hurt. *ironic update post 18*

[staley7580]

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off.
He CC'ed me and it was the exact same time. Maybe we are more in sync than I thought.

He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego. he said that I had made so many sacrifices for his career that I deserved a break.

So I am feeling rather sheepish at the moment.

I sent him the link to this thread and we talked about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant I appreciate the support

Awww!! How wonderful!!!

 

[wall*e2008]

Glad to see this worked out for you.

 

[harleyquinn]

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off.
He CC'ed me and it was the exact same time. Maybe we are more in sync than I thought.

He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego. he said that I had made so many sacrifices for his career that I deserved a break.

So I am feeling rather sheepish at the moment.

I sent him the link to this thread and we talked about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant I appreciate the support

That's awesome! What a sweetheart!

 

[GoodFairies]

I understand you being upset but I have to wonder in this economy if it's a wise move to e-mail the boss "sorry I can't go on the business trip we have planned in 2 weeks because I have to spend time with my wife."

 

[robinb]

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off.
He CC'ed me and it was the exact same time. Maybe we are more in sync than I thought.

He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego. he said that I had made so many sacrifices for his career that I deserved a break.

So I am feeling rather sheepish at the moment.

I sent him the link to this thread and we talked about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant I appreciate the support

Great news! It's only about an hour and a half to Disneyland .

 

[mommasita]

I am SO glad to hear it. Make some extra plans now!!!!!

 

[MushyMushy]

I am so glad it worked out for you!

I didn't think you sounded like a spoiled brat. You can't help feeling disappointed. Although the business reward trip sounds like it *should* be fun, I don't think it would be for either you or your husband. If he's around people he works with, he'll have to behave differently and he won't be able to completely relax or be himself. Neither will you. It's just not the same.

 

[minniecarousel]

I think you're not being unreasonable. Adding a couple of days after the business stuff is over makes sense. You're not even insisting on celebrating on the exact day! I hear what you're saying: he's not wanting to do anything special for your Anniversary. I'd be hurt too!

I hope you can have a heart-to-heart and come up with a compromise.

ETA: Great! I like your update. (I'm at work, and darn it, they keep interrupting my DISing!)

 

[binny]

Thanks

Now I am planning a couple of days there.

He also said that it didnt matter if we went to see his family or not. We compromised, we are going to cut the vacation short that we had planned to his family and take the extra days to spend just the 5 of us on the way back.

Thanks again.


I hope everyone who can empathize can come find some happiness in their situations as well.

 

[Cool-Beans]

I understand you being upset but I have to wonder in this economy if it's a wise move to e-mail the boss "sorry I can't go on the business trip we have planned in 2 weeks because I have to spend time with my wife."

It didn't say he wasn't going on the business trip. It said he wanted to take a few extra days.

I don't see the purpose of saying why and adding all the personal stuff, but whatever. People often tack a few extra days of vacation to business trips.

Glad you're getting your time, OP.

 

[TLSnell1981]

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off.
He CC'ed me and it was the exact same time. Maybe we are more in sync than I thought.

He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego. he said that I had made so many sacrifices for his career that I deserved a break.

So I am feeling rather sheepish at the moment.

I sent him the link to this thread and we talked about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant I appreciate the support

Awwww.....now I'm weepy. This is THE BEST anniversary present you could have received.

 

[Tinkin]

Our 40th is coming up in March, and we have never done anything, that's Sad !!!!!!!!!!!

I don't think that's sad. We've been together 16 years (married 10) and don't really do anything special on our anniversay, we exchange cards but that's about as far as it goes.

Every morning while I am rushing around getting ready for work and rushing to get our 11yr old DD ready for school my husband makes breakfast for us. I would much rather have that than a special dinner out once a year.

 

[agnes!]

Awwwwww.... He's a keeper .
So he asked for some time off to extend the trip right?

Girl, you have GOT to contact the San Diego DIS'er who posted on this thread sounds like she could help you plan a little something for your DH & you.

