How do I word a letter...

[bankgirl05]

For several reasons,(one being an almost violent attack resulting in my work getting a restraining order against her) I need to request that my children NOT be placed in classes with my DH's ex-wife's children. (not his, they were divorced before they each had children).

We live in a small to medium-ish sized community, and I realize that I will occasionally have to run into her at school functions, but I do not want to have to deal with her on an almost daily basis, or take the chance of my kids being bullied by hers...

What do I say in my letter requesting this? Obviously,I can't say Dear Mr. Principal, I don't want my kids anywhere near that crazy psychopath ...

I don't want to be mean, or air our (really her) dirty laundry, I just really want to ensure that I have as little contact with her/them as possible.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

Just state that due to prior instances you feel that it is in the best interest of both your children and hers for them not to be in the same class. You don't need a big explanation, you are allowed to do this. If they want to push for further info, simply state you have a restraining order against her and you can not be that close to her due to a court order. Done.

 

[Phatoomch]

You don't have to tell them anything.

Here's what I put in mine: "Dear blah, Under no circumstances is my daughter x to be in the same class as y. I have personal & strong reasons for this and I apologise if it inconveniences you in any way. I appreciate your co-operation"

That was it. Request was met.

 

[Ceila]

You should contact the principal directly at this late date. Class lists have been made long ago, I'm sure, even if they haven't been announced.

 

[bankgirl05]

Ok, good, thanks... I guess I was overthinking it, as if I was going to be questioned...

and for the record, the restraining order was only in place at my place of employment, because for some reason, she only felt it necessary to harrass me there ( she was trying to get me fired) and even though the cops couldn't prove that she was harrassing me(??? coming to my place of work or calling 10-20 times a week or more, calling me names, threatening me, making up customer complaints, isn't harrasment???)my employer was able to prove that she was creating a public nuisance, and therefore got her legally banned from the place. Whew, what a few excruciating months for me at my job... but I was so glad that they stood up for me and protected me in the end. I wish I still worked there, but I got budgeted out a few years ago...

Sorry, just had to get that off my chest...

 

[Coconut36]

You should contact the principal directly at this late date. Class lists have been made long ago, I'm sure, even if they haven't been announced.

I would also speak directly to the Principal and follow up in writing after that meeting (and the wording will be easier once you speak to them "Per our meeting I want to formally request that X and Y not be in the same class for safety reasons" or whatever is appropriate).

 

[Jennasis]

You need to call the principal directly or schedule a meeting IMMEDIATELY. The school has probably already set class lists with school just around the corner and this is the type of thing bets dealt with on a face to face basis.

 

[disykat]

I agree with those who say to talk to the principal. I would tell him/her your reasons, don't be vague. Not only will they take your request more seriously, but you should have somebody at the school in the know so that if problems arise they'll be on the lookout. Let them know it's confidential, but I would tell her/him.

 

[Becky2005]

I agree with those who say to talk to the principal. I would tell him/her your reasons, don't be vague. Not only will they take your request more seriously, but you should have somebody at the school in the know so that if problems arise they'll be on the lookout. Let them know it's confidential, but I would tell her/him.

I agree with this. They tell you upfront here, you can send a letter but they won't guarantee you about the placement, they will take it into consideration. Yours is above & beyond a basic request but they won't get that from a vague letter.

 

[tvguy]

I will talk to the Principal as well. I am assuming the school has more than one class for each grade so it is possible to do this.

 

[Ceila]

I am assuming the school has more than one class for each grade so it is possible to do this.

Based on what the OP wrote, I would assume so also. However, she needs to get in there ASAP as there are a lot of things to consider when schools make up class lists. For example, in our schools, some classroom teachers are paired with a special ed teacher, and students who are in the inclusion program are placed in those classes and cannot be placed in classes with only a regular classroom teacher. There are other considerations as well. And, to keep class sizes even, switching one child out of a class an into another may impact the placement of another child.

I am really at a loss as to why the OP waited until so late to handle this (I live in NJ, too, most districts go back the week after Labor Day). It doesn't sound like this issue just came up recently.

oh, and just following "the rule" lol:

For several reasons,(one being an almost violent attack resulting in my work getting a restraining order against her) I need to request that my children NOT be placed in classes with my DH's ex-wife's children. (not his, they were divorced before they each had children).

We live in a small to medium-ish sized community, and I realize that I will occasionally have to run into her at school functions, but I do not want to have to deal with her on an almost daily basis, or take the chance of my kids being bullied by hers...

What do I say in my letter requesting this? Obviously,I can't say Dear Mr. Principal, I don't want my kids anywhere near that crazy psychopath ...

I don't want to be mean, or air our (really her) dirty laundry, I just really want to ensure that I have as little contact with her/them as possible.