husband kissing women friends on the lips

[autumnbaby9]

I would not bother me unless he was fully making out with them. A small peck is somethig we do in my group of friends.

However He is YOUR husband and you need to be comfortable in your marriage. If it bothers you, you need to tell him that you are uncomfortable with it and would perfer him to only kiss others on the cheek when you go out.

Chances are he doesn't realize it is bothering you and will stop as soon as you make it clear that it does.

 

[Steffi]

I wouldn't like for my DH to be kissing my girl friends on the lips, and I don't think my friends would appreciate him doing so, either. I'd have to just ask my husband to stop creeping people out and keep his lips to himself.

 

[Missy Mouse]

I'd have to just ask my husband to stop creeping people out and keep his lips to himself.

 

[RitaZ.]

If it bothers you, then it's a problem.

If DH kissed other females/friends on the lips, then we would definitely have a problem.

 

[disykat]

Creeping people out - That's the biggest objection I have too, and I'm suprised so few of us have mentioned it. I also find it creepy. There was a kisser at college and we all avoided him like a plague. We thought he was weird, desperate, and downright obnoxious. Looking back on it, I've realized we would have done him a big favor if we'd sat him down and had a talk with him.

In my opinion, you being upset is probably the least of your worries. If the women are shooting you looks it's probably not "is this okay with you?" it's probably "why are you letting him do this to me?"

 

[xyzabc33]

Wait...I am confused. (not that it is hard to confuse me but still..lol) Is HE kissing them or are THEY kissing him?.
IF they are kissing him, tell them to back off. If he is kissing them--Chicky, sit that boy down and tell him in no uncertain terms that the next time his lips make contact with another woman's then he is sleeping in the sidecar. (motorcycle analogy instead of the couch..lol)

My BF's family are HUGGERS....ugg! I am not a touchy feely person and I literally had to tell them to "DO NOT DO THAT" after asking/hinting numerous times. They keep their distance now. Then again we dont get along very well anymore so more of a reason to "DONT touch me!"

 

[lulugirl]

I'd have to just ask my husband to stop creeping people out and keep his lips to himself.

no kidding!
We have an older family friend who is a "lip kisser", it grosses us all out. I know it's completely innocent (as I'm sure it is in the OP's case) but it makes a lot of people uncomfortable.
A hug and kiss on the cheek is perfectly fine w/ me, but mouth kisses are only for Dh.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

If it's a typical "greeting kiss"...a quick peck...lips, cheek...who cares?

However, if it seems to be more than that, I'd discuss it with him provately and let him know it makes me uncomfortable.

I agree. Would not bother me if it was a quick little peck.

 

[ilovepcot]

Yuck!

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'd have to just ask my husband to stop creeping people out and keep his lips to himself.

Yes. Yuck.
As a wife, I'd be creeped out seeing my husband do that. Yuck.

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

I was was watching an old episode of Family Feud...and I think the host was Richard Dawson (early 1970's, I think)...anyway...This guy,as the host of the show, kisses every single female guest right on the lips!!!! It shocked me! Has anyone seen these old Family Feud shows????????

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

There is no way that I would feel comfortable if my DH kissed other woman on the lips. I don't kiss other men on the lips either.

 

[Charade]

my sil kisses me on the lips all the time, I spit as soon as she turns away

Obviously she can't be sexy.

 

[Buckalew11]

No way. We're not touchy feely though so it isn't an issue. It would bother me either way--him doing the kissing or them doing the kissing.

 

[poohandwendy]

I think that not only is that disrespectful to you, it is also disrespectful to the women he's kissing unless he has their permission.

ITA.

My mothers ex BF used to always kiss us on the lips when greeting us (her daughters and DIL) We hated it, our Dhs weren't thrilled by it either. It was never like a 'come on' or anything, we knew that, but it was a very uncomfortable invasion of our space and inappropriate. (it was a constant moving your head to try to avoid his lips...and he would actually go out of his way to give you a second kiss if you avoided the first one, not taking the hint) A hug? Great! A kiss on the cheek? great! A full kiss on the lips, even just in a friendly way? No thanks.

The worst part of it was that we sisters actually asked my mom to tell him to stop it, but she refused because she thought it was harmless. That wasn't the point, it was swarmy and made us uncomfortable. I think she was just afraid he would get offended or mad about it.

Please tell your DH that many women do not like it and the only reason they don't say anything to him about it is because they are trying to be nice. No one will miss him kissing them on the lips if he stops doing it...but many may be offended because he is doing it. Isn't it better to err on the side of caution where he knows he is not making others uncomfortable? Including you? (not to mention the fact that it does leave room for misinterpretation on the part of the woman or her SO)

In my opinion, you being upset is probably the least of your worries. If the women are shooting you looks it's probably not "is this okay with you?" it's probably "why are you letting him do this to me?"

Thank you!!!! That is exactly what some women are thinking.

 

[bumbershoot]

I was was watching an old episode of Family Feud...and I think the host was Richard Dawson (early 1970's, I think)...anyway...This guy,as the host of the show, kisses every single female guest right on the lips!!!! It shocked me! Has anyone seen these old Family Feud shows????????

Oh yes. Women LOVED it.



For the OP, ew, no, not OK, not normal.

 

[ticktock]

So after 20 years of marraige he just started doing this? I wouldn't think it was so innocent if he hadn't been kissing female friends all along. I would think he was "testing the waters" so to speak.

Just my opinion. I would tell him to cut it out and that if he had any day dreams about things going further than kisses that he probably would have a hard time paying for weekend biking trips with what the divorce settlement was going to cost him. Again JMO. Good luck.

 

[disney junky]

After 20 years, tell him it bothers you and I'll bet he'll be flattered that you care enough to mention it.

 

[JunieJay]

I was was watching an old episode of Family Feud...and I think the host was Richard Dawson (early 1970's, I think)...anyway...This guy,as the host of the show, kisses every single female guest right on the lips!!!! It shocked me! Has anyone seen these old Family Feud shows????????

There is a poster here on the DIS who was actually ON the show. She said it was so creepy having him come at her with those lips. He alwys looked like a drunk to me, the thought of kissing him makes me feel a little sick to my stomach....

 

[Pop Daddy]

There is a poster here on the DIS who was actually ON the show. She said it was so creepy having him come at her with those lips. He alwys looked like a drunk to me, the thought of kissing him makes me feel a little sick to my stomach....

really, who is it? I always thought he was just trying to be way to cool