I hate people.

[Sgt Mickey]

When I was pregnant with twins I was asked if I was pregnant with triplets so I agree I hate people.

 

[PeterPanic]

When my wife and I had our second girl, she is the one that turned to me and apologized for not giving me a son. I had never expressed that I wanted one, but I guess it's assumed that you want to carry the name forward.

I didn't give to snots about that. I loved (and still do) my girls and have never been upset about not being the one that had to deal with the "facts of life" subject.

Our last baby was born 36 years ago...there probably won't be any more.

 

[snapppyd]

Also, my two sisters are ten and seven years older than me. I've been told "oh, you were the accident!". First time I heard this I was crushed.

 

[daisy_77]

I suppose some people feel it is their right to say whatever they want to pregnant women. My mother-in-law, who btw is not small by ANY means...would tell me every time she saw me, "you are getting HUGE, you don't look (insert any week of pregnancy), you look like you can go anytime!!" Such a lovely woman.

 

[mrsheppo]

I had a co-worker when I was pregnant with my 4th child always giving me a hard time about being pregnant and making rude comments. One day she asked me "Don't you believe in abortion?". I told her it was too bad her mother didn't.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Also, my two sisters are ten and seven years older than me. I've been told "oh, you were the accident!". First time I heard this I was crushed.

I always tell people one was planned and one was an accident. Sometimes I can trick people into asking, "Which one?"

Well...Take your pick.

 

[bankgirl05]

OMG!!!! When I was pregnant with my first, at 22, I had a girl who was 18, with 2 kids, on welfare(not that I am judging ANYONE on welfare but I worked as a teller at the time, where she was cashing her check) tell me I was too young to have a baby. (????) I owned a house and had a full time job(???)

With my 2nd and 3rd (I was thena very wise 33,and 35) I used to love when people would ask me: "do you know what you're having" the sarcastic(and hormonal) side of me would come out and I would either reply "Yes." or "a baby"...

with all three, I had random people want to touch my belly. One day as some creepy man reached out, I grabbed his wrist and said,in my sweetest whisper like voice "I will kill you if you touch me, and I would probably get away with it too because of the hormones..."

 

[Pembo]

Yikes! Can we add not asking people when they are due? Unless you know for certain someone is pregnant, do not ask! And I can't imagine having strangers touch me! I'd get all Kung fu.

Went to dinner with my friend when she was 37 weeks pg, I had a 3 week old at home. The waiter asked BOTH of us when we were due. Gee thanks.
I hated being asked what sex and the name. We started making up names just to get people to stop asking.

 

[jiminyC_fan]

I guess I'm the oddball here but I loved being pregnant.....and with twins. I didn't mind any comments or questions.

 

[FlyingDumbo]

The last few weeks of my pregnancy, I went NOWHERE. Aside from the fact that it was too painful to walk, I had become so big at that point (over 14lb of baby in there) that I was like a circus freak show anywhere I went. The grocery store was the WORST... I do my grocery shopping in the daytime when all the grandmas shop and they're attracted to pregnant women like moths to a light.

Yes, this is so accurate! Its the grandmas mostly, but there have been a few creepy men, too. Well meaning elderly folks don't bother me as much as the creepy faced random guys. The grocery store is the WORST! I told my husband he is shopping until the baby comes.

 

[FlyingDumbo]

I guess I'm the oddball here but I loved being pregnant.....and with twins. I didn't mind any comments or questions.

It is a lot different when you are NOT having twins and people insist you are so fat you must be. I already feel fat and bloated. I don't need to be reminded that I look way fatter.

 

[RNMOM]

I guess maybe it's my mood today but I find this pretty disheartening. Pregnancy is a wonderful time in most people's lives. When I was pregnant 25 and 27 years ago, we were thrilled that people cared enough to stop and be happy for us. If you really don't want anyone to feel happy for you and tell you so, wear a pin that says so. Frown and walk away rudely.

Sorry but I think we are getting so intolerant of strangers and even people we know. If you don't want to encounter people, don't go out of your house.

