How do you handle Facebook invitations?

[sk!mom]

Two things happened today that have me thinking about this.

First two distant relatives got into a tiff this morning on FB over who added me to a LipSense group. They both wanted the discount credit for adding me. As it happened, they both added me- One a week ago and I left the group so then the other was able to add me today. I'm staying out of it since I don't even want to be part of the group. I hate that people can add you without your acceptance. I'm constantly leaving LulaRoe, Lip Sense, It Works, etc...

Then, I just got a text from a friend asking about a mutual friend's Mary Kay party tonight. The text, "X says that she invited you but she hasn't heard from you so I offered to text you and ask if you are going." This was one of those mass, invite everyone you can, on FB invites. I don't treat those as personal invites that require a response. Am I impolite to just ignore? For the record, I always RSVP to personal invitations.

 

[Hikergirl]

For those home party type invites I usually ignore. If its a birthday party of something like that I will RSVP.

If you don't want to be included then I would message the people who add you to a group and tell them you aren't interested in buying anything they are selling and to please not include you in the group.

 

[wenrob]

I ignore and leave groups the second I'm added. You can also block more invites when you leave the group which I also do. My friends know better so if the ones that add me anyway get butt hurt, too bad, so sad. I don't want to buy anyone's Woo or MLM crap.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I only accept invitations for stuff I'm actually interested in.

 

[mamacatnv]

I too leave groups and ignore mass invites unless its of interest. IMO no personal response was required. The hostess is drumming up attendees and thus the friend that reached out. I would respond to the friend that reached out but certainly not the mass invite.
Thankfully I am at the age where home parties are a thing of the past

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I'm not a fan of the mass invitation for product parties. I always feel like the people are just looking for numbers and don't really care who actually attends. If it's an invitation for a party from someone I know well (like a graduation open house), I will definitely respond.

Last week, a neighborhood friend had a moms-only party. They were going to swim, eat, drink, no men or kids allowed. I received a Facebook invite about two weeks before the party. It looked like it might be fun, so I checked the RSVP list to see if anyone I know was going to be there. I noticed that many people had declined the invitation in early June. It seemed to me that, in order to get more people to attend, the hostess sent out a "second wave" of invitations and I fell in that group. Yes I was invited, but obviously not on the "first choice" list. It's not really a big deal. It just felt weird to me, like "I want more people at my party so I'll move on to the next tier of friends." If she had done it all through the mail or personal email, no one would know who had been invited or when. Social media makes it all so transparent.

 

[Capang]

I'm not big on Facebook invites. Unless it is something a close friend or family member is hosting I usually click can't go and leave the group. I did get a really nice email invite for a birthday party for my daughters friend. That came through email though and was a very nice invitation.
Today I got added to some Facebook fundraising page for someone I have never met. I can't seem to leave the group so I just unfollowed the friend that is hosting the page.

 

[wilkeliza]

Ugh those stupid groups I just ignore and try desperately to let my friends and family know that I do not want to be involved in those things. You can actually set when you leave a group to prevent people from re-adding you but I'm not sure if there is a setting where you can prevent people from inviting you to parties etc. If they are doing a "digital" party and send out invites then I just put no and politely message the person doing the invite to take me off their list. If it gets too much I remove the friend from my facebook. Tough I know but I want my facebook to be for seeing what people are doing with their lives and their kids, pets, travels, etc not what fad they are selling now.

 

[sk!mom]

I too leave groups and ignore mass invites unless its of interest. IMO no personal response was required. The hostess is drumming up attendees and thus the friend that reached out. I would respond to the friend that reached out but certainly not the mass invite.
Thankfully I am at the age where home parties are a thing of the past

I hate MLM and never buy anything and recently it has gotten out of control in my friend's list. I thought that I too had aged out of home parties and then this...

I'm not a fan of the mass invitation for product parties. I always feel like the people are just looking for numbers and don't really care who actually attends. If it's an invitation for a party from someone I know well (like a graduation open house), I will definitely respond.

Last week, a neighborhood friend had a moms-only party. They were going to swim, eat, drink, no men or kids allowed. I received a Facebook invite about two weeks before the party. It looked like it might be fun, so I checked the RSVP list to see if anyone I know was going to be there. I noticed that many people had declined the invitation in early June. It seemed to me that, in order to get more people to attend, the hostess sent out a "second wave" of invitations and I fell in that group. Yes I was invited, but obviously not on the "first choice" list. It's not really a big deal. It just felt weird to me, like "I want more people at my party so I'll move on to the next tier of friends." If she had done it all through the mail or personal email, no one would know who had been invited or when. Social media makes it all so transparent.

Oh wow, I bet that mom didn't realize how transparent it would be. Did you go?

 

[wgeo]

I ignore every single invite I get, if someone hasn't sent me a personal invitiation they don't get a response. That sounds a little mean, but the party invites have gotten ridiculous in my opinion. Again I'm just specifically talking about the selling party invites. I am bothered by their marketing tactics.

If I get an invite to my next book club I'll respond because I asked to be in that group.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

I'm not on FB anymore but when I was if it was an invite from friends or family (birthday, housewarming, BBQ, etc,) I would respond. I would respond to their jewelry or makeup parties too, usually saying No.

Everyone I know mostly uses Evite or the Hobnob app now instead of FB.

 

[bigbabyblues]

If it is an invite to an actual event, I always rsvp. If it is an online event, I usually click "not going" so I don't grt reminders about it. If it is a group I don't wanted to be added to, I leave the group, but that has only happened a couple of times. I am in a few LulaRoe groups, but I did that myself because I like some of the clothes (not the leggings tho).

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Ughhh...LipSense made my lips BURN...BURN I tell ya!! And I had to use a special wand just to get it off my lips! But back to your original post....I typically ignore those online invites.

 

[monorailsilver]

I ignore the invites.

I also hate the constant status updates on this wonderful product that makes you lose body fat, get rid of pimples, decrease your age by 30 years by using this special wrinkle removal lotion, pills instead of food to get your veggies...all for the low price of $29.95 for your first month and after that $150/month. Um...yeah no thanks. I have checked the see less of these posts on quite a few people.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

Goodness you seem to have a lot of people that sell stuff in your friends list lol.
I'd ignore and not give a crap what people think when it comes to dumb parties that are about buying crap.
If its a personal invite to a party such as a grad party, BBQ, B-day... then I do respond with going or not going.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

I ignore all mass invites, and pretty much all facebook invites for real parties.

I'm sorry, but if you want me to come to your wedding or your kids graduation party, send me a real invitation. Otherwise I pretend like I never saw it. I won't even open it so that it won't show that I viewed it.

It's my last stand against traditional etiquette. Haha

 

[CarolAnn856]

Luckily, I've only been added to a group without my knowledge once. A friend started selling jewelry with some company and added me. I removed myselfas soon as I saw the notification. Honestly, if she had bothered to ask first, I might have said yes. But it really irritated me that she just put me in.

I never respond to blanket invitations, but I always RSVP for personal ones.

 

[Disneylover99]

I ignore all fb invitations. If it's a close friend or family member throwing a party, they know to email me or call.

 

[Clifton Tesh]

I just don't use Facebook... Except for business purposes. Stopped using it 2 years ago and it's been wonderful

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I ignore them... I just TELL the person that I am coming. I figure it's like if i ever start responding online, I will have to keep doing it so I just don't even mess with it.