Husband keeps reminding me....

[floridacitrus]

Leave him home, take your DM, DS, DB etc to help with the kids and have a great time.

 

[disneycasemgr]

My DIL and I keep trying to leave my non-Disney loving DS and DH but they just won't stay home. They whine and complain and we always plan the trip without them but somehow they end up going in the end. I wish I could say they are thrilled to pieces when they get there but they just sort of tolerate it. My DH is not nearly as bad as my DS but like another poster said they can't stand to be left out either. Go figure.....

I agree that your hubby should love the Segway Tour - I plan to book that one for my DH & DS when we go in October.

 

[carrie1626]

I haven't even read the other responses, but I'll give you my "take on this situation" My husband is totally immune to "disney anything'

Do not expect to win him over, you won't

Do, do , do take things at a relaxed pace. My husband can't stand the "we have to get up and do this and then get here by so and so". By no means do I mean not planning, but overkill kills all enthusiam for my husband.

Ask him to give you ideas for one of your days. Even if you have to read out loud to him from this web site or whatever, let him decide on how to spend one day. It may not include WDW. We've had perfectly great days staying at the pool, going downtown for a movie or lunch and mini golf later.

Bacause you and your kids LOVE Disney, keep up your enthusiam, even if your husband can't. This is your vacation, too.

Advice for the possible future trips to WDW: Go without him.

 

[supersuperwendy]

My DH is interested in the SeasAqua tour...he wants to take our daughter...a daddy and daughter time..while i take my other daughter to BBB!

 

[honeybee30]

Thank goodness for my Disney-Partner-in-Crime! I don't know what I'd do without her!

But my Dad and BIL can be curmudgeons, so I know what you mean. My Mom and Sister can definitely relate.

The bottom line is you can't make someone have fun. As others have said, it's really up to him. What you can do is avoid situations that make you feel bad. For instance, if he doesn't like to plan, don't talk to him about it. It will only dampen your enthusiasm.

Also I'd only plan extra events that will enhance the vacation for everyone. If some adult time sounds like it would fun for both of you, and the kids would like the kid's club, then go for it!

You might also consider DisneyQuest, if your DH and Kids are gamers. (I know my BIL is looking forward to that on our next trip.) Or maybe sample different beers around World Showcase one day. The kids can do KidCot, and the grown-ups can knock back a few. There's something for everyone at WDW!

 

[cancer_survivor_06]

As my MIL has stated above, my dh would has done everything in is power to talk me out of disney. I have tried to go w/out him and everytime he is I will go even if he wasn't asked but luckily in aug and dec he wasn't able to go. Then he told me we could go if I did room, tickets, food, gas (both ways) and spending money all for 1000 dollars his hope was that I wouldn't be able to do so that we would be able to go. Well guess what I did it!

My main goal was to go for MNSSHP. The first party was the day before dds 1st bday and during free dining. I got my room food and tics for $576 and its 200 for gas round trip, so I have about 200 spending money not to mention dd3's bday is in aug and dd6's bday is in sept and they always get money so I only have to ask for disney dollars instead of cash.

Anyway~ long story short I have been racking my brains on what could we do to help my dh not be so "I don't want to go to disney again". We have since changed our plans and will now be going in oct w/ my MIL so this helps alot I will not have to bring my girls anywhere so it has made my planning easier and has given me more options. My dh is into comps so I thought disney quest would be a nice change of pace. I have also been looking to go to PI, I love the Adventurers Club. I have also thought about the segway tour for him. I have plans for us to do the family magic tour. I don't remember how old your children are but you may want to consider some of the tours that they have and if he could do them w/ one of the kids or if you can all do it together. Would he be in to going to Cirque Du Soleil w/ you.

 

[bytheblood]

My husband is not a fan of anything Disney other than a handful of movies....he sends us to go have fun without him.

Honestly, if he does not want to go, you should not expect him to. Maybe you should go and tell him to stay at home or go do something he loves to do.

 

[rie'smom]

Tell him to stay home. It's not up to you to help him enjoy the trip. Will his negativity help you to enjoy your trip?

 

[jsmla]

My hubby is not a big Disney fan either. One thing that works for us is to spend at least one non-Disney day on our trip. There's NASA or the beach or kayaking somewhere like Juniper Springs. Those would be good for the whole family to enjoy together and that's what a vacation is for, at least to me. Some people just aren't theme park people and a get away day helps a lot.

Another thing I've learned is that DH is not at all interested in the planning and he gets more excited about a trip if I don't spend the six months beforehand yakking about it.


Hope this helps!

Jennifer

 

[eliza61]

Everytime I talk at all about our June trip, DH says, "you know this trip is not for me, right? I was manipulated into it." (Just say no honey, I swear I will speak to you again, eventually) In reality, I can't say that he is wrong. I really want to go back to DW. The kids really want to go back to DW. DH really doesn't see the big deal with DW. He did however, pay for the trip. So now my task is to try to make this trip as fun as possible for him. I need help. I am trying to save up money secretly so we can put the kids in a kids club one evening and hit PI. That would be a big deal for him. I have thought about fishing but I don't know how impressed he will be with catch and release in a lake when he is used to ocean fishing. I have looked into the RPExperience, but he is not really into NASCAR. I am down to trying to book cool places to eat and find other neat things he will enjoy. ( He thought riding in front of the monorail was pretty cool) Please help me figure out how to make this the most awesome family vacation to a man who doesn't seem to like DW.

