High School class of 2011

[HannaBelle]

Minkydog, that sounds wonderful! Sounds likes she is really going to get a re-charge this weekend.

DS was home a couple of weekends ago for his fall break and we won't see him again until Thanksgiving. He is doing great and having a wonderful time. I miss him terribly and struggle not to call or text or email everyday...I keep it down to a respectable once or twice a week!

He has met with his advisor for class scheduling next spring. He had decided to change his major from Animal Behavior (biology & psychology hybrid) to Psychology. He is not 100% what he wants to do after graduation, but he has a few years to decide. Sounds like more school to me. I honestly regret not going to grad school myself, and I certainly would not begrudge him going.

The only downside is he has spent the majority of his spending money and his funds are running thin. He is not putting any money towards school aside from his spending money so he is on his own and will have to get a job if he runs out! He has it pretty cushy, so I am not worried about him.

 

[Disneycrazymom]

Minkydog I am so glad your DD is doing better!

Hannabelle - My DS is also home and spent some time looking over his finances today. He worked in the summer and has money but is worried about how fast he is going through it. I think he will be ok but I was glad to see him write it all down and do some budgeting.

 

[disykat]

Well, my son has been gone exactly a month and told us today about a girl he's met. Both dh and I acted like "oh, that's nice" but were dying to start asking "is she your giirlfriend?" etc. He's told us about a lot of people, but this was the first one with lots of details and he seemed to specifically want to tell us about her. He didn't actually tell us he was interested in her though so we didn't want to assume. How stupid is it that we didn't just ask him - we're such dweebs!

He had a long term girlfriend early in high school, but very purposely hasn't dated anyone in over a year.

I'm so happy he's having fun, but part of me is . Is it creepy that I already checked his facebook friend list and checked her out?

 

[kbeverina]

Is it creepy that I already checked his facebook friend list and checked her out?

I guess I'm creepy because I'd be doing the same thing.

 

[cruisnfamily]

So, anything new to report?

We went to DD's sorority brunch last week and brought my MIL with us. We all had a very nice time visiting with DD and Grandma loved getting to see the college and her dorm room. The brunch was fine but nothing to write home about, lol!

Nothing much else to report. She's happy and hopefully doing well in her classes. She insists that she has no idea how she's doing so I'm a little nervous about what the grades will say when they do come out! She seems to be dealing with the breakup with her 2 year boyfriend but she's definitely not completely over him yet. Luckily she's busy so she's not dwelling on it.

How's everybody else's freshmen doing?

 

[minkydog]

We met with an admissions advisor at the local tech school while DD was home. She made her application and while we were there we looked into her financial aid. She gets Pell grant, SEOG grant and work study at her current school. The tech school says her Pell will transfer with her, but the other two are school-specific--it they have that money available, she can get it. Otherwise, she'll have to wait until next year. But that's okay. With her living at home next semester, her Pell will pretty much cover everything. She has taken out about $3000 worth of student loans, so far. It would be great if that was the only student loan debt she has to incur.

And while we were there filling out paperwork two of her old girlfriends walked into the office, girls she hasn't seen in months. Much hugging and kissing ensued! It seemed to perfectly seal the deal

 

[johnsontrio]

We are halfway through the semester this week and I am still holding my breath. DD is doing very well in her classes and seems to managing her time well considering she has 19 credit hours. The first month was definitely a honeymoon phase with the semester just starting and parties at the frat houses every Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Somehow she fit all that in and I wasn't going to micromanage her and tell her she shouldn't have that many late nights, etc.. I figured when the course work got difficult enough, it would manage itself.

Sorority recruitment was in late September and DD attended the first couple of meetings for "Rush" (they don't call it that anymore) but decided that on such a small campus, only 3 sororities and only 700 kids living on campus, it didn't seem necessary. Being Greek is very laid back there. Evidently, after Rush is over, only the Greeks are invited to the fraternity parties, so that has cut back on her social schedule quite a bit.

She was really feeling lost without a team, having swam all through high school and played 3 sports and swam during middle school. She participated in Intramural Fencing in September and October and walked on the school's Div I Fencing Team. They are just getting started with the practices and have a pretty intense travel schedule so I am hoping that she finds some contentment there. DH and I don't know squat about Fencing so now we have to get up to speed.

On the downside, she lives in the freshman only dorm and has some very obnoxious boys living above her. The bang and drag furniture in the middle of the night making it difficult for her to get quality sleep. She has been home several weekends now in order to get some R&R and sleep. She also sees the exBF on campus at least 3-4 days a week and he will not even speak to her. He turns beet red and looks away. It is bothersome because they all now know many of the same people, as this is a small school. It makes her very angry when he does this and his teammates all call her "XXX's Ex girlfriend" instead of calling her by name. Funny thing is we so wanted her to apply to St. Mary's at Notre Dame and she thought she had experienced enough single sex education. She now is saying that she had no idea that the boys would still be so immature in college. No offense to you Moms of boys! I keep telling her that boys her age are not looking for a serious relationship.

