kniquy
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Unfortunately life happens and it doesn't always go as planned. If you trust that your ex is a good father, you would hope that he would also watch out for your daughter and make sure that there is no tension between your daughter and the new wife. This girl will not take your place, but will hopefully be a positive in your daughters life. you need to have open conversations with your daughter to let her know that if there is anything that she is not happy with that she needs to speak to her father or to you.
I have a similar situation where my boys do not like their fathers girlfriend - she has even tried to weezle her (and her two boys) way into his house and wanted to play house during her time off in the summer (a teacher) my boys (older than your daughter) don't like her and i have encouraged them to discuss with their father their concerns. I have told them to write down their concerns so that they can sit down and discuss them. When the time comes they always forget to discuss certain things. We (me and the ex) have a pretty good relationship and I have told him that the boys are not fond of her and that he need to talk to them before he makes any movement in their relationship/living situations. My boys have outright told their father that if she moves in that they would be staying with me full time, but they actually tried to be nice and made it sound like their issue was with her kids and not her.
I have a similar situation where my boys do not like their fathers girlfriend - she has even tried to weezle her (and her two boys) way into his house and wanted to play house during her time off in the summer (a teacher) my boys (older than your daughter) don't like her and i have encouraged them to discuss with their father their concerns. I have told them to write down their concerns so that they can sit down and discuss them. When the time comes they always forget to discuss certain things. We (me and the ex) have a pretty good relationship and I have told him that the boys are not fond of her and that he need to talk to them before he makes any movement in their relationship/living situations. My boys have outright told their father that if she moves in that they would be staying with me full time, but they actually tried to be nice and made it sound like their issue was with her kids and not her.