Husband keeps reminding me....

[la79al]

Everytime I talk at all about our June trip, DH says, "you know this trip is not for me, right? I was manipulated into it." (Just say no honey, I swear I will speak to you again, eventually) In reality, I can't say that he is wrong. I really want to go back to DW. The kids really want to go back to DW. DH really doesn't see the big deal with DW. He did however, pay for the trip. So now my task is to try to make this trip as fun as possible for him. I need help. I am trying to save up money secretly so we can put the kids in a kids club one evening and hit PI. That would be a big deal for him. I have thought about fishing but I don't know how impressed he will be with catch and release in a lake when he is used to ocean fishing. I have looked into the RPExperience, but he is not really into NASCAR. I am down to trying to book cool places to eat and find other neat things he will enjoy. ( He thought riding in front of the monorail was pretty cool) Please help me figure out how to make this the most awesome family vacation to a man who doesn't seem to like DW.

 

[HunnyPots]

Honestly, if seeing Disney through the eyes of your children doesn't do it for him, I doubt if anything else will either. Do the PI thing with him one night for sure if you think he'll like it but I really wouldn't do much beyond that. Concentrate on making the trip fun for your children; he's a grown man and he'll either have a good time or not as per his choosing. I would however give him a break on the disney talk if it seems to upset him. Just make your plans and come here whenever you need to talk about your trip. We're always willing to talk Disney!

 

[kels*angels]

LMAO!!
And I thought mh dh was the only one!!! I cant get him excited! Me on the other hand.... i sleep...drink...eat...w/ Dis on the brain!!!
Its dh's 1st time there...and he has nooooo idea what to expect!
I think they will both be fine once they get there!!
Good luck~

 

[Kimberly815]

Segway around the world tour at Epcot!! My DH loved it. So did pretty much everyone else in our group.

 

[darlak]

Segway around the world tour at Epcot!! My DH loved it. So did pretty much everyone else in our group.

My DH is the same way, except that it sounds like he doesn't grumble quite as much. He just gives me that "smile" whenever we talk about it. I've booked him and DS-22 for the Segway tour and I think he's actually looking forward to that. My DS is really excited about it and I think it's rubbing off on my DH. We have a lunch ADR at Le Cellier that day, so my DD's and I will meet up with them at the restaurant after they finish their tour. Good luck and have fun!

 

[TeresaMc]

My DH is not a huge fan either.....he went last Sept, he should be good for a few years. Otherwise my son and my extended family go every year. It works out best for him to stay home and only go periodically. That said he just had me book a trip in June to take his recently widowed mother, who has never been.....so maybe it is the "happiest place on earth" in the back of his little mind. I was there the weekend before Easter extended a business trip by a couple of days, now June, and then our regular trip in September. I'm pretty Disney content right now.

 

[CampbellScot]

I'd probably have to smack my husband in a firm but loving way and say "QUIT BEING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE! You okay'd the trip, it's happening. So either be happy about it or hush!"

It's passive aggressive to agree to something and then spend the time between now and the trip reminding everyone how much you don't want to go. It puts a cloud over the enjoyment of others.

My very first trip to DW was ruined by a mean man who "reluctantly" agreed to go with me, I paid for the tickets and he ruined the short time he allowed me to be there by moping and rolling his eyes and just being a sullen jerk.

Really, you should tell your DH that it hurts your feelings that he continues to try and downplay your excitement.

just my opinion of course. I'm sure he's a lovely man who just doesn't have the Disney gene!

 

[SnwflkCts]

Although my DH doesn't get as excited as me, we had so much fun on our first trip that he enjoys going. No he doesn't eat, drink or sleep WDW (like myself and another poster said) but he listens.

One thing I let him do is take over when we get to the parks ... except for my must see rides ... which he asks about, we pretty much follow what he would like. We do discuss where we will eat before I make ADRs. We also do alot of pool time at the resort. He LOVES to swim in the pool. So all I can say "la79al" is make him feel he is important in the decision making. Maybe that will help.

Now I won't get into the whole "He did pay for it" thing cause YOU are worth it!!!!!

 

[Darcy03231]

If your DH truly doesn't want to go, why don't you take the kids and go by yourself. I've been doing it this way for years. DH hates Disney. He went once years ago and that was it for him. He doesn't mind the kids and I going as we love it. While we're gone he goes on a kayak/fishing/camping trip with his buddies (not my idea of a vacation - but to each his own). This way everyone's happy with what they're doing and we all have fun. Trying to vacation with someone who really doesn't want to be there isn't fun to me. The time he did go I felt like I spent all of my time trying to make him have a good time that I really didn't enjoy my vacation as much.

 

[Praying Colonel]

Has your DH been to WDW before? I had exactly the same attitude your DH had--before going to WDW for my 1st time, in 04. Now, I'm the biggest Disney geek in the family! We'd buy into DVC if it were up to me--DW keeps putting on the brakes on that one. So if your DH hasn't been before, have some hope that he can have a change of heart. It's been known to happen before.

