He Thinks We Are "Swingers"!!

[Mi3stooges]

I can't believe it. I am physically sick to my stomach. My husband works with a woman occasionally and often talks about our (me and DH) trips to Vegas. We play alot of video poker because in the long run your money lasts, which is how we earn our comps.
Bottom line, my DH extends his knowledge and offers what ever discounts we could get for her and her husband. There are other couples going on their own comps, etc. I've spoken to the wife once on the phone and she seems real nice. We have dinner plans tomorrow night and DH just told me (of course in confidence) that her husband asked her if we were swingers.
I am so nervous now to meet him, what do I say?? And how, why, do you think this?? I trust my husband, but what makes someone ask this??

 

[Nancy]

Maybe they are and they want to "swing" with you and your dh?

OR maybe they don't and are afraid you are being nice to them to try to get them over to the dark side?

Why they asked in reality...who knows

 

[poohandwendy]

Just because he asked does not mean he thinks you are, it means he hopes you are...ewww....he was feeling your DH out to see if you were open to it. How else would he know if he didn't ask?

I guess I would be asking my DH how this subject came up and what all was said.

 

[Stacerita]

He was probably just feeling your DH out. Im thinking that if he is asking that, him and his wife probably are and were hoping you guys were too. If you aren't, then no worries. I doubt they will try to convert you or anything. Just remember that if they ask, politely decline. Dont judge and be rude though. A nice, "no thank you, we are not into that" will be fine. Then you can run home and shower the "ick" off.

Or maybe they were wondering if you were "swing" dancers kinda swingers. Or if you guys like to hang out at the playground on the "swings". Just a thought.

 

[beckmrk04]

I would say no thanks, but take it as a compliment- at least they think you're hot enough!!

 

[MzDiz]

I would say no thanks, but take it as a compliment- at least they think you're hot enough!!

That's exactly what I was thinking!

 

[Stacerita]

I would say no thanks, but take it as a compliment- at least they think you're hot enough!!

Great way to look at it!

 

[CathrynRose]

Thats so creepy (and ironic)

My g/f recently got asked this, as well. There must be a bunch of closet swingers out there, hoping to recruit some of us to the "other side"

Well, if nothing else... congrats on being a hottie couple!!!

 

[Mi3stooges]

It's a definate NO WAY!! I don't always belive in the "try it, you might like it" saying.

But it was the wife who told my DH at work and he told me (but wasn't supposed to) So I didn't get the tone of how she told DH. I do have a feeling she told her DH NO WAY! because of the time I spoke to her on the phone, she seems level headed....but only time will tell!!
I am so dready tomorrow night.............................

 

[U2_rocks]

Ugh! I have no idea, but I'd feel funny too that it was even on his mind!

I remember this boyfriend I had in my 20s whose best friend and wife wanted to "get it on" with my boyfriend and I!!! I took off and went for a walk, I just couldn't deal with that! It was never the same with this friend of his after that!

 

[Mi3stooges]

Thats so creepy (and ironic)

My g/f recently got asked this, as well. There must be a bunch of closet swingers out there, hoping to recruit some of us to the "other side"

Well, if nothing else... congrats on being a hottie couple!!!

After I posted I saw yours and I needed that laugh!

 

[sajetto]

I am certain that they wouldn't have asked your DH if you were swingers unless they were interested. I agree with everyone else, at least you know you're hot

 

[mom2boys]

I agree with those who think the other couple was hoping you guys were into it.
DH's brother & his wife are known swingers in our tiny town. I get a knot in my stomach every time someone asks if we are related.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

It's a definate NO WAY!! I don't always belive in the "try it, you might like it" saying.

But it was the wife who told my DH at work and he told me (but wasn't supposed to) So I didn't get the tone of how she told DH. I do have a feeling she told her DH NO WAY! because of the time I spoke to her on the phone, she seems level headed....but only time will tell!!
I am so dready tomorrow night.............................

That's the part that would bug me. Did she tell him not to tell you?? That's not her place to tell him to keep things from you (especially something like that) and he should not have led her to believe that he would keep a comment like that in confidence.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I agree with those who think the other couple was hoping you guys were into it.
DH's brother & his wife are known swingers in our tiny town. I get a knot in my stomach every time someone asks if we are related.

You're related to...them?

 

[beckmrk04]

That's the part that would bug me. Did she tell him not to tell you?? That's not her place to tell him to keep things from you (especially something like that) and he should not have led her to believe that he would keep a comment like that in confidence.

It would bug me a little, but maybe she was just embarrassed her dh even mentioned it and didn't want the OP to think she's a weirdo (too late).

And at least the OP's DH ignored her and told his wife (good job).

I would seriously not worry about it. But then again, I'm the type of person that thinks this sort of thing is hysterical, so maybe that's just me. Like I said, tell them definitely not, and then sit back and revel in your hotness. This is so not something to get worked up over. Maybe a little icky, but honestly worth a good laugh.

 

[Cantw8]

 

[DisneyPhD]

This might be an interesting trip.

We are part of a parent group (10 couples that had babies all born at the same hosptial with in weeks of each other.) Some couples have dropped out and now that the kids are 5 years old there are 7 couples left.

We were at a party the other day and was playing a board game (apples to apples, lots of fun.) Anyway someone the topic of swingers comes up and it turns out a couple I couldn't stand (who had left the group a year ago.) were swingers and hit on almost everyone else in the group. They couldn't belive they never hit on us, but then again it was common knowlage I didn't like the mother (she was a lush and spoiled rotten.) They were heavy drinkers too (and pretty losesy parents.)

My comment was: "really, who would want to ----- with them?" I said it really quiet. I was surprized how many people heard it.

What was really funny is my best friend in the group kept telling me how this women would call her up and ask them out, give her gifts try to get just them to come over to her house etc..... She thought it was really strange because she never liked them and figured she was just doing it to bug me (since we were so close and did so much together, no not that. ) Anyway she never knew they were hitting on her. It made so much sense after that converstation. But EWE!

 

[drgnfly30]

Something similar happened to DH & I years ago... only we didn't find out until AFTER they invited us over for dinner & cards.... At least you are prepared in case you are 'approached' on your trip... we were unprepared to say the least!

 

[poohandwendy]

But it was the wife who told my DH at work and he told me (but wasn't supposed to) So I didn't get the tone of how she told DH. I do have a feeling she told her DH NO WAY! because of the time I spoke to her on the phone, she seems level headed....but only time will tell!!
I am so dready tomorrow night.............................

Ok, I have to say...this would piss me off. They work together and this is pretty inappropriate for them to be talking about. It is one thing to have general conversations about issues, but when you start talking about your personal sexual appetites and interests like that, you are crossing a line.

I am not comfortable with a woman who opens up intimate dialog, regarding their/our sex lives, with my DH and asks him to not tell me. She extended a back-door sexual invitation to your DH (ie, "my husband wondered", pahlease), IMO, and that is not cool.

Btw, if she told her husband 'no way', she would have never mentioned it to your husband. They would have had their private conversation about it and that would be the end of it, because mentioning it to your DH only would cause uncomfortable feelings when you were all together. She was feeling your DH out to see his reaction.

Never trust a woman who inquires about swinging with your husband and asks him to keep it from you.

JMho...flame me if you want...

(eta, not saying your DH is in the wrong in any way...he was honest with you )