Why does he have to go? My dh does this too me all the time with camping. He and my ds love camping, I hate it.. He use to drag me along on the same "family time" pretense that you are using to blackmail your Dh. Then he spends so much time trying to make sure I'm having a good time that the poor man is exhausted. Now I no longer go. He has his mano-mano trip with the boys and I get some non mom time for myself.

While I don't want to seem cruel but if riding in the front of the monrail was what he thought was cool in all of WDW, maybe you have to accept that WDW is just not his cup of tea. That is perfectly ok. I know we dis'ers like to think that WDW is nirvanna but there are folks out there that really could take it or leave it.

P.S. Hey at least he's willing to pay for it!!

 

[1stluvispooh]

I have to admit at times I think I'm in the same boat of DH not a happy Disney Camper. After our last trip in Oct. I could tell that my sister, who usually vacations with my family so she actually gets a vacation, was a little sad that she had to stay at home and work As with several others my husbands man complaint is the cost. (Ok that's his complaint about everything) So I was trying to figure a way to go that wouldn't cost so much and it wouldn't be so crowded (good luck) and the kids and my sister were out of school. I was talking out loud about going at Christmas time thinking it was just going to be me the kids and my sis when DH pips in yeah that would be fun since I'm usually off work then too! Who is this guy and what has he done with my husband!

 

[Jen66]

Like many of you, my DH can pretty much take or leave WDW. On the other hand, he LOVES watching the kids experience the joy and magic, so he goes without too much complaint. In fact, as we were discussing our upcoming trip, he was the one who suggested booking AKL. He figures our DD (12) won't want to go to WDW with her parents for long. (He doesn't understand how badly she has been bitten by the Disney Bug, and I am not telling him!)
I do try to make the trip extra enjoyable for him with some extra planning. He is a foodie, so I book as many yummy ADR's as possible. He really like Marrakesh and Boma, so those are must dos. Also he likes beer, so we have drinks in the the countries. It is not hard to make our trip special for him. Also, I may be in the minority, but unless it is a just a long weekend, I do not want to travel without him. We do not usually do more than one long vacation a year, and the thought of not having my DH with us is not appealing.

 

[SGB13]

Tell him what your considering and let him help pick what he wants to do. It may be just the thing to get him excited about the trip. DH did a fishing excursion (not on disney property) while we were there and that made the trip for him. He was not looking forward to a character breakfast, DD and DS and I were. Everyone was happy. Once I mentioned the fishing idea to DH, he was much more into the trip and the planning.

 

[J.C.&ALI'SMOM]

These are some great suggestions! I thank God that I have a DH who loves WDW and has no problem with the cost. I am actually the one who tries to get him to agree to book a cheaper resort!

BUT, there are some people who do not get it and probably won't. My BIL is one. If I had a DH like that I would just have to take the girls by myself. I will take my kids to WDW but I am not going to listen to the complaining.

 

[nikky]

I wish mine paid for it. I wok for a year at a stinky grocery store at $10.00 an hour to pay for our disney vacations because he says we can't afford to go on vacation. but we can affored $11.00 a day on cigarettes though. Well what can u do either they like it or they don't i refuse to let his grumpyness ruin our trip. So he can either come with us to the park or sit by the pool all day.. But i sure am not giving him a dime to spend if he isn't with us at the park. i tell him he is on his own. Lol

 

[vic32]

I don't know if it's been mentioned but does he scuba? My DH scuba dived in the living seas last time we wnt! He loved it

 

[Idroveallnight]

My DH goes with us every 2nd or 3rd year. When he goes, he has fun. I do try to make sure he has some down time - he enjoys wandering off the beaten path at the hotel, finding a bench and smoking a cigar. The kids and I swim, whatever. It works for us!

 

[momsal]

my DH isn't into Disney so what I do is LEAVE HIM HOME
It is just going to be my DD and 2 DGDS He really would rather not go He just tells us to have a good time and he'll see us when we get home.

I don't want to go on his fishing/hunting trips but I don't mind if he goes. that is his thing.
Of course I don't have little ones to keep track of by myself either.

 

[mrzrich]

My DH was done withWDW about two years ago. We were always going commando, up for rope drop rushing to ADR's, parades, fireworks, etc. We left no stone unturned and didn't feel the need to come back in a few months to do it again. So I started planning not just for me, but for him too.

Instead of going comando, we slowed down the pace. He liked that better

I reserved the Train Tour just for him. He loved it!

A few months later we did just a weekend intead of full week. He liked this. Not doing everything meant there was stuff to look foward too!

Last weekend I went with my mom and left him home. Guess what! When I got home he asked "When do I get to go back?"

I immediately got online and booked a week at FW. We will enjoy a relaxed pace, he gets to camp. He's very excited.