I made a facebook No-No apparently

[sbell111]

OP, I think I would tell my hubby where he could go on facebook, If he talked to me like that

"Did you comment on Jon's post?" was too harsh of a thing for your husband to say to you?

 

[luvflorida]

Just wanted to send a hug. Your post made me sad, and I'm sorry that you were hurt. I hope things are better today.

 

[Buckalew11]

I like to play Uno and Pathwords on FB. I have some friends who play Bejeweled or Farkle, but I haven't tried those yet. So there are games on there other than the virtual stuff. Which I personally don't get the appeal of... I don't care who's mafia stole what, what your job is in Yoville, or how much you made for your crop in Farmtown!

I had no idea there were games like Uno and Pathwords there. I'm very new to it and I'm sure I don't know 1/2 of what there is to know about it. Just what I need is a another game to get addicted to on-line. I don't even think I will look.
Thanks for answering!

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Great, I just got addicted to Uno on there

 

[robinb]

I don't know ... it sounds like your DH was embarrassed by your comment to his coworker. What you think was a benign comment about your DH's age may NOT be taken as benign by the people your DH works with. He loses face in the workplace when his wife insults him in public. I know that you thought you were simply teasing back, but it sounds like you accidentally stepped into some office politics. The problem is that a place like FB blurs the relationships between "friends" and "co-workers".

 

[FireDancer]

Men are just complete morons.

No, people who generalize are morons.

It sounds like a bit of an over reaction but I would have to see the post to determine what happened. I won't make any judgment only hearing one side of the story though, especially without seeing the post.

If it is as simple as you stated I think there is some underlying problem and it has nothing to do with the post. If the comment was from a colleague and the jab was demeaning he may have felt you criticized him in front of a work associate. Would you have felt comfortable saying whatever you posted to him in front of coworkers at the office? If not you should not have done it in a comment thread between co workers.

Just trying to give another perspective. Again, I would have to see the post and all the comments to actually make a rational evaluation.

 

[ols386]

Awww, I'm sorry.

 

[Jenvenza]

You didnt do anything wrong.

 

[Stitchfans]

I'm sorry. You should be able to comment on your own husband's facebook page. I'd tell him to stick it, but that's just me.

 

[Mermaid02]

Perhaps, you hurt your husband's feelings with your comment. It is one thing to have to take a jab from a co-worker, and quite another to get one from your wife.

This, frankly, is a lesson that I should learn. I'm a year or two older than my wife. I occasionally tease her about her age, thinking that since I'm older that the comment is 'benign'. It isn't.

The coworker told my dh "just saw your birthdate on here- I think you qualify as an antique" I said, "Oh, that was cold (I'm 4 months older than he is! ; ) ....

That was it. Anyway- Ironically there was an article on MSN this morning about spouses and facebook. I took the advice and "unfriended" him. He can talk to his friends and I'll talk to mine. I'm chatty and he isn't- he has never posted on my page- or either of our kids. I still think we need counseling (for other reasons- not just this) And I appreciate everyone's observations on the subject!

 

[DisneyBlonde]

FWIW, I still think your DH is being a baby. You can post on my wall anytime.

 

[N&B'smom]

I'm sorry he hurt you like that. If my husband didn't want me posting on his FB wall I would wonder what the heck his problem was and ask him just that! Did you ask your hubby why he had a problem with what you did?

 

[shortbun]

I know this sounds tough but if I get my feelings hurt through some benign act or inaction of my spouse, I diffuse it with humor. In your husband's case, I would tell him to 'bite me!' and walk away. Yeah, unfriend him because everyone needs some space but he must know you were just being friendly. Be careful projecting your embarassment over your weight gain onto him. Why not do some personal counseling to focus on what your needs are and IF they are being met? There is a limit to how long someone should stay unhappy before seeking assistance. Good luck.

 

[frndshpcptn]

Do you often interact with your husband's co-workers? Would the poster you commented on know you IRL?

For me, i keep my work and personal life very separate - on purpose. I'm not embarassed by either, I just prefer not to blur lines. I have no personal photos in my office and don't often talk about my life outside work. No one here does...

Maybe it's more about that to your husband - not so much "you" but more personal vs. professional?