more then 2 children doesn't mean you can't! Honeslty most families that I know with 3 or more kids are the nicest families in the world with the best kids. The families really work together, the kids are responible, well behaved ands smart. Mostly because they HAVE to be. They learn to help others and work together. I think if we had more famlies with 3 or more kids society would be better off. It is too easy to spoil just one or 2 kids! (belive me I know.)

I really noticed a difference between being pregnant with my 1st and 2nd. With my second people (family and friends) were much less excited. People rather felt I should know what is coming. Who cares?

jennafo3, I feel the same way with 3 girls, if I had another child (or more) a boy would be fine, but I would be equaly thrilled with another girl!

Every baby is a wonderful joyful event! (even if pregnancy does bite, at least for me ) Congradulations! How wonderful for you and your family.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I think what people are really trying to saying is...

Thats A LOT of...


proms

graduation parties

weddings and receptions

college tuitions

and work in general!!!

We all know how much money it takes to raise children! We chose not to have anymore children because we wanted to make sure we could give to 2 children we have the best of everything.

It makes sense but doesn't make the statement any more funny or any less rude.

We practice NFP--and I can't wait until we are planning #3 and possibly #4...and how much I will hear "I guess it didn't work then". I already have my reply ready--"I can show you the charts to show you that it did indeed work."

 

[SanDiegoDayTripper]

Another mother of three here! The last one, my ds almost 3, was my idea, and the whole extended family thought I was nuts after my middle son was born 10 weeks premature. This is it for us, but I can't imagine my family any differently.

My husband always jokes that we are now on a zone defense instead of a man-to-man.

 

[Lives4Disney]

Congratulations!!!! People say dumb things - that's just a fact. Either they are jealous or just clueless or just plain insensitive.

I have 3 kids and would have more, but my husband doesn't feel the same. I had my third when my son was 9 and my youngest was 3 1/2. The age spread has worked out wonderfully. They each got my full attention when they were babies/toddlers. I had a ball with each of them. Now I have a high schooler and two little girls and in grade school.

People would say to me that I was nuts because here I was 33 yrs old and pregnant and would be sitting by the kiddie pool until I was almost 40! So what!!!?? To each her own. I wouldn't go back for the world. My youngest is such a joy and adds such a sparkle to our lives.

Enjoy!! Live you life as YOU want and don't let others' thoughtless comments bring you down.

Lives4Disney

 

[Beca]

Well....from someone who had a very difficult time just getting one "blessing from God"....let me add to the Congratulations!!!

I always have to think that people who say things like that have never struggled to bring babies into this world. I ADORE the one I have, and thank God for her every night, but I do hope to have at least one more someday. We have been trying (off and on) for 4 years...but, God has not seen to bless us again. He knows best, but I still pray for one more.

Enjoy your 3rd blessing!!!



Beca

 

[Grendalynn]

I get the same comments all the time and I'm pregnant with our 4th!!! Our children (all girls) are 6,4, and 2 and the question I get most (after, wow, you're crazy) is "wow, gotta try for that boy, huh?? as if my family wouldn't be complete without a boy (don't get me wrong, boys are great, but i would love having 4 little girls)

Jenna - I know all about that "trying for that XX, eh?" thing. I have 2 boys now and thats what I keep getting asked! But as long as its healthy is all that matters to us! I am 4 of 5 girls in my family! The things my poor parents must have heard, "Trying for that boy ah?" or What you dont have a TV?" or maybe, "4 kids ?? What are you - Crazy?" Then When my Little Sister came along, "5 kids you must be nuts - and all girls??" and lastly, "Good luck when they get in Junior High!" LOL

To each his own - I didnt want to wake up when I was 47 and say - "Oh crap! Why didnt we go for tht third baby when we were younger and had discussed it!" And being 1 of 5 - I cant imagine my life only have 1 sibling !!! And believe me we took many many vacation and was completely doable - Thansk the lord for babysitters, Nannys and Aunts!

But its all whats familiar to everyone and who can handle what. No matter how many children I decide to have, I hope and plan to give them the best I/we can and the most important thing is to provide a happy healthy family... With a trip to Disney every other year or so of course! Its the first 18 months thats the hardest, after age 2 its a breeze! ((Remind me that I said that))