All in all, she has handled things well so far but I keep hoping to get things on an even keel. I am starting a 3 week RN Refresher course on Monday and have a job offer from someone I previously worked with that is now the boss. DH has started a new job as well so we have lots of transition going on here.

Minky, I am glad you are bringing your DD home. I was just miserable the 2 years I lived away at school but didn't really have anywhere to go due to my parent's situation. Trust me, nothing good can come out of leaving her somewhere she doesn't want to be.

 

[geffric]

DS came home last weekend.. was great to see him and he spend more time with us than I thought he would..school is fine and gf still lives 2 doors down from him and she came home too.. they are still together..

he looks good, and will be home for a whole week at thanksgiving..

Minkydog - glad your DD is doing better!

 

[kbeverina]

We had a great visit, even though I didn't see him that much. Lots of friends were home for breaks and he spent a few nights at other houses.

He likes to act so "chill" but it was kind of funny when he was making his way to the airport. He decided to take a bus and he was constantly texting me until he was actually on the plane, starting with "what do i pack?" Seriously?! Then, "the bus isn't here, what do i do?" I told him to look around and see if other people were still waiting, maybe the bus was running late. Then, "bus came, what are the stops before the airport?" Then, "at the airport". Then "about to go through security". Then, "boarding in a half hour".

I know he was nervous flying by himself for the first time, but, obviously, do not drop this kid in a jungle, he won't find his way out.

When he was flying back, I told him to fill his backpack with snacks from the pantry to take back, no liquids, of course. I guess he didn't think of that Hormel Chili as having liquid. My husband texted me from the airport to tell me that he saw him being taken by TSA into a room. He emerged some time later, a laughing TSA agent holding two cups of microwavable Hormel Chili. So now we call him the ChiliBomber. They did let him keep his chili.

 

[johnsontrio]

We had a great visit, even though I didn't see him that much. Lots of friends were home for breaks and he spent a few nights at other houses.

He likes to act so "chill" but it was kind of funny when he was making his way to the airport. He decided to take a bus and he was constantly texting me until he was actually on the plane, starting with "what do i pack?" Seriously?! Then, "the bus isn't here, what do i do?" I told him to look around and see if other people were still waiting, maybe the bus was running late. Then, "bus came, what are the stops before the airport?" Then, "at the airport". Then "about to go through security". Then, "boarding in a half hour".

I know he was nervous flying by himself for the first time, but, obviously, do not drop this kid in a jungle, he won't find his way out.

When he was flying back, I told him to fill his backpack with snacks from the pantry to take back, no liquids, of course. I guess he didn't think of that Hormel Chili as having liquid. My husband texted me from the airport to tell me that he saw him being taken by TSA into a room. He emerged some time later, a laughing TSA agent holding two cups of microwavable Hormel Chili. So now we call him the ChiliBomber. They did let him keep his chili.

Priceless!

 

[minkydog]

We had a great visit, even though I didn't see him that much. Lots of friends were home for breaks and he spent a few nights at other houses.

He likes to act so "chill" but it was kind of funny when he was making his way to the airport. He decided to take a bus and he was constantly texting me until he was actually on the plane, starting with "what do i pack?" Seriously?! Then, "the bus isn't here, what do i do?" I told him to look around and see if other people were still waiting, maybe the bus was running late. Then, "bus came, what are the stops before the airport?" Then, "at the airport". Then "about to go through security". Then, "boarding in a half hour".

I know he was nervous flying by himself for the first time, but, obviously, do not drop this kid in a jungle, he won't find his way out.

When he was flying back, I told him to fill his backpack with snacks from the pantry to take back, no liquids, of course. I guess he didn't think of that Hormel Chili as having liquid. My husband texted me from the airport to tell me that he saw him being taken by TSA into a room. He emerged some time later, a laughing TSA agent holding two cups of microwavable Hormel Chili. So now we call him the ChiliBomber. They did let him keep his chili.

OMG, I read this aloud to DH and he nearly fell off the couch laughing!

 

[minkydog]

Minky, I am glad you are bringing your DD home. I was just miserable the 2 years I lived away at school but didn't really have anywhere to go due to my parent's situation. Trust me, nothing good can come out of leaving her somewhere she doesn't want to be.

