You know, after the wedding, I turned to my husband and said, "I can't wait to share this with other people who are so excited about Disney, that they will understand." Our friends and family sort of looked resigned whenever we talked about possibly getting married at Disney. They aren't Disney people. They didn't get it.
I'm not a mean person. And you all don't know me, I know. But I don't EVER rub things in other people's faces. I have always hated that. I hate seeing someone in pain, and I certainly never want to be the cause of it.
I posted here for one reason. It was the Disney wedding thread and I got married at Disney. I wasn't trying to show anyone up or make anyone feel bad.
I researched beforehand and all I saw was that the parks were strictly forbidden. I asked my friend's godfather (security exec) and he was for the idea. We picked a place where we wouldn't bother anyone. We wanted to keep this lowkey, no fuss, no grandstanding.
I am so horrified that I am now being seen as some sort of horrible person because of this. I am still being told that I was trying to solicit popularity. I don't understand this. Aren't we all sharing our stories? I am being called bitter and a rule breaker. What rule? I didn't get married in the parks and didn't attempt to bring in outside vendors.
I know I have gotten rude, and although I suspect that I won't get any apologies in return, I am sorry for that because I am NOT a mean person. I have been looking at these weddings and thinking how amazing and beautiful they are, including Joanne's, and been genuinely happy and excited that folks had the means to do it right. I didn't, and that was ok, because got to use the only thing that doesn't cost any money, and that was my imagination. I would never have dreamed of making negative comments to anyone on their posts, and honestly, it never occured to me that anyone who could afford just beautiful weddings would ever have cause to be envious or angry at me with my cotton dress and paper flowers. Had I thought that was the case, I wouldn't have posted, or I would have put a disclaimer eight miles high that oh my GOD, my wedding isn't a patch on the gorgeous ones I saw here. And truly, had Joanne said what she did, without making the assumption that I was just trying to stir people up, I might have accepted it and at the very least clarified things.
I know that you all are all friends. I was hoping to make friends, too. I just wanted to be happy and share that happiness. I don't know why it had to be like this.
I *know* you all don't care, but maybe it will make you feel better to know that I have been crying my eyes out all night. (it's quarter to 7 here on the east coast of the US...or MST [mouse standard time
]) and I have been too upset to sleep, thinking that people I thought I might have something wonderful in common with just see me as a rule breaker, a fraud, a pot stirrer, and frankly, a witch. That isn't me at all. I was looking forward to sharing with you all, but you decided who I was before I ever got that chance. All because Joanne read something wrong, that honestly, HAD I said, I would totally have seen her point. Because that would have been a jerk move. But I didn't say it, and no matter how I try to tell you that, you won't just, not even believe me, but read it. It's right there!
I have seen the friendships here and thought that the community was so cool. I didn't expect people to just hate me.
. I love the creativity some people have! Congrats!!
