husband kissing women friends on the lips

[Dakota_Lynn]

I have had a few friends that like to give affectionate kisses on the lips. It's a little weird for a friend to do that, but it doesn't bother me all that much. Probably because most of the people who have done that are gay guys that I'm very good friends with and I know they have no intention other than to show friendly affection! I would probably be concerned if I were the OP. At the very least, a long talk would be in order. Your husband needs to know this behavior bothers you.

That guy, Richard Dawson from Family Feud GROSSED me out big time. Had I been on family feud and he tried to kiss me I would have hit him! Hard! Sooooooo gross. I mean, can you imagine all the lips he kissed in his lifetime? Thousands!!!! You just don't know where some of those lips may have been! Yeesh! All those women were total strangers. I don't know, call me old fashioned, but I just can't imagine kissing somebody I don't feel some level of friendship or affection for.

 

[JunieJay]

really, who is it? I always thought he was just trying to be way to cool

At first I was thinking it was Judy from Boise, but now I remember she was on Price is Right and she won a car I think?? She'll have to fill us in if by chance she sees this thread. I distinctly remember her telling us that Bob looked orange in his makeup. He was going for the tan look I guess, it was the 70s.

The person who was on Family Feud is no longer a poster here - her name is Michelle. Her family was on FF with Richard Dawson and I believe she said he was every bit as creepy as he looks.

 

[dis ms.]

We have made many friends doing this, although we really know little about them and dont see them outside of these bars. Sometimes I will hug the men and even kiss their cheek. It bothers me though that there are a couple women that my husband will give a big kiss on the lips too, both when we arrive and leave.

Uh, no. That's definitely not acceptable, IMHO. However, I also wouldn't be kissing the men on the cheek. I'm okay with giving a peck on the cheek to good friends, but you said yourself that you don't really know these people and don't socialize with them away from the bars. My lips would not be touching these people ... anywhere.

If some acquaintance (that's what I would call your DH's relationship with these women) kissed me on the lips, he would only do it once. Once.

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

After 20 years, tell him it bothers you and I'll bet he'll be flattered that you care enough to mention it.

Weird!!!! The women all look like they enjoyed it though.... EW!

 

[nuke]

We are a pretty touchy feely bunch of people over here. It doesn't bother me in the least. What does bother me is all the people on this thread saying how unacceptable and "not normal" it is. It may be unacceptable to you but that doesn't mean it's that way for everyone.
I'm pretty secure in my marriage and if one of my close girlfriends kisses my husband on the lips with me standing their and her husband standing there, so what? I'll be doing the same thing to her husband in a second or two.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

My husband might peck my mother on the cheek when he sees her, but other than that, he reserves his greetings to hugs. Thank goodness.

I however have friends, who both the husband and the wife kiss me on the lips, and I don't like it. I dread the hello and goodbye, every time I see them. It makes me uncomfortable. I like them, but I don't like them that much!

I don't like people getting in my space, and that's definitely crossing some space boundaries, in my opinion.

 

[nephthys43]

We are a pretty touchy feely bunch of people over here. It doesn't bother me in the least. What does bother me is all the people on this thread saying how unacceptable and "not normal" it is. It may be unacceptable to you but that doesn't mean it's that way for everyone.
I'm pretty secure in my marriage and if one of my close girlfriends kisses my husband on the lips with me standing their and her husband standing there, so what? I'll be doing the same thing to her husband in a second or two.

my bunch of friends are the same way. i've kissed every single one of them, male or female, on the lips. that's how we are. we're not weird or anything. i see no problem with kissing any of them and neither do they. though we do warn and kiss on the cheek if we are ill.

but if it does bother you, you need to tell your hubby. if he doesn't know then he can't correct it.

 

[WDWVillain]

I hang with a motorcycle crew, and we are all "sista's & Brotha's" and we all do that....on the lips and cheeks. That is just the way we are.

no big deal

 

[Stitchfans]

I personally wouldn't like it. If it makes you uncomfortable then yes make sure you tell him.

 

[disykat]

We are a pretty touchy feely bunch of people over here. It doesn't bother me in the least. What does bother me is all the people on this thread saying how unacceptable and "not normal" it is. It may be unacceptable to you but that doesn't mean it's that way for everyone.
I'm pretty secure in my marriage and if one of my close girlfriends kisses my husband on the lips with me standing their and her husband standing there, so what? I'll be doing the same thing to her husband in a second or two.

Hopefully if you're a kisser, you're saavy enough to be aware that not everyone is and act accordingly. The problem isn't the kissing, it's the kissing without regards to anyone else's feelings on the matter.

 

[RitaZ.]

The problem isn't the kissing, it's the kissing without regards to anyone else's feelings on the matter.

That's it.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

I have a question for the "lip kissers" --

How do you know that the person who's lips you're planting yours on, is comfortable with it? How do you know that they aren't secretly dreading that moment, and just putting up with it for the sake of the friendship?

Just curious.

 

[nephthys43]

I have a question for the "lip kissers" --

How do you know that the person who's lips you're planting yours on, is comfortable with it? How do you know that they aren't secretly dreading that moment, and just putting up with it for the sake of the friendship?

Just curious.

most people, if they aren't comfortable, will aim for your cheek. you just have to pay attention and you notice it.

 

[Ride Junkie]

Yikes! The only people DH and I kiss on the lips is each other. And friends don't get a kiss on the cheek either, we just aren't that way with any of our friends.

If I were in that situation (DH kissing someone on the lips), I would make sure everyone involved knew that this was NOT going to happen again.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

I'm not a prude, but there is no way my husband would kiss another woman like that in front (or behind) of me and not hear about it. Just the look I would give him would be enough to let him know that I was not a happy camper.

I would tell him to knock it off.

That's being so disrespectful to YOU.

A light peck on the cheek is fine for old friends, but definitely nothing on the lips.

 

[Lynn CC]

my sil kisses me on the lips all the time, I spit as soon as she turns away

That is so funny! It's not often lol here!

My BIL has been doing this for years. After he got me on the lips a couple of times, I just turn my cheek he looks surprised every time. YUCK

I don't know what those lip kissers are thinking.