I completely agree. No one should be made to do something they sincerely don't want to do, especially when it comes to choosing college. Looking back on it, I think I probably pushed her too hard to go to this school. It seemed like such a good fit for her and i think we both really wanted it to work. i'm just glad DD finally came out with it. I knew something wasn't right--moms know things! My sisters think it's terrible that I'm "letting her drop out." She's not dropping out, she's changing schools. The new one is cheaper than the old one, so she's not even going to have to take out loans. And she's so happy with her choice. How is that a bad thing? But they forget how it was when *they* went to college. I was the oldest child, so when I went away to college my parents dragged them along too, every semester. When they decided to go to college, they didn't even look anywhere else--all three sisters followed me to school! Which was fine. But they forget that when they went away to college, they had almost all their siblings with them!

I think DD has a pretty good attitude about all this. She went, she tried, tried harder, did everything she could and it still wasn't the right fit. That's not failure. That's a learning experience. I'm really proud of her that instead of thinking that something was wrong with *her*, she was able to see that only the situation was wrong and then took action to change it. DD was so happy this weekend. My old girl was back!

 

[minkydog]

bumping this thread so mbswats can find us

 

[mbswats]

bumping this thread so mbswats can find us

Thanks! I think I will be right at home here

 

[Disneycrazymom]

Welcome!

 

[minkydog]

OMG, y'all. My DD is going to be the death of me. Tomorrow is the last day for requesting a release from housing contracts for Spring 2012 and she's been dragging her feet. Today she texted me to ask if i would be mad if she changed her mind and just STAYED AT HER COLLEGE. Somebody just go ahead and hit me with a rock. She is making me crazy. DD did not make her appointment with an advisor because she was planning to transfer. Well, now she's changing her mind. So she apparently DID go see an advisor who told her it was "too late" and all she could get was math. Huh? Is there NO ONE who can fix this?

So I did what i swore I wouldn't do--I called the Mass Media dept head myself. I am very big on college kids taking charge of themselves, but this is too important to let it go. DD is not understanding or she is not talking to the right people. I talked with the dept head, who assured me that it is NOT too late to register. In fact, he looked at the classes and found several fresheman classes open. He thinks she has been getting poor advisement, so he wants to see her tomorrow and he will open up something if he needs to. He was very nice about it, hysterical as I was.

I am thrilled that she wants to stay at her college. I was hoping that something would change, that she would find her way. She says she loves the college atmosphere(even though she doesn't love the town she's in) and recently she made friends with a girl who lives off campus. They've been getting together to cook for the last several weekends and that seems to be helping her a LOT. Plus, she's been doing some live action role playing and having a blast at that. And she was invited to go on a school sponsered camping trip, which she loves. She's going to call me later and maybe I'll be more information from her then. ARRRRRGGGHHHH~!

 

[disykat]

wow, minkydog, that's a mixed bag of emotions! sounds like all around good news!

My son had a three day weekend and came home. We got to hear more about his new girlfriend. It still feels weird to me that he has this whole life I'm not involved in!

 

[cruisnfamily]

OMG, y'all. My DD is going to be the death of me.

If I just had a quarter for every time I've thought this about my DD since the teen years began, lol!

Anyway, I'm glad she is finding her way but the last minuteness of it all would absolutely kill me too! Good job for being a mama bear and getting the ball rolling for her, it sounds like it was the right move at the right time.

Keep us posted!

So DD is now "talking" to the boyfriend of 2 years that broke up with her last month. I wish they wouldn't talk...she needs to go out and just be herself with no male attached for a while and try that on for size.

Still no word whatsoever on what her grades might be this semester...she swears she has no clue at all.....I'm finding this frustrating to say the least.

Anyway, next week is Thanksgiving and all our little birds will return to the nest. I'm looking forward to it!

 

[cruisnfamily]

So the Thanksgiving break is winding down. It's been lovely to have DD here but it's been pretty uneventful(which is a good thing!)

She's going back tomorrow afternoon.

I'm so worried about her grades....she claims to have NO IDEA how well she is or isn't doing....gonna be scary when those grades come out! Well 3 more weeks until the semester is over, she'll be home for Christmas Break on 12/16.

How's everybody's kids?

 

[ctinct]

Well, it took till today to hear, "I'm bored." Don't know WHAT she is going to do with herself over semester break. She saw her main group of friends Wed. night, saw the rest of them at the football game Thursday, had a family thing last night (her brother taught her how to play poker ), and today she is just hanging out. I suggested she could help me rake the last of the leaves up, but she'd rather be bored, I guess.

She goes back tomorrow. I have no sense on how airport traffic will be, so we are going to leave extra early. Normally it takes an hour and 15 minutes, but Tuesday night when I picked her up it took me nearly two hours. I imagine tomorrow will be worse. I sure don't want her to miss her flight. While I was waiting for her to arrive on Tuesday, a whole bunch of college kids from Wesleyan came pouring in the door. Some of them were running and clearly panic stricken. I'm sure it took their bus/van far longer to get to the airport than they had been planning on.