How many kids do you have?

[d1sneyf4n]

I am not a nice person. I would tell the family that when they are paying for your kids, bills, and everything else THEN they get to decide how many kids you have. And not a minute before. My DS is a teen. My pregnancy was horrible, then a few years later I had cancer in my reproductive organs. I went through three separate surgeries to get rid of everything. I was told I would not be able to carry another pregnancy. DBF wanted a baby but was told he couldn't have any. Trying to convince his family we weren't going to have any was just fun. Then once we had them convinced, I got pregnant. I had some problems but it was actually a pretty easy pregnancy. DD is two months old now.
See I look at things like Disney and how much more expensive it will be when we have to start buying her a ticket. I have had to buy all new baby stuff since I haven't had a baby in some time. Diapers, wipes, formula, and baby food all cost a fortune. Kids are expensive. BUT if you want them and can afford them, will love them, then have as many as you and your hubby are comfortable having. BTW, my brother wanted a football team. He had four then stopped. This is between you and your husband not the whole family. You didn't get to tell everyone else how many kids to have. And I don't think the gender of the kids really matters. Have as many as you want.

I am sure you are a very nice person.

 

[kim_o]

We have three with one on the way (10, 8, 4).

One - "you don't want just one - they'll be spoiled".

Two - "everything's perfect now, you don't need anymore".

Three - "wow - why did you do that? You really want three children?"

Four - "do you think you're the Duggar family? Let me get you the number to my doctor that took care of my husband."

Yes, we feel like we've heard it all.

Haha...my mother makes the exact same jump 4 kids = Duggar family aspirations

 

[d1sneyf4n]

Thank you all for your replies. They are much appreciated.

 

[Lucky'sMom]

Our youngest 3 are "homemade" and in the fall of '08, we adopted the oldest 2 from Russia. We felt complete with the 3, but just felt we were "called" to adopt them. It has been a wonderful experience, and they have adjusted amazingly well to life as a teenager in America. They have been to WDW twice now, and I can't wait to plan their 3rd! Life is crazy for sure, we're constantly driving someone to something...but I wouldn't trade it for anything.

 

[tinkermom23]

We have 3- a 10 yr old and 3 yr old twins.

I would love to have more but we're afraid of another set of multiples... that would push me over the edge for sure!!

We have talked about maybe adopting in a few years but for now DH says we have all we can handle.

 

[HunnyJar]

We have two right now with one more on the way.

My son is 14 and after five years of dealing with infertility we were blessed to have our little girl (almost 1). By some miracle and without any medical assistance somehow we ended up getting pregnant again! I honestly don't know if we will have more, we're pretty happy with the family we have right now.

 

[MickeyHereWeCome!]

We have four: ds12, dd9, ds6, ds4.....we're done

 

[Britgirlus]

Just the one !! We had him 3 weeks before my 40th birthday (dh was 48 at the time). I would have liked more, but we met late in life, and it wasn't to be. I never wanted an only child, but we are enjoying every second of him. I run a daycare, though - so it IS nice at the end of the day to only have to deal with one

 

[Luv Bunnies]

We have 2 beautiful boys - 14 & 11. That's enough for us.

We also have 4 silly bunnies to add to the fun!

 

[PebblesMom]

We have two. Oldest DS is 2 and youngest DS is almost 1 month. We are happy with two! I used to think I wanted more, but two keep me very busy. I also used to think I was great at multi-tasking, but a 2 year old and a newborn have me re-thinking that! Parents who have several really have my respect

 

[littlbugmom]

Did your families think u were nuts for having more than 2 kids? My family has told me that all u need is a boy and a girl and u have it so u do not need anymore(DH Family). My mom has told me that I should not have anymore kids bc it will disrupt the bond that my 2 kids have now. My brother who has 2 kids himself will say now it is more money I need to spend(we are very close, he just always has money on the brain, hates to spend it and never thinks he has it).