And make sure you schedule some spa treatments and/or massages while DH is in his meetings .

Oooooo, and maybe you can do some shopping too ? I know that the planners have events scheduled all the time but there has GOT to be some downtime in the weekend, do they expect the spouses to be at everything too?

Hope not, that massage and those new shoes are calling your name ...

agnes!

 

[GoodFairies]

Then he tells me that he will be out of town the week of our anniversary but has planned to come back the night of our anniversary so we can at least go to dinner.

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off. He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego.

It didn't say he wasn't going on the business trip. It said he wanted to take a few extra days.

I don't see the purpose of saying why and adding all the personal stuff, but whatever. People often tack a few extra days of vacation to business trips.

Glad you're getting your time, OP.

Yeah, he did. He is cancelling the 2nd business trip to add vacation days to the first one.

 

[lucyanna girl]

Thanks wonderful. I'm glad things worked out for the two of you.

Penny

 

[binny]

I understand you being upset but I have to wonder in this economy if it's a wise move to e-mail the boss "sorry I can't go on the business trip we have planned in 2 weeks because I have to spend time with my wife."

It was adding on to the reward trip (that is planned over a weekend) We were going to add on Monday and Tuesday.

His business trips are pretty easy to schedule. Unless there is a trade show or a set business meeting, he pretty much makes his own schedule.

 

[Brit17]

We had planned to be on a cruise and renew our vows. Well with his promotion and not knowing when we were going to be moving we canceled that.

Then he tells me that he will be out of town the week of our anniversary but has planned to come back the night of our anniversary so we can at least go to dinner.

I am really hurt. He just doesn't seem to care at all.

ETA: the more I read this the more I realize I do sound like a spoiled brat. I really dont mean to. I am just really disapointed that this doesnt seem to mean anything to him. That he doesnt see that this is important to me.

I dont ask for something for every anniversary but we have been through so much in the last couple of years and its a pretty big deal for us to hit this anniversary.

I don't think you're being spoiled brat ... I just think that you are deeply hurt because you don't think your DH really cares about your feelings anymore or maybe even you ... but maybe with his new promotion and it sounds like you will be moving soon, he is just a little bit more preoccupied with things and maybe more stressed and doesn't truly realize how you are feeling ... maybe you can try and tell him again ... or maybe you can just plan something special for a later date and then surprise him with the details ... I know my DH loves when I do all the planning and then just tell him when and where he has to be and at what time ... and believe me, there have been many times when I've had to change and/or cancel plans at the last minute due to whatever reason and sometimes birthdays and anniversaries aren't celebrated for a month or so late ... but I've just learned to just go with the flow ... and then I go and buy myself something nice instead ...

I hope everything works out for you and your DH and you both have a Happy Anniversary ...

 

[binny]

Yeah, he did. He is cancelling the 2nd business trip to add vacation days to the first one.

the 2nd one wasnt booked yet, he works from home so he just sends his plans to his boss about a month in adnvance. Until theyre booked ( and sometimes after they are) things are tentative.

 

[Chicago526]

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off.
He CC'ed me and it was the exact same time. Maybe we are more in sync than I thought.

He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego. he said that I had made so many sacrifices for his career that I deserved a break.

So I am feeling rather sheepish at the moment.

I sent him the link to this thread and we talked about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant I appreciate the support

I'm so glad it worked out! Don't feel bad, likely your DH picked up on your "vibe" and that's what tipped the scale, if you hadn't been upset, he may not have changed his plans to spend time with you!

Things have a way of working out for the best. Just focus on having a good time on your extended trip!

 

[sorcerormickey]

Oh, binny, I am so glad for you! He sure sounds like a keeper!!

Could he teach my BF/SO/whatever-he-is some things?? He hurt me very badly over Thanksgiving and we broke up (I posted about it here). We are trying to salvage our relationship, but it is slow and akward.

Our 15 year anniversary is at the end of this month and it is killing me.