rogerram said:The equal grounds comment is in my marriage. I don't put myself ahead of my wife and she doesn't of me. If it is that big of a deal to the op, then so be it. Let her call and do whatever she wants. I don't care. I would not get worked up over this if it happened to me and don't lecture me about comments on someone elses marriage. My comments are about my situation.
In that case, you may want to avoid use of the pronoun you, which indicates someone other than yourself.