I have 6 sisters and 2 brothers. My parents probably wouldn't have raised an eyebrow until I hit child #10!


However, I have 2....DD9 and DS5. DH and I initially planned on having 3 but a hysterectomy squashed that. We discussed adopting a child but as every year goes by, it's harder and harder to imagine another person in our family.

While discussing how many children we wanted, we decided on 3. We both come from large families and money was always a problem. The bills were paid (most of the time) but there was little else and that was sometimes very difficult. I'm not saying I was unhappy because I loved having so many siblings. I'm not even saying that having 5 or 6 would be the same kind of struggle for us because DH and I make a lot more than my parents did.....but I think growing up $20 from the poverty line made me a little skittish.


Of my 8 siblings, only one sister has more than 2 kids...the rest have 1 or 2. That sister has 3, the last one coming 15 yrs after the first 2.

 

[WDW Traveler]

I only have the one DD11 . When DH and I first got together we talked about 2 children. Well, when Haillie was born, DH was not helpful AT ALL. I basically did everything AND worked a full time job . After a few years of that I decided that she was all I wanted. She is the light of my life and I am happy that I decided to just have her. We are very close and are great friends.

 

[princessmom29]

Just one DD6 and that is perfect for us! I had a really tough pregnancy. I was vomiting or in pain the entire 9 months, and she had colic the first 3 months of her life. Neither are experiences I care to repeat! In all seriousness I get "when are you going to have another one?" all the time from friends and family, along with the ever popular "it's not fair to let her be an only child." I have learned to tune it out over the years. I have told close family in no uncertian terms that I do not intend to have anyomre, and really don't care what the rest of the world has to say about it! DD is perfectly happy and so are we. That's all that matters.

 

[DevilDog]

We have 5.....DS 10, DS 6, DS 4, DD 3 (finally), and one more DS 1 just for good measure.

Things are crazy....but I wouldn't trade it for the world.

 

[MandM-Mom]

3-------Always wanted 4 (never wanted an odd number) but our third was born with special needs and I don't think 4 is in our future now, I feel spread too thin now with 3. I worry I don't divide my time well enough between them

 

[sl_underwood]

We have 3 at home, 2 angels in heaven, and 18 who entered our lives for only a short time (through foster care), though they are gone from our home they still remain close to our hearts. Recently, we decided that we were done trying to adopt more children. Our family is finally complete.

 

[shaylahc1]

I have 4. My oldest and youngest have particularly difficult temperaments. I thought going from 2-3 was the hardest. By the time #4 arrived we were already certifiable and he fit in to the chaos nicely

I do have to say it does NOT get easier as they get older....it's just different. I remember when mine were really small sometimes the only thing that got me through the day was remembering that they would eventually grow up some day I figured by the time everyone was sleeping through the night and potty trained we'd have it made I must have been delusional 13 is much harder than the toddler years ever were. And it does get exponentially more expensive as they get older because they eat like horses and everything they need gets bigger and more expensive. It's like having a couple more adults to support financially as they get closer to the teen/adult years.

I love my kids to pieces but 4 is (more than) enough!

 

[weswife]

Hi,

I have 3

DD 21

DD 16 she has special needs and uses a wheelchair fulltime

DS 11 born on my Mom's b-day! Mine is the next day!

They all have brought something special to our family!

I did consider having another within 2 years of DS but never did. Its kind of a joke between DD 21 and me. She always tells me "You better not come home pregnant!" I reply I should be telling you that!!! LOL!!! The truth is can't wait to be a grandmother, when the time is right!
So, yes our family is complete!

 

[sahmoftwo]

We also have 2...dd is 5 and ds is 2. They are a handful and I think we might be done.

 

[reservations4five]

We have 3- DD 12, DD8 and DD 8 (twins) we are looking to adopt from the foster system, 2 more DS. I feel as though I am being lead to this crazy mixed up life for a reason.