Justanopinion
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This is probably just a vent but I would truly like some help understanding young people. I feel like I sound like my mother.
I know a young lady, a family member, who eloped a few years ago. At first she tried to hide the fact the she was married. By her own words she said that they would hide the truth, have a wedding in a summer or two and use the fake wedding anninversary.
Well, family and friends found out because she couldn't keep her mouth shut and she didn't end up having a wedding.
Her family says they will support a "vow renewal" or a "recommitment ceremony" but they aren't paying for a wedding. She also has family spread across 2 states...1200 miles apart.
His family offers their place for a wedding everytime they see them. His family is all in a 3rd state.
For the last few years she has said little things here and there and sometimes gets depressed because she wants a wedding. She is highly jealous of friends and family who do have weddings. She says she feels like she doesn't deserve a wedding.
I was recently having a conversation with her and she stated that she didn't understand why everything always had to be proper. She was referring to etiquette. She said that young people today don't care about etiquette and it doesn't matter.
Then I was having a conversation with a young friend of hers and she brought up this girls lack of a wedding. She said that if the young girl wanted a wedding instead of a vow renewal that we as family should support her because that's what she wants and that is what would make her happy.
I don't understand! It's not about making people happy is it? The fact is that if she is married already and telling people them she is then it isn't a wedding...it is a renewal. A renewal can look and feel like a wedding though.
Am I missing something here or are these young people just all about themselves?
Thanks
I know a young lady, a family member, who eloped a few years ago. At first she tried to hide the fact the she was married. By her own words she said that they would hide the truth, have a wedding in a summer or two and use the fake wedding anninversary.
Well, family and friends found out because she couldn't keep her mouth shut and she didn't end up having a wedding.
Her family says they will support a "vow renewal" or a "recommitment ceremony" but they aren't paying for a wedding. She also has family spread across 2 states...1200 miles apart.
His family offers their place for a wedding everytime they see them. His family is all in a 3rd state.
For the last few years she has said little things here and there and sometimes gets depressed because she wants a wedding. She is highly jealous of friends and family who do have weddings. She says she feels like she doesn't deserve a wedding.
I was recently having a conversation with her and she stated that she didn't understand why everything always had to be proper. She was referring to etiquette. She said that young people today don't care about etiquette and it doesn't matter.
Then I was having a conversation with a young friend of hers and she brought up this girls lack of a wedding. She said that if the young girl wanted a wedding instead of a vow renewal that we as family should support her because that's what she wants and that is what would make her happy.
I don't understand! It's not about making people happy is it? The fact is that if she is married already and telling people them she is then it isn't a wedding...it is a renewal. A renewal can look and feel like a wedding though.
Am I missing something here or are these young people just all about themselves?
Thanks