I am giving up....

[Mskanga]

I'm sorry my friends, but I give up, I'm at a point that no matter what I do , I can't do anything right.
I am going through a very difficult time at the moment and it's especially difficult for me because I am all alone. I'm sorry, I'm really sorry I let you all down, but the only thing I want to do now is run and hide from everything. I'm sorry, I feel nothing inside of me now.

 

[ohiominnie]

Originally posted by Mskanga
I'm at a point that no matter what I do , I can't do anything right.

Nuh uh! You just did something right. You came to the WISH board to vent. We're here for you. We love and support you. And I will pray that whatever you are facing now will not overwhelm you like this but will make you come out fighting and stronger because of it.
God bless, Mskanga!

 

[Luvinit]

Kanga {{{{hugs}}}}}

I won't accept the giving up part. It seems like you are going through such a difficult time right now, and things may SEEM hopeless. You may need a "break" from the stress of having to discipline yourself. I can accept that.

So here is what I think we should do....we should hold your spot on WISH wide open. It sounds like you need time to "re-group" and that is OKAY!!

But I want you to know that NO Matter WHAT you are NOT ALONE!!!! We are here for you!!! Stop thinking that RIGHT NOW!! If Wish has taught me ONE Thing...it is that we are NOT alone!!

I am sending you some {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}, I know that I don't have any idea what you are going through...but I ment every word of what I said!!! Let me know if there is anything I can do!!!

Hang in there sweetie...
Tracy

 

[KathyTX]

Olga, you sound overwhelmed. I don't know what's happening in your life, but whatever this is, it's probably something you'll get past... Huge and unmanageable right now, but probably not permanent... Maybe?

And you can't quit. It's simply not allowed, under any circumstances! It's written in the WISH bylaws that once you're once of us, it's forever. Impossible to escape. Sorry!

You can take a break, take a rest, crawl away to a safe and soothing place for awhile to regroup. If you've been hurt, you can even vent and cry it out for awhile. You've got buddies here that have strong shoulders to lean on, and you can PM me anytime if you want to vent or just find a sympathetic ear. I'm good at providing moral support.

But you're not really giving up. If you choose to take a little break, we'll just save your seat until you feel strong enough to want to start again. But you might be surprised at how much strength you can find here... use us!

 

[nativetxn]

Olga, you are sounding very sad and very overwhelmed. You can't give up, though. Even if you decide to start <i>gaining</i> on purpose you are still a WISHer. You will always be a WISHer. We won't give you up, you know. You are part of our family.

Come and vent if you need to vent, come and cry if you need to, I'll cry with you. We all have days where we feel defeated. WISH is here to prove that you are not defeated, slowed down...detoured...experiencing some bumps...maybe...but never defeated.

<b>I am all alone</b>

No, you are <i>not</i> alone. You have WISH. You have <i>us</i>. There may not be as many of us here on the weekend but we are here. We are here for <i>you</i>.

Now, you know that you are an intelligent, strong and competent woman. You know that you <i>can</i> do this. We are here to help you.

Don't give up. Take a break if you need to but don't give up. You can't fail, you know, you can stop trying though. Don't stop trying. Stay with us sweetie. {{{HUGS}}}

You don't truly believe that you can't do anything right, do you? Did someone else tell you that? They are wrong. You came to WISH and vented didn't you? I think that was the perfect thing to do.

Katholyn

 

[Mskanga]

I wish I could find this kind of support at home, but it's just not there. But I am thankful that I have you all here.

 

[anniet]

I don't know what your situation is at home, but sometimes we have to give to ourselves, what others are unable to give us.


You are not alone. We are here with you. And maybe we seem like faceless people over the internet, but on the other sides of our screens we are REAL and we are right there with you!

((((((HUGS)))))))))

 

[Kimnicki]

{{{{Mskanga}}}} I was so sad to see your post . I hope things work out for you. You know we are always here for you at WISH. I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[ohMom]

{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}} to you my friend. You have been there for me when I felt like I was the only one dealing with the effect of Arthritis in my life, even though it was me directly. It's time for us to be there for you.

If home is not a good place, take a walk or a bike ride if you can. Or a long drive with a good peaceful renewing CD. Pray. You are NEVER alone.

I will make sure your seat is safe and saved for you until you are ready to come back, in case KathyTX slacks off I need you here, if nothing else but to see your wild clip art in your sig!

You have seen others take breaks, see, it's ok to do that. Take a break, a week or two or whatever you need. Find some support live and in person so you don't feel like your tackling these problems alone. PM me anytime, ok. I'll miss you on your break, and look forward to your return

 

[lmhall2000]

Yep, I agree you're in a tough spot- a spot where you realize that people are human and those nasty little faults we all possess sometimes all come out and attack us at once. But ya know, even people I thought didn't have a decent bone in their body- always surprised me. And one of these days, you're gonna be attacked by decent actions and really appreciate them because you've seen how bad it can get. And what's even more, when you see someone else experiencing what you're going through now- your heart will have that much more room in it for you to encourage and uplift them.

So let this day pass, focus on what's important, your health, your compassion, your ability to see through this and roll with it. We're all here for ya and it's so important that others see that everyone has life deal them cowpatties- we can either sit around smelling the crap or get our hands a little dirty and throw that cowpattie like a frisbee into the past! Green pastures, Olga, green pastures! I see some wildflowers trying to grow through your pattie-

We won't let ya leave though- we need your experience and compassion!

Tara

 

[AlreadyexcitedGrammy]

Remember that saying "home is where the heart is" okay so your heart is with WISHers then it's HOME - well, at least, home away from home.