 

[FlyingDumbo]

I guess maybe it's my mood today but I find this pretty disheartening. Pregnancy is a wonderful time in most people's lives. When I was pregnant 25 and 27 years ago, we were thrilled that people cared enough to stop and be happy for us. If you really don't want anyone to feel happy for you and tell you so, wear a pin that says so. Frown and walk away rudely.

Sorry but I think we are getting so intolerant of strangers and even people we know. If you don't want to encounter people, don't go out of your house.

You know what I find disheartening? Being touched by strangers. I am sorry but my belly is personal space. There is a difference between being happy for someone and being rude. Calling people fat is rude, telling them they look awful and tired is rude, and touching someone without permission is BEYOND inappropriate.

There is a big difference between being happy for someone and making rude comments or inappropriate unwanted touching. A BIG difference.

 

[dogluva]

I guess maybe it's my mood today but I find this pretty disheartening. Pregnancy is a wonderful time in most people's lives. When I was pregnant 25 and 27 years ago, we were thrilled that people cared enough to stop and be happy for us. If you really don't want anyone to feel happy for you and tell you so, wear a pin that says so. Frown and walk away rudely.

Sorry but I think we are getting so intolerant of strangers and even people we know. If you don't want to encounter people, don't go out of your house.

I have been pregnant six times at various ages and I don't remember a single negative comment from strangers. I was Al's very large with one and still don't remember a comment. Finding all these Posts a little over the top. Oh, and nobody touched my stomach and I don't think I would have cared if they did.

Relax, it will be over eventually and your just be another woman again.

 

[dogluva]

You know what I find disheartening? Being touched by strangers. I am sorry but my belly is personal space. There is a difference between being happy for someone and being rude. Calling people fat is rude, telling them they look awful and tired is rude, and touching someone without permission is BEYOND inappropriate.

There is a big difference between being happy for someone and making rude comments or inappropriate unwanted touching. A BIG difference.

Your post makes me think your a toucher. Are you? Please explain why if you are.

Wow you talk about people being rude and them you post this! Where in her post did she say she was a "touched"? Trust me, not everyone wants to fell your stomach!

 

[dogluva]

I have been pregnant six times at various ages and I don't remember a single negative comment from strangers. I was Al's very large with one and still don't remember a comment. Finding all these Posts a little over the top. Oh, and nobody touched my stomach and I don't think I would have cared if they did.

Relax, it will be over eventually and your just be another woman again.

Al's should be also!

 

[Fire14]

The one that set me into a fit was the lady in grocery store who felt need to lecture me on having a child so young.
1. It isn't my kid
2. The mom and dad are younger than me
3. JUST SHUT THE TRAP!!

 

[Rafiki31]

I've been reading this thread and I have to say I completely agree. I am very young looking for my age and when I was pregnant I literally holed up in my house for the last few months because of all the comments and touching. I literally got groped on the subway in Boston by a scary man. I was 26, but looked like a teenager. So I was getting touched all the time and getting all the nasty comments about being a teen mom. There are a lot of people who come at you leading with their hands out, they touch you before even speaking to you! I am not a hugger, I am very shy and do not like to be touched. I had a very hard time being pregnant.

 

[dakcp2001]

I am a nurse, and I am used to being a touchy person. But even I would NEVER touch a pregnant stranger. When I gain weight it goes right to my stomach. I struggled with miscarriages and infertility for years so when people ask me when I am due it makes me want to cry or punch them depending on my mood. I am constantly asked why we do not have children and people think it is ok to lecture us on that. We are "selfish" because we don't have children. People have no sense anymore of boundaries.

 

[FlyingDumbo]

Wow you talk about people being rude and them you post this! Where in her post did she say she was a "touched"? Trust me, not everyone wants to fell your stomach!

I'm sorry. I just got really offended. Between the lack of sleep and hormones I am either angry or crying all the time. I reread that and it was rude. I am a mess. And it really does feel like am getting touched everywhere! So a LOT of people seem to think it is ok.