how would you handle this ?

[RachaelA]

Regarding the bolded .. yeah, apparently.

The problem here is... it's not that just SOME people don't agree with you, OP, it's that 30-some PAGES worth of people don't agree with you, and yet you don't even bat an eyelash. It's fascinating, really.

Good catch! I missed that. OP, pot meet kettle.

 

[Hannathy]

Here's to hoping the kid knows how to knit so she can pass the hours spent alone in her bedroom without any form of anything until sleep finally comes to transport her from the hell she's living in.

I do to but how would she buy the yarn remember the OP doesn't give her kids allowances.

 

[daisyduck123]

Here's to hoping the kid knows how to knit so she can pass the hours spent alone in her bedroom without any form of anything until sleep finally comes to transport her from the hell she's living in.

There are plenty of American Girl dolls in her house for her to play with...as long as she doesn't mind some mouse feces.

 

[vickyBaby]

Regarding the bolded .. yeah, apparently.

The problem here is... it's not that just SOME people don't agree with you, OP, it's that 30-some PAGES worth of people don't agree with you, and yet you don't even bat an eyelash. It's fascinating, really.

It's fascinating that for over 3 years this woman has posted about how horribly she has treated this child. People have repeatedly called her out on her actions yet she keeps coming back for more and trying to justify what she is doing.

 

[Cinderella94]

There are plenty of American Girl dolls in her house for her to play with...as long as she doesn't mind some mouse feces.

Now, now, don't worry. The bleach took care of all that.

 

[pyrxtc]

Regarding the bolded .. yeah, apparently.

The problem here is... it's not that just SOME people don't agree with you, OP, it's that 30-some PAGES worth of people don't agree with you, and yet you don't even bat an eyelash. It's fascinating, really.

It's that those who don't agree with all of you send me PM's instead of posting here. A lot of these thirty pages are the same people over and over again.

 

[Cinderella94]

It's that those who don't agree with all of you send me PM's instead of posting here. A lot of these thirty pages are the same people over and over again.

Because you keep avoiding our questions that we want answered .

 

[LiberalPrincess]

It's that those who don't agree with all of you send me PM's instead of posting here. A lot of these thirty pages are the same people over and over again.

Sure they do. And you get no phone reception, no parking at her school, no insurance unless she has the same address and the list goes on and on. .

 

[crashbb]

Ah yes...the old "Everyone posting disagrees with me but I've got lots of supporters too scared to post here - they've been PMing me".

Nice to see that the OP is following the set plan (goes along with deleting old posts).

 

[Cinderella94]

Sure they do. And you get no phone reception, no parking at her school, no insurance unless she has the same address and the list goes on and on. .

Glad I'm not the only one who thought that!
Sorry OP. You're not fooling anyone.

 

[golfgal]

I forgot the number 1 rule of posting anything on the DIS. Only post it if everyone agrees with you, if you do not change your ind to their way of thinking, then you are wrong. if it is any way that can be construed as controversial then be ready with some popcorn. And posters on this board like to start things in threads of which they know nothing about. No matter how much you explain or say things in your post, unless you say it 50 ways til Wednesday, they cannot read it or see it because you are wrong. No matter what I say or explain behind it, it will be turned on me. There are those who will think what they want and their minds will not be changed.I will keep my posts about my children to myself and on the parenting board I am on and with my friends. I just did not talk to them about this since we have not told everyone about this happening and won't until she is here with the court papers to back it up.

So I vent about things going on in my life twice in 3 yrs and I am an awful parent. Thanks for the laughs and advice, whether I take it or not is up to DH and me. Did you really think I'd be posting about how you are all right (not) and I am wrong .... Don't think so !

Ok, OP, I will say it--you are WRONG in your expectations for your step-daughter, period. When you have 30 pages of people telling you are wrong doesn't that even BEGIN to trigger something in your brain that says, 'maybe we should rethink this"? You asked for advice, were given 30 pages of people telling you you are wrong and you STILL think you are right . I like the boarding school idea.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

Did you really think I'd be posting about how you are all right (not) and I am wrong .... Don't think so !

Of course not! I just figured that at least one time during this endless thread, you'd give other people's suggestions some thought. Your thread is called "How would you handle this?". Apparently, not one single person on Disboards would handle this situation like you. Instead of discussing your alternatives, you immediately fall into drill sergeant mode, letting us all know that ANY type of give on your part is unacceptable. Why on earth did you start this thread?

 

[Scurvy]

Ah yes...the old "Everyone posting disagrees with me but I've got lots of supporters too scared to post here - they've been PMing me".

Nice to see that the OP is following the set plan (goes along with deleting old posts).

Isn't that usually followed by storming off of the thread and/or asking the mods to close or delete it, then laying low for a few days, then posting again as though the whole thing never happened, and then getting offended if anyone dares to bring it up on one of your threads in the future?

I must admit I find it awfully strange that people are apparently afraid to publicly support you, OP, but are choosing to PM you instead. People argue about everything on here - it's almost impossible to find a thread where at least one person (besides the OP) doesn't disagree with everyone else. Why do you suppose this thread is different?

 

[MaumeeMom]

Wow, I went away to run errands and serve dinner and I return to deleted posts and a OP who is sounding even more stubborn than before.