Take care and we need an update that you are feeling better just as soon as you can do that for us - hoping that tomorrow is a better day and things are a bit brighter.

 

[Debbie]

Olga! I want you to stop reading this right now and to go back to the TOP and reread each post carefully!

You just did something right

It sounds like you need time to "re-group" and that is OKAY!!

You've got buddies here that have strong shoulders to lean on, and you can PM me anytime if you want to vent or just find a sympathetic ear. I'm good at providing moral support.

Now, you know that you are an intelligent, strong and competent woman. You know that you can do this. We are here to help you.

sometimes we have to give to ourselves, what others are unable to give us.

You know we are always here for you at WISH. I will keep you in my prayers.

Find some support live and in person so you don't feel like your tackling these problems alone.

focus on what's important, your health, your compassion, your ability to see through this and roll with it.

Remember that saying "home is where the heart is" okay so your heart is with WISHers then it's HOME - well, at least, home away from home.

Olga, please care for yourself in the way that is best for you. (if that means forgetting what you are eating, just make sure that you ARE eating) Find what can ease your pain-music, exercise, prayer, talking, writing it down. . . Know that when you are hurting, others do, too, and others are there to help you when you feel like you are at your lowest! Take care, sweetie! We care!

 

[poohraedopey]

NEVER give up on yourself! EVen when things and people around you have you down. Dig deep down and find your inner strength and beauty! You can do this for YOU! DON'T quit! You have a great support network here that counts for a lot! Come here and vent and get it all out and keep on going! You can do it you are worth it!

 

[perfectmatch300]

Olga, I want to add my voice to everyone else here

Whatever else is going on in your life, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! We're here for you, & I know you've met enough of us in person to know we're not some faceless bunch. We are your WISH family, & we are here for you. Please remember that WISH is about far more than just losing weight, it's about helping one another to cope with the events in our lives in a healthy way. All you have to do is keep showing up

I'm sending you some {{{HUGS}}} & some ~*~*~pixie dust~*~*~*~* which I'm hoping will help you feel a little better till things in your live at home start to turn around.

 

[Poohbear123]

But remember: This too, shall Pass. {{{Hugs}}} to you, and remember you are NOT alone, PM some of us here and we will be your blanket.

 

[TigH]

Good morning!

I hope a night of sleep helped you to feel better! You've already gotten alot of great advice and support. Everyone is right, you shouldn't give up on yourself. I think you do need to take a break though. Your mental health/wellbeing is just as important as a healthy body.

If you can find some alone time, try doing some journaling. I find that writing to my friends when I feel down is a good way of releasing negative energy. If you don't feel comfortable sharing your private thoughts with anyone, just write a note to yourself. Maybe try writing yourself a love letter too, later, when you are feeling less overwhelmed.

Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we can make any big life changing decisions. If you haven't gotten there yet, just wait, it will come. One day you'll feel a surge of inspiration well up inside you and you'll know what it is you have to do. With or without support "at home", you need to figure out what is best for you and decide to please yourself for once.

Sometimes it's easier to blame others for how you feel about yourself. It's nice to feel appreciated and loved, and to feel encouraged and supported. That's what we are all here for (to encourage and support you). But what if everyone on earth suddenly disappeared? Where would that encouragement and support come from? It's important to rely on yourself first for these types of things, believe in yourself, be strong, be encouraging and nuturing to yourself. Love yourself. Make appreciation and love FROM others second to loving and appreciating yourself. You are a very special and very worthy human being.

If you feel you are being pulled in too many different directions, find some quiet time to sort through your priorities. Cut some activities out of your life. Make sure you make yourself your number one priority, your kids come next, then everything else. Learn to say no to people if you are spread too thin. Get organized. Make a schedule. Don't let unkind thoughts about yourself or others stick around in your head. Let go of guilt and worry and anxiety and blame. Be happier. Smile more. Laugh more. Be proud of yourself for being who you are.

We put alot of pressure on ourselves to be perfect, we compare ourselves to others, we see other lifestyles that look effortless and wonderful and think our lifestyle is crummy and boring or filled with dreary days and the same thing over and over. It's up to you to change things, little by little, so that you come to appreciate every living moment. Life is a gift. You are a gift. Be good to yourself.

 

[Mskanga]

I honestly don't know what I would do without you my friends, I have done quite a bit of crying reading these wonderful posts, you have helped me to put some things into prospective , and say I won't let this bring me down , but it's hard for me to make that change because after so many years of being told something, I have built a wall around me, I know it's not a good thing, but it's how I feel safe, I keep myself distant.
Once again my children are the ones pushing me through this, without them knowing it because I want to spare them , they are children, but one day they will know the kind of impact they made on me and how my love for them pushed me through difficult situations.
Diet wise , I'm doing ok , but once again I want to thank each and everyone of you for your kind , sincere and honest support and care, but please know that right now it's not that I don't feel like being around here , it's just I don't feel like doing much of anything, I know this too shall pass, but for right now I don't think I can be supportive of anyone when I cannot even support myself, I hope this makes sense.
I love you all.

 

[Poohbear123]

We love you too, hang in there and Keep the Faith.

 

[Lynn CC]

I hope your children bring you some sunshine today...Do something fun with them if you can, Enjoy the day. You deserve it
A Big {HUG} to you!

 

[zurgswife]

Hang in there Kanga.....I've got some rough stuff going on too and reading these boards....even if I don't post the stuff I'm trying to deal with helps me get through each day.....I'm sure that you are going to make it...just stay slow and steady and what ever you are dealing with will have a conclusion it may be good or it may be difficult but you will come out OK...

Love....Kimball