Having a very hard time with DS going off to college

[sk!mom]

I'm going to add some advice which you can feel free to completely ignore about the Halloween Fright Night issue and general college parenting.

STOP getting involved in these kinds of decisions!!!!!! Your daughter is not in high school anymore, when she needed your permission to do these kinds of things. STOP being involved at this level. Say "Sounds like fun! Be careful, you know I'm a mom and I worry!" if you must, but stay out of her decision making at this point.

Trust me, you will be so glad you did ultimately. If you are too nervous this time then force yourself to butt out and look at it as practice for yourself in the art of letting your college students grow up.

STOP being so worried about them driving, and if you can't stop then stop saying it out loud. They don't need their mom to be a ninny about road trips. Remember, I'm the mom whose daughter had car trouble during her 14 hour drive back to school and had to coast to the side of the road after her car lost power and was towed to a motel by the AAA guy. I would have LOVED the tire signal - we get that all the time and it's just a function of the weather changing.

Really, I mean this all kindly but you HAVE to stop being so involved in this kind of stuff. You aren't doing your students any favors by holding them back. And someone was right when they said they were lucky the students were telling their parents this kind of stuff anyway - most college kids don't ask permission to make their own plans.

Following this thread because my DD17 will be going 4 hours away next Fall. You all are helping me prepare!

This post made me comment. I have been here before with my DS28 and have to agree. In my experience, getting too involved in their decisions doesn't effect the decisions as much as it effects the information they share. Of course, that can be good too. Sometimes you just don't want to know!

 

[DVCLiz]

Following this thread because my DD17 will be going 4 hours away next Fall. You all are helping me prepare!

This post made me comment. I have been here before with my DS28 and have to agree. In my experience, getting too involved in their decisions doesn't effect the decisions as much as it effects the information they share. Of course, that can be good too. Sometimes you just don't want to know!

Thank you for your support - I don't think it was particularly helpful to the moms on this thread, although it was certainly meant to be. I think it must be one of those things that come with experience and hindsight - I learned it with DD25.

I really hope everyone ultimately has a great first semester and a great first year.

 

[clh2]

Back from parent/family weekend...had a great time with DD and her boyfriend. DD actually stayed with us this year in the hotel. She didn't last year. Possibly she figured out that this Embassy Suites had a hot tub

We invited her boyfriend over for breakfast both days - why not - it was fabulous and included in the room charge. Saw a great magician on campus, did some stuff at DD's sorority, saw the movie Captain Philips, saw the hosue that DD will be renting next year among other things.

So now - we'll see DD next at Thanksgiving. I am dreading the semester break, as DD will only be home for 1.5 weeks, and then heading off for a J-term in London and Paris. DD wasn't home last summer, as she had a job on campus, so we just aren't seeing her much. My "baby" is growing up, hard as it is!

But - since I haven't been on the boards for a few days - I would like to specifically comment on the dorm where they are searching the kids bags. for alcohol/drugs REALLY...I would be horrified about this. My DD more so. DD specifically opted not to further consider one of the small colleges that she looked at - because she thought the policies were too restrictive (i.e. guests needed to be signed in and out of the dorm, and all guests of the opposite sex needed to be out by 10pm on weekdays, and 1am on weekends or something like that.)

DH and I are on the page that - we've instilled (hopefully) some good values in our DD, and some good decision making abilities, as well as some plain old common sense. Will DD's life be perfect??? - no - probably not. We do expect her to make mistakes along the way, that is part of life. We do expect that she will learn from those mistakes. There is no doubt in my mind that DD has tried some alcohol. I know this because she has told us. (No additional details - other than she has tried it)

The school our DD goes to - even though alcohol is not allowed in the dorms, and the drinking age is 21, has a policy that encourages students to seek help if it is needed for another student that is clearly had "too much", and that there will be no penalties or tickets issued. The goal is that if medical help is needed, that someone initiates getting it for the student. I went to a major party school, so nothing that goes on at a college would surprise me at all. NOTHING. (Just adding that - I do know what goes on at a college campus, really I do.)

At the college where they are searching bags - they are now treating all the students like they cannot be trusted, that is just wrong in my opinion. And I realize my opinion may not be shared with others on this thread.

And to DVCLiz's point - our DD does now have a car on campus. DD will ask us if it is OK to go on a road trip to someone's house for the weekend. We tell DD that while we appreciated that she us letting us know - she doesn't need to ask for permission. We do, however, remind her to drive safely, and to watch the speed limits - just because we are parents.

 

[RejoyceoverDisney]

Back from parent/family weekend...had a great time with DD and her boyfriend. DD actually stayed with us this year in the hotel. She didn't last year. Possibly she figured out that this Embassy Suites had a hot tub

We invited her boyfriend over for breakfast both days - why not - it was fabulous and included in the room charge. Saw a great magician on campus, did some stuff at DD's sorority, saw the movie Captain Philips, saw the hosue that DD will be renting next year among other things.

