So I have finally formulated a plan that non-disney loving DH

and I can both be happy with. I had to present them together so he could see the whole picture. If I presented one at a time he would've stopped listening as soon as I said mickey's boat.
So he begrudgingly agreed to the
DCL dec cruise that I had found on the *GT rate because it is followed by a ski trip to Breckenridge for spring break. Win for me. Win for him. Whoop!
So the cruise is about $8500 or 566k URs. I have around 450k URs and another 50k pending. I can't wait for those to post though, since this rate could disappear at any minute. So I will pay $1750 out of pocket, and refund myself by cancelling my Alaska may cruise. So that money has already been spent for awhile now since I gave it to DCL on our last sailing.
I will book flights on SW with points we already have. Hopefully we will add on a day at MK before or after the cruise. I will have to rack up some more points to book that and discounted GC for tickets.
I have bank bonus money to spend on excursions, tips, etc.
For the ski trip....I am going to do the Doubletree Breckenridge. They boys and DH can walk to the lift as it is across the street. I can wander through the shops in town there with DD3 when she gets sick of falling (errr skiing). Hotel on hilton points and flights can be booked in August on release day via southwest.
I will be canceling Alaska for 2019, but we are now moving during that time anyways, and with DD being so young it is probably best to hold off on that for a bit. Maybe I will book a placeholder onboard in Dec to hold Alaska 2020.
Whoohooo! Finally a plan I can live with, is mostly or possibly all FREE, and everyone gets something they like! All 4 of the kids love mickey's boat as much as I do, and the 2 youngest will celebrate their bdays onboard...3 and 9! How exciting! Thank you all for your help and guidance...couldn't have done this without you!!!
Now I just have to call and book that cruise when DH is around to give the UR people permission. They aren't open on Saturdays in cruise/tours are they??