How would you feel? Vent SIL

[disykat]

I'd be more inclined to say something to my daughter than her. Like "aunt so and so is just joking, you know I'd love to help you with all that stuff if you want me to and it's too many years away to worry about now!"

I wouldn't want my SIL to be elbowing in, nor would I want my dd getting the idea that she should start planning her wedding at age 8!

 

[ducklite]

I wouldn't worry about it. Aaout the time you're daughter is getting ready to get married, your SIL will be barefoot and pregnant for the fourth time, juggling car pools and teacher conferences, and dealing with your daughters wedding will be the least thing on her mind.

Anne

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'd be more inclined to say something to my daughter than her. Like "aunt so and so is just joking, you know I'd love to help you with all that stuff if you want me to and it's too many years away to worry about now!"

I wouldn't want my SIL to be elbowing in, nor would I want my dd getting the idea that she should start planning her wedding at age 8!

I like the idea of saying something to your DD. Let her know that's what mom's are for.

I'd pick any one of the comments mentioned by pps to get the point across in a joking way, "you'll do it only in your dreams". I'd make the comment funny and light and move on quick to something else.

P.S.- I'd be annoyed with SIL. I wouldn't want her telling my DD she would be the one for her on her special day. SIL can think what she wants, but I wouldn't want her telling that stuff to my DD. And to go on and on about it while you are there? Rude. She sounds like a self-centered fruitcake.

 

[NikiM20]

Ya know with all the bad SIL's out there I hope I am a good one if my brother ever decides to marry.

Let all of us with bad SIL's unite

 

[UrsulasShadow]

26 is old enough to know better.

I have a SIL who insisted my son looked more like he belonged to her than me. She just felt bad because neither of her children look anything like her, and didn't mean anything by it. My son now looks almost exactly like a boy clone of me, so I'm vindicated.

Your SIL is probably starting to imagine what it would be like to have children of her own, and doing a little playacting with your DD. I wouldn't get too worked up about it.

 

[Disney Doll]

I wouldn't sweat it. She sounds a bit immature and spoiled, and the bottom line is that you're the mother, so you'll be going with your DD.

 

[mommasita]

I wouldn't worry about it. Aaout the time you're daughter is getting ready to get married, your SIL will be barefoot and pregnant for the fourth time, juggling car pools and teacher conferences, and dealing with your daughters wedding will be the least thing on her mind.

Anne

I am not picturing this, and am having a good old time. Thanks Anne.

 

[mommasita]

I wouldn't sweat it. She sounds a bit immature and spoiled, and the bottom line is that you're the mother, so you'll be going with your DD.

Yes, you are right

 

[dimimi]

Well, I don't know - is she going to pay for your daughter's dress, shoes, the hall, etc?

I think I'd be annoyed, too, though.

This is exactly what I thought. Laugh it off, tell her as long as she is paying for everything, it's fine with you....Some people!