He Thinks We Are "Swingers"!!

[DisneyPhD]

I don't even remember which thread. It was a week or 2 ago, I would guess. Maybe PhD, who no doubt has a better memory can say. Or I'll look it up later. We just have such respect and awe for you.

P&W has her own kind of sweet/snarkyness.

Ok, let me think here. Was it the thread about the potty trained 5 year old that the aunt put a diaper on and P&W suggested the mother put a bib on the SIL next time she spilled something? I think it was. Scary how I remember, but can't anything else.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

P&W has her own kind of sweet/snarkyness.

Ok, let me think here. Was it the thread about the potty trained 5 year old that the aunt put a diaper on and P&W suggested the mother put a bib on the SIL next time she spilled something? I think it was. Scary how I remember, but can't anything else.

Maybe so, I'll have to go looking. If so, your memory is a WHOLE lot better than mine--I can remember the general event, but not the actual thread and I even went looking and I gave up, but with that info I can find it.

Phd, I did a search for your user name, "potty" and "diaper" and sure enough that was the thread. Damn, you're good! Here it is, Wendy. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1070379&highlight=potty+diaper


OK, back to swinging!

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL...my own kind of sweet/snarkyness. My DH has another term for it...not DIS appropriate though...

 

[Tigger&Belle]

LOL...my own kind of sweet/snarkyness. My DH has another term for it...not DIS appropriate though...

Witchiness, to put it nicely.

 

[poohandwendy]

yep...but he usually isn't laughing when he says it...

 

[Tigger&Belle]

yep...but he usually isn't laughing when he says it...

So did you reread the other thread when Phd and I referred to you?

 

[RitaZ.]

Ok, I have to say...this would piss me off. They work together and this is pretty inappropriate for them to be talking about. It is one thing to have general conversations about issues, but when you start talking about your personal sexual appetites and interests like that, you are crossing a line.

I am not comfortable with a woman who opens up intimate dialog, regarding their/our sex lives, with my DH and asks him to not tell me. She extended a back-door sexual invitation to your DH (ie, "my husband wondered", pahlease), IMO, and that is not cool.

Btw, if she told her husband 'no way', she would have never mentioned it to your husband. They would have had their private conversation about it and that would be the end of it, because mentioning it to your DH only would cause uncomfortable feelings when you were all together. She was feeling your DH out to see his reaction.

Never trust a woman who inquires about swinging with your husband and asks him to keep it from you.

JMho...flame me if you want...

(eta, not saying your DH is in the wrong in any way...he was honest with you )

No flaming from me, I absolutely agree with you.

Who initiated the dinner invitation? I don't know... at this point, I'd feel uncomfortable and just cancel. I think they are the ones "looking", it wouldn't surprise me if they bring it up again during dinner.

 

[Mi3stooges]

OK....I have some answers to some questions. Yes DH and I are going on this trip. There are other people as well. A boss that DH works with and his wife who I know well and their son and his girlfriend. We are getting the boss "casino" rate like the swingers, it beats travelocity and all the others for where we are staying.(Caesars)
Dinner I'm sure was my DH's idea. So we could meet before we showed up at the airport or hotel. We will be going to a restaurant so a little comfort zone there.
I will be having a talk with DH as to HOW this conversation came up, and the tone, because I'm sorry, unless you know someone well you don't tell them your darkest thoughts thinking its a good thing.
It will be an interesting dinner, and thank you all for all you acvice and suggestions, I will keep all it at the front of my brain, especially Souixi31 something that I will be passing along to DD's as they get older!!

 

[Mi3stooges]

UPDATE!!
Everything turned out OK, but heres how it went......
When DH got home I told him I was nervous, because of the comment made by the husband. Asked how the wife said it and his reaction. DH said that he (and the wife) response was "thats crazy" I also asked why she would have told him NOT to tell me, and apparently I misunderstood, she didn't want us to tell the husband.
DH and this coworker have know each other for a while, even before she got married (which was recently, under a year!) They are about 12 years younger than us, no kids.
All in all, we did have a good time, but kept the antena up for "other" comments. The husband and my DH actually had quite a few stories that were related to earch others job.
I think we are all at ease now, I don't think this guy is weird over all, but will be cautious in the future. Thaks again for all the support, it helped make a night more tolerable.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm confused....so do you think that they are swingers, looking to figure out if the two of you are, also?

Or do you think that they are not, and are making sure that you all know that they are not (which I think is strange since I've never suspected that another couple is, but maybe I'm naive)?

Or was she just joking around? I can't say that I've ever joked around about that, but I've joked about other things that other people probably haven't, so I can't really pass judgement on that.

Glad your dinner went ok, though!

 

[Mi3stooges]

After meeting with them last night, I think the husband was nervous as to why my DH was offering our help. He might have said it in a nervous joking way, (his swinger comment) but he said this to his wife who told my DH. I didn't get the feeling that they were like that, (but how else do you tell??!!!) and will continue to keep a keen ear. We don't have to see them that much on the trip and do not have to associate in any way. There weren't any kind of stange underlying questions and felt all was on the up and up.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

OK, that makes sense. If you were real mean, once they let their guard down, you could make little comments to them. Just kidding! Really make them wonder. Of course that could really backfire if it turned out that they were swingers!

 

[ozarkmom]

We were at a cookout/ pool party a couple of years ago. A lady I know said her sister had asked her if my DH and I were swingers (eww, yuck) I was shocked and kind of upset so I ask why she would think that. Her sister and DH were at the same cookout and had heard that the host/hostess were. ( I don't know nothing strange happened while we were there) so I asked her if THEY were swingers? I looked at her and said hey they were at the same party!

 

[motherhen17404]

Don't want to stir the pot here, but just because a couple are swingers it does not make them bad people or the "ew-ick" factor that a lot of people have expressed. Our best friends are in the Lifestyle and there is nothing "ew-ick" about them. They have taught us a lot about the Lifestyle and we have met some wonderful people who are in it. One of the things people in the Lifestyle are known for is accepting other peoples views, even if they don't happen to agree.

ozarkmom- if the host of the party were swingers, they were hosting a "vanilla" party and I will bet they were not the only swingers there! I once had a block party and found out much later that there were 3 swinger couples at my party. I just laughed about it and tried to figure out who they were!

 

[ozarkmom]

motherhen17404 I don't think so because we've known these people a long time. We and several of our friends have been to alot of cookouts, birthday parties (adults as well as children) etc. The husband actually kind of creeps alot of us wives out but we all love the wife. I'm not saying that they don't have that going on but it's not been at any of the functions we've attended and I've discussed with others in our group of friends and we just don't believe it we're not sure where the rumor got started but we don't believe it.