I am so DIStraught!!!

[luvthemouse71]

Hair grows back. I think the OP is overreacting here. You'd think the kid went out and gotten sleeve tattoos on both arms. They're bangs, chill out.

The costume is cute, no denying that. But I think the mom still has hangups about being bullied as a child. She's going to cause some pretty nasty body image issues with the kid if she doesn't pull herself together.

I actually thought this post is trolling, still kind of do. I really hope so, because it is sad that something that most kids do gets blown this much out of proportion.

Oh, and the word bully gets far too much play here. Being disagreed with is not being bullied, nor is people being blunt.

 

[GeneralTso]

That is a worrisome and distressing post, honestly.

Hair grows. For now, pin it back with a barrette or use a pretty headband. Not that big of a deal. Kids do this kind of thing all the time.

Perhaps your level of devastation and upset is what is triggering her. This is not a Defcon 5 level situation. It's just a costume. She'll have fun. Anticipating her getting teased and bullied and all sorts of awful things is just anxiety and hand wringing, on YOUR part. It'll be ok. Truly it will.
That's a whole lot of angst for a Disney vacation.

 

[OfTheWind]

We are going to Disney World in August. So fun, after seeing Malificent my daughter and I decided it is INSANE how there are no dolls or costumes for girls to dress up like the YOUNG Mal. You can get a kid costume that is all black and purple or even the same as Angelina Jolie but what 7yo wants to do that? She wants to look like the sweet brown fairie thats what!

So we hatched a plan to make our own halloween costume. Shouldn't be super hard to sew the tunic.. the horns are another matter. I found an amazing girl on etsy to make them costume to look more like the young Mal and for a smaller sized head. They came in the mail yesterday. This morning my daughter woke up and I looked at her and something looked odd. Suddenly I realized she had taken a scissor and cut her hair to create banks which results in a 1" whip of hair on her top of her head. I AM DEVASTATED because I adore her hair and she has glasses so now hang an empty forehead just makes everything look worse. If she didn't have the glasses and you could see her amazingly sweet face better it wouldn't be as bad but glass plus dorky banks = moms first nightmare right before school starts and school pictures and everything!

Then of course I realized now at halloween she won't look like Malificent anymore. She has very long blonde hair very fine not super thick but very long and pretty. We discussed putting temporary brown dye in it she would have looked so similar to the girl from the movie.

I'm mostly upset about the hair period but now I can't get amazing pics of her in the costume. I even had a crazy thought that we should take the horns to Disney World and wear them one night because it would be so fun.

Here are the horns, I am so depressed. I know it will still be "neat" but how much she would have looked like her would have made it so perfect. I am so sad!

I was teased pretty bad in elementary school she's going into 2nd grade and is a wonderful child who has no care in the world about what anyone else thinks of her which is such a wonderful personality to have while still being sweet and wonderful and accepting diversity with ease and curiosity. I celebrate that but she's also woefully unaware of how as she gets older kids will tease or or exclude her if her hair is a horrible mess (she pulls out anything I put in it so I stopped bothering but atleast it always looked pretty because it was so long) and she never wears a matching outfit and I just worry for her! She's also not so good with hygiene and stuff and I have tried so hard to do things to help her be more aware of herself while not taking away any of her great natural traits.

If it is REALLY bad, a stylist might be able to glue in extensions. I wouldn't normally say this for a young child, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do.

Yes, let's put glue in a child's head because we can't stand the sight of hair that isn't perfect. And when the OP tries to remove the extensions her daughter's hair WILL rip out; that's why people with common sense don't use tacky, caustic glue when getting extensions.

You are "devistated" because of your child's "dorky" hair and because she wears glasses that don't show off her face? Maybe you should spend time focusing on who your daughter is and not just what you think she looks like.

I teach middle school and can't tell you the number of girls I've seen come into 6th grade with "dorky hair and glasses" only to walk out at the end of 8th grade beautiful young ladies. Your daughter is fine. You, on the other hand, might have some unresolved issues. Stop trying to live vicariously through your daughter.

Wow, this is beyond rude. Stop being so rude so people, you might become a happier person

Ignore the hate OP! It seems the board is full of "perfect parents." It's just hair. It will grow back. Pop into a hairdresser, they can tidy up the hair. Otherwise you can always push back the small fringe with Mickey Ears

I'm well aware life isn't unicorns and rainbows. If you actually knew anything about my life you would know that.

There is truth and then there is rudeness. The Dis Boards seem full of "perfect people" who just post to criticize others and belittle their feelings. I don't understand wanting to make people feel bad or bully them if they are upset over something. I suppose it's the fact I know just because someone is upset over something I wouldn't be, doesn't make their feelings wrong. Thankfully we have a report button to report inappropriate posts.

It took you 5200 posts to realize this. In fact didn't you have to pass the "Perfect Parent" aptitude test to post here?

If anyone is trying to be a perfect parent it's the OP. Her perfect daughter cut her perfect blonde hair and now the OP's perfect plans are ruined.

OP needs the reality check. Hair grows back. Always has, always will. Get over it.

 

[luvthemouse71]

I'm sorry the world can't be all rainbows and unicorns for you. Sometimes the truth hurts a bit.

My happiness quotient is just dandy, but thanks for your concern.

 

[BuzzinDownToDisney]

Hair grows back. I think the OP is overreacting here. You'd think the kid went out and gotten sleeve tattoos on both arms. They're bangs, chill out.

Cause those people are the dregs of society, right??? Amazing how Dis sets the standard for appearance.

 

[luvthemouse71]

Cause those people are the dregs of society, right??? Amazing how Dis sets the standard for appearance.