I forgot to quote whomever first mentioned boarding school but I think that sounds like a brilliant idea!

 

[AshleyW]

Well, OP is doing a pretty good job getting rid of all her nasty posts from the past... but she missed a few. and honestly, it's making me absolutely sick to hear how she talks about this poor girl.

An old snippet of a post:

"I am still not doing summers! I grew up with a half sister who was there only for the summers and we still do no get along. I don't want to put my other kids through that, having a bossy older sister all summer. If she is going to be just like her mother, I'd rather not make my kids go thru that all summer. Weekends are small doses and DH and myself are around to supervise but duing the summer, they will be outside together a lot more and the kids shouldn't have to put up with that.

SDD has already been to the point that she has said she hates my DD and told her that I am a witch (with the other letter) and she dos not need to hear that. My boys are getting older and don't need to hear it either. I ahted evry day that my sister was home, holding the older status above my head and being able to do whatever she wanted. She was great to my siblings however. And it's not just me about my sister, my DH can't stand her either. the way she acts and is always trying to one-up me. She is always asking him questions about us to amke sure she is still better than us when we couldn't care less. I'm glad she lives on the other side of the country! I coulnd' deal with her fo more than a few hours at a time. "

Sorry if the above post was already posted in this thread (after 30 pages, I've lost track ) but ugh... 'wicked stepmother' is an understatement.

 

[Magic Mom]

Poor poor child. Two parents that apparently can't be bothered to care, and a step mother that wants to crush her under her "high authority." OP, you have always come across as hateful towards her. If something happened to you, and your husband remarried, how would you want YOUR children treated?

 

[Mermaid02]

Well, OP is doing a pretty good job getting rid of all her nasty posts from the past... but she missed a few. and honestly, it's making me absolutely sick to hear how she talks about this poor girl.

An old snippet of a post:

"I am still not doing summers! I grew up with a half sister who was there only for the summers and we still do no get along. I don't want to put my other kids through that, having a bossy older sister all summer. If she is going to be just like her mother, I'd rather not make my kids go thru that all summer. Weekends are small doses and DH and myself are around to supervise but duing the summer, they will be outside together a lot more and the kids shouldn't have to put up with that.

SDD has already been to the point that she has said she hates my DD and told her that I am a witch (with the other letter) and she dos not need to hear that. My boys are getting older and don't need to hear it either. I ahted evry day that my sister was home, holding the older status above my head and being able to do whatever she wanted. She was great to my siblings however. And it's not just me about my sister, my DH can't stand her either. the way she acts and is always trying to one-up me. She is always asking him questions about us to amke sure she is still better than us when we couldn't care less. I'm glad she lives on the other side of the country! I coulnd' deal with her fo more than a few hours at a time. "

Sorry if the above post was already posted in this thread (after 30 pages, I've lost track ) but ugh... 'wicked stepmother' is an understatement.

 

[Cinderella94]

Well, OP is doing a pretty good job getting rid of all her nasty posts from the past... but she missed a few. and honestly, it's making me absolutely sick to hear how she talks about this poor girl.

An old snippet of a post:

"I am still not doing summers! I grew up with a half sister who was there only for the summers and we still do no get along. I don't want to put my other kids through that, having a bossy older sister all summer. If she is going to be just like her mother, I'd rather not make my kids go thru that all summer. Weekends are small doses and DH and myself are around to supervise but duing the summer, they will be outside together a lot more and the kids shouldn't have to put up with that.

SDD has already been to the point that she has said she hates my DD and told her that I am a witch (with the other letter) and she dos not need to hear that. My boys are getting older and don't need to hear it either. I ahted evry day that my sister was home, holding the older status above my head and being able to do whatever she wanted. She was great to my siblings however. And it's not just me about my sister, my DH can't stand her either. the way she acts and is always trying to one-up me. She is always asking him questions about us to amke sure she is still better than us when we couldn't care less. I'm glad she lives on the other side of the country! I coulnd' deal with her fo more than a few hours at a time. "

Sorry if the above post was already posted in this thread (after 30 pages, I've lost track ) but ugh... 'wicked stepmother' is an understatement.

I saw those too what a sad situation.

 

[Mermaid02]

If that girl found this thread she could use it to get emancipated.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

An old snippet of a post:

SDD has already been to the point that she has said she hates my DD and told her that I am a witch (with the other letter) and she dos not need to hear that. My boys are getting older and don't need to hear it either. I ahted evry day that my sister was home, holding the older status above my head and being able to do whatever she wanted. She was great to my siblings however. And it's not just me about my sister, my DH can't stand her either. the way she acts and is always trying to one-up me. She is always asking him questions about us to amke sure she is still better than us when we couldn't care less. I'm glad she lives on the other side of the country! I coulnd' deal with her fo more than a few hours at a time. "

Sorry if the above post was already posted in this thread (after 30 pages, I've lost track ) but ugh... 'wicked stepmother' is an understatement.

Not that I am defending OP, but I think (and hope beyond belief) that she is referring to her own sister and not her stepdaughter in this post. However, it does explain a lot of the resentment. It stems back to her relationship with her own sister.