Well I have to say, thanks to playing this game, juggling all the financial **** right now with my dad is "easier", I guess. And my 13yo is VERY interested in it all. He's wanted me to start teaching him how to hack so he's ready when he's 18. Yesterday he was telling me "mom, be sure you don't pay grandpa's bills. You can call and get them reduced". He learned that on TT. For a kid who failed English and Math, LOL. TBH, he's actually pretty smart. He's just lazy and disorganized, LOL. Like every 13yo boy!
That kinda happened w/ my granny. My cousin was her POA. She blew through her large amount of savings, investments accounts and retirements. So the next step was selling her house. Well a week after my cousin did that she died. This sent my dad into a legal frenzy! The house was legally 1/2 his and 1/2 his sister (who had died years prior) per the will. But when my cousin sold the house the ONLY account left open in her name listed all of us as benefactors. So instead of a 2 way split (1/2 to my dad, 1/2 to my 2 cousins), it went into a 5 way split! My dad was actually going to sue my sister and I for our portion. I told him it was better if I held onto it (and my sister). He eventually dropped it. To this day I still have my portion of "his" money and use that for the various "large" balance bank bonuses. My sister spent hers
They are in K and 3rd grade. She's come out twice. She was here for almost the 1st week. I think 6 days maybe. Then came out last weekend. But a weekend doesn't help me. I need to be able to go to work. I'm using my sick time so I get paid and I don't have a ton of it. Her husband's schedule at work his such too that he can get them off to school all days but Monday I think. But she doesn't have her next visit planned and she's not offering to help remotely at all. I found out yesterday they are likely discharging him TOMORROW! I lost my ****! I texted her and my mom (they are divorced) with all I have to do between now and then. She didn't offer to do anything. Instead she golfed the last 2 days and today let us know she's in an admin meeting (she's on her school board, great...but not paid and IMHO, not important right now). In the last 2 days, I had to figure out where his cpap was from, call them to get it replaced, but to do that I needed his sleep drs info. So I had to figure that out and call them to get a new prescription. I had to go over to his place and mow his lawn (well my 13yo) and get his mail from his trailer and PO box in town. I had to figure out how to get his medical records for his critical illness coverage. I had to figure out the policies he DOES have from work, I had to fill out his critical illness paperwork. I set up timers in his house so it looks like he's there. I have to pick the facility he is moving to. I also have to go to his house and get him clothes, razor, etc. Oh and I have to get his car back to his house that my sister has been driving when she visits. She couldn't be bothered to return it herself. That's in addition to keeping up w/ all of his bills, and trying to figure out what I can protect of his money if anything. Oh and that's not including teaching, or spending time writing sub plans if I'm out. Being a mom, going to hockey games, taking my daughter's senior pictures, and finding time to buy her a homecoming dress for next week! But you know, she had to golf the last 2 days, and she has an admin meeting for a voluntary position.
It was such a terrible feeling on Sunday when they told us they were removing his dialysis cath and when they took him off the ventilator. I should be celebrating, but it meant he wasn't going to the LTACH and instead was going to a SNF (skilled nursing facility). I seriously was crushed! And our system should not be set up so that's the case! He's going to still be on IV antibiotics so I would think that was enough for the LTACH, but I guess not (even though it's listed).