 

[nikky]

Wow it sounds like my hubby belongs to this club of i can do without disney. I talk about disney he smiles and rolls his eyes. We arrive and he puts on the oh god must we do this face. I told him on our last trip make an effort or stay at home . For the price i am paying i could save what i spend on him and spend it on me and the kids. but no he comes says he will be good but he never is.lol

 

[scrappingtwinmom]

I say leave him home. We leave for our latest trip on Sunday, Dh is not a happy disney person so he's staying home and paying for the trip and I'm taking my sister and neice to help with my kids instead. If he can't be a happy disney guy then he can stay home! (and pay!)

Good luck, don't let him bully you into jumping through hoops to make him happy, he'll have as good a time as he makes up his mind to have. His mood is about him not you.

 

[Hidden_Mickey]

I say leave him home. Don't make him go if he doesn't want to. Or let him sleep late and hang by the pool and meet up with you and the kids later.

 

[kathmzh]

Just to let you know, there's hope for the not quite enthusiastic husbands --we just got back from our third trip, and my husband finally "got it."
I think he got better at letting the small annoyances go, and really just let himelf enjoy it. He went on more rides than ever before (because all the kids were) and found that he loved them. He also played a round of golf midweek, and that may have helped. But he was the first to say after we got home, "when are we going back?"!!

 

[Chadsgirl44]

I have to agree with the previous poster: I highly recommend the Segway Around the World Tour! My husband and son, both of whom indulge me in my WDW bi-annual fix, loved it. As a matter of fact we have done it 3x now. A special "adult" activity that my guys love.

 

[HdnMickeyGrl]

I agree with the Segway tour. My husband isn't that into Disney either but I think if I promised him a Segway tour he would go. (He's skipping the trip at the end of May)

Or, does your husband like trains? There is a Behind the Steam tour - you get to learn all about the trains and Walt's love for trains. He might get into Disney if he could learn something about it.

My husband also, for some unknown reason, became enamored with the plastic robots you can make at Innoventions. Don't ask me why? He was really excited about them and placed them all over the park to pose for pictures.

At one point he was taking a picture of them in front of Mission Space. I saw a couple (one was taking a picture of the other) I always offer to take pictures of people when it looks like they are leaving someone out. The guy with the camera turned to me and said "Are you sure you don't mind?" I guess he figured I might be busy or have some place to go. I told him "no, my husband is taking a picture of plastic robots." He just looked at me funny and gave me his camera....

 

[MermaidsMom]

The way I see it, and I am an expert in this area , you have 2 choices. When you get there let him do whatever he wants-- such as sleep in, swim, read, golf, etc...while you take the kids and have fun. Then you can all meet at dinner time and talk about your day. Or, he can stay home. Mine stays home now and works much like others have posted. Now my grown kids meet me there and we have a blast---and that's because I took them when they were little in spite of Mr. Grumpy. Now they like to spend time with me as adults!

 

[Grumpy987]

to Kels*Angels
"Me on the other hand.... i sleep...drink...eat...w/ Dis on the brain!!!"

Me too!!!

to the person who originated this thread:
I feel sorry for your husband to not be thrilled to go to Disney! I also feel sorry for you to have to put up with him. My husband is ok to go but isn't ever thrill like my DD and myself! We are going in June and cannot wait to be at Disney!

Good Luck!

 

[Simba's Mom]

I say leave him home. Don't make him go if he doesn't want to. Or let him sleep late and hang by the pool and meet up with you and the kids later.

ITA! Like others here, I think lots of us belong to that "club" of having DHs who could easily do without WDW. I didn't realize how stressful the vacation was for me when DH went with me and I was spending so much time worrying about "Will this make him PO'd/Will this make him happy?" Finally, I went on solo trips, and let him stay home and cat-sit. You know what happened? After I took about 3-4 solo trips, and came back all happy and telling him what a great time I had, I think he felt kind of left out-like he must be missing something-maybe this WDW place isn't so bad! I'll admit that when he goes, he doesn't get very enthusiastic about the parks. However, he really likes going with me-renting bikes, lying around the pool, sitting on the balcony, spending a couple hours doing a few rides or having a meal in the parks. The last couple trips now he even asks hopefully if I've planned a character meal. DHs that don't "get" WDW CAN change!

 

[stalkingmickey]

My husband is the same way!!!!!! When we went on our honeymoon to hawaii in september he said it was our last trip for a few years. I said OK honey In March I booked our trip to Disney for our 1 year anniversary To make this trip different than our outher disney trips I have booked us on a few tours.

I agree with the Segway tour he should love it.
We are doing the seas aqua tour
Keys to the kingdom tour
and I am booking lunch with an imagineer for him as a suprise.

He is not that excited right now, but even he has admitted that once he gets there he will have a blast. So keep the faith. At least you have your kids to share the excitment with. I have just my Dh who could care less right now