I saw that couple on Dr. Phil and thought "why????" I mean, first of all, she lied to him about how many partners she had. Worse? She went on to say she felt guilty having s^x w/him before marriage and then said she didn't like s^x ... yet she was out banging all these other guys and that was ok? She sure liked it then, what changed? I wanted to slap her. I felt bad for her husband -- if I were him, I would have cut bait.
Why do people think that a baby is going to "save" their marriage? Having a baby to "save" a marriage is like putting a bandaid on a severed arm. Just doesn't work.
Unfortunately, I have a relative who used this approach to try to keep her husband home more often. Now, husband was not off gambling or having an affair or drinking or doing drugs -- husband was gone on Sat. and Sun. afternoons skiing with their DD and other family members. Wife was asked to join in on ski outings often and had no interest. Had no interest to even enjoy the great amenities that the resort offered. So, she thought if they had another baby, he'd give up the skiing to stay home w/her, their DD and baby. After baby came along, he still went skiing. Now, keep in mind that ski season here is very short -- maybe four months out of the year -- so that's what -- thirty two days of skiing? And, it's not like her husband was gone all day. He'd ski for about four hours and be home in time for lunch.
As usual, the problems were deeper rooted than his going skiing on weekends and new baby did not repair the damage that was going 5 yrs. in the making. I know this couple well and can tell you that the wife just did not like the family and wanted her husband all to herself. Sad.