You need to step back and stop being so defensive. I have tattoos myself, for your information. But, most people with full sleeves get flack for them.

Put down the coffee and try chamomile tea. It's wonderful when one is so jittery and angry.

 

[BuzzinDownToDisney]

You need to step back and stop being so defensive. I have tattoos myself, for your information. But, most people with full sleeves get flack for them.

Put down the coffee and try chamomile tea. It's wonderful when one is so jittery and angry.

My tongue was firmly planted in cheek when I typed that it was more a commentary how lately this board seems to rip everyone for everything.

You're right about the sleeve thing. My ex had one and her sister demanded she use covering makeup at her wedding. It was hot and the makeup started to fade making them look far crazier than the sleeve itself. Lol

 

[luvthemouse71]

My tongue was firmly planted in cheek when I typed that it was more a commentary how lately this board seems to rip everyone for everything.

You're right about the sleeve thing. My ex had one and her sister demanded she use covering makeup at her wedding. It was hot and the makeup started to fade making them look far crazier than the sleeve itself. Lol

Yeah,that make-up stuff doesn't work for sleeves, it barely works for anything bigger than a quarter. I have seen sleeves done beautifully, but my hospital would make me cover them all the time, so I decided against them.

It just makes me sad to read a post from a parent that invested in a child's appearance and to see people advocating hair extensions etc. I have a relative like that and her kid used to be so confident. She turned her into a mess. She's 8 and has already been dieting, with mom's encouragement. The child wasn't fat to begin with. She learned from mom that the main thing is to be pretty, who cares if you're smart, or funny or have interests other than makeup and how your hair looks? Mom has some issues herself, if you hadn't already guessed. Former pageant kid and child actress.

Kids will pick on anyone. They pick on the kids that are attractive too. There is no way to avoid it. The only recourse is to teach them how to deal with it.

 

[rustyanchor]

Maybe you should just wear the horns yourself.

 

[Disneychick75]

OP, it's not a big deal. If this is the biggest parenting challenge you've faced with your daughter, lucky you. A little girl cutting her bangs and this messing up a costume is very minor.
Some of us have children with disabilities or illnesses. When a doctor tells you that your child has cancer, that's devastating. That diagnosis will make a parent distraught.

 

[NinaBella]

Taker her to get a stylish short bob if she wants short hair and bangs. Let her be different. Also, why are glasses dorky? Perhaps you should invest in cute, trendy glasses that compliment her face and personality? My daughter is going into sixth grade and just got contacts. I actually think her glasses look adorable on her. She has several pairs of glasses to go with various outfits (we usually get a BOGO sale at Visionworks). I told her I thinks she should wear her glasses at least once a week because they are freaking adorable (at least in my opinion).

 

[Cyrano]

Folks play nice or else

 

[letsgoreds]

Taker her to get a stylish short bob if she wants short hair and bangs. Let her be different. Also, why are glasses dorky? Perhaps you should invest in cute, trendy glasses that compliment her face and personality? My daughter is going into sixth grade and just got contacts. I actually think her glasses look adorable on her. She has several pairs of glasses to go with various outfits (we usually get a BOGO sale at Visionworks). I told her I thinks she should wear her glasses at least once a week because they are freaking adorable (at least in my opinion).

THIS! Sounds like she wants a change...and is at a great age to try out a different look. I love the bangs and bob look. I am also guessing that a trip to the hairdresser could work wonders.

 

[Poohforyou]

Op, I really think you need to put this into perspective or you won't survive the teen years.

It's hair, big whoop. In 10 years you'll look back on the vacation pictures and laugh. Don't make your daughter's appearance so important. You're only setting the stage for issues down the road.

 

[mirage0306]

Hair grows back. I think the OP is overreacting here. You'd think the kid went out and gotten sleeve tattoos on both arms. They're bangs, chill out.

Is there something wrong with sleeve tattoos? Obviously not appropriate for a 7 year old, but aside from that--what's the problem?

OP, I'm sorry, but I agree with everyone else who says you are overreacting. I know it's a bummer that the costume won't be perfect like you'd hoped, but with kids, few things ever work out perfectly. It's hair, she's a little kid, and it grows back. I'd ask her why she did it and move on.

 

[luvthemouse71]

Is there something wrong with sleeve tattoos? Obviously not appropriate for a 7 year old, but aside from that--what's the problem?

OP, I'm sorry, but I agree with everyone else who says you are overreacting. I know it's a bummer that the costume won't be perfect like you'd hoped, but with kids, few things ever work out perfectly. It's hair, she's a little kid, and it grows back. I'd ask her why she did it and move on.

Read the top of the page..I already stated my position and thoughts about tattoos.

 

[Alice Royal]

Three pages and no word from the OP...

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[luvthemouse71]

Three pages and no word from the OP...

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I'm stealing this picture,lol.

 

[Alice Royal]

I'm stealing this picture,lol.

It took some serious digging. This was the trollface BEFORE the actual Trollface™.

OP, if you are trolling, put the horns away.

If you're not trolling, chalk it up to overreacting. Crap happens. I just hope your daughter never sees or hears your comments about the 'dorky' bangs and glasses. Imagine how upset you'd be if you were a kid on the Internet and you found out your own PARENT was saying these kinds of things...and we all wonder why my generation has serious self-esteem issues.

I may not be a parent, or even a DIS-Certified Perfect Person™...but I know people have feelings. There's a really good quote that's been circling the Interwebs lately...'It's easier to build up a child than it is to repair an adult'.

 

[itchin2go]

How is this about Theme Park Attractions and Strategies?