So now - we'll see DD next at Thanksgiving. I am dreading the semester break, as DD will only be home for 1.5 weeks, and then heading off for a J-term in London and Paris. DD wasn't home last summer, as she had a job on campus, so we just aren't seeing her much. My "baby" is growing up, hard as it is!

But - since I haven't been on the boards for a few days - I would like to specifically comment on the dorm where they are searching the kids bags. for alcohol/drugs REALLY...I would be horrified about this. My DD more so. DD specifically opted not to further consider one of the small colleges that she looked at - because she thought the policies were too restrictive (i.e. guests needed to be signed in and out of the dorm, and all guests of the opposite sex needed to be out by 10pm on weekdays, and 1am on weekends or something like that.)

DH and I are on the page that - we've instilled (hopefully) some good values in our DD, and some good decision making abilities, as well as some plain old common sense. Will DD's life be perfect??? - no - probably not. We do expect her to make mistakes along the way, that is part of life. We do expect that she will learn from those mistakes. There is no doubt in my mind that DD has tried some alcohol. I know this because she has told us. (No additional details - other than she has tried it)

The school our DD goes to - even though alcohol is not allowed in the dorms, and the drinking age is 21, has a policy that encourages students to seek help if it is needed for another student that is clearly had "too much", and that there will be no penalties or tickets issued. The goal is that if medical help is needed, that someone initiates getting it for the student. I went to a major party school, so nothing that goes on at a college would surprise me at all. NOTHING. (Just adding that - I do know what goes on at a college campus, really I do.)

At the college where they are searching bags - they are now treating all the students like they cannot be trusted, that is just wrong in my opinion. And I realize my opinion may not be shared with others on this thread.

And to DVCLiz's point - our DD does now have a car on campus. DD will ask us if it is OK to go on a road trip to someone's house for the weekend. We tell DD that while we appreciated that she us letting us know - she doesn't need to ask for permission. We do, however, remind her to drive safely, and to watch the speed limits - just because we are parents.

Glad we can have our own opinions.

I am on the search away! side.
Just like at the airport, in crowds such as Boston just went through, and yes even at Disney World.....search away! I have nothing to be guilty of and if I have something that might potentially be something that someone that would do "harm" in my bag, by all means take it away. I would much rather them search everyone than have to be in that uncomfortable place and worry about some "discrimination cry" from someone that is under question for one reason or another.

Again, going back to Boston in April, would I have thought I had to worry about a 19 year old college student carrying a back pack? But you bet your money if there would have been a random search and nothing found on this kid, a discrimination cry would have been provoked for being singled out. As would have a lot of people. Random doesn't work.

I'm sorry people feel it's not right. But after what I just went through here in my home, trusting for 6 months a young man to be a friend and care about my DS21 with Autism and in that final month have him steal from us. Oh and yes he brought a back pack in every day with his laptop. I'm sorry. I do feel that gives me a perfect reason to feel this way.

I know what I can pack and can't pack in my carry on at the airport. And if I make a mistake, i'll be happy to surrender that item to keep everyone safe.

And on the "permission part", ya no my DS19, almost 20, doesn't need my permission, but if he is going to do something out of the ordinary (leave campus) I would prefer him sharing the information. God forbid he ever get in an accident or go missing. I've heard of young people ending up in the hospital and because of "laws" the parents were not called.
Heck my son passed out at school and was brought to the ER. The hospital wouldn't confirm he was there or alright. I had to beg my son via a text to tell them it was ok to tell me where he was because he wasn't sure where he was and didn't want me to worry.

I only knew he was there because my son had signed a paper at the college for it being ok for the school to contact me and it happened on School property.

Permission no! But honestly, I make sure my husband knows basically where I'm going when I go out, in case something happens. And if I change my plans I call him and tell him. He doesn't ask me to do this, and thinks it's weird I do, but It's just my acceptance of this world is not full of people with good morals and making sane choices.

Just who I am and my opinion.

Thanksgiving is almost here.

 

[marcyinPA]

I'm the one with the son who lives in the dorm with the bag searches now. I just wanted to point out that my son goes to a medium sized state school. This is not a private school. It is not small. But it IS a dry campus. (well, you know how that goes- they say it is a dry campus). I know as well as you do that drinking happens in college. But when an underage person is so drunk that they puke in the hallway, and then resist arrest- well- yeah, there are rules in place for a reason.

As for the bag searches: alcohol is not permitted on campus. Drugs are illegal. There have been problems on campus, and they are trying to get them under control. I have no problem with it. You want to drink and drug in your room? Move off campus. Otherwise, follow the rules and nobody gets hurt.

Just my opinion. (and for what it's worth, I am really used to people not agreeing with me. It's tough being a conservative in a liberal world. )

 

[nancygirl1]

You know, we all want the best for our children no matter what their life choices are. We're their parents, of course we do. We pray for wisdom to help guide them when they need it and hope that the advice we give them with be helpful (if they decide to listen). Like everyone else, I want my kids to be happy and successful in their career choices.

Two of my sons (one a Senior and the other a Junior) both have a pretty good idea what they want to do. They both are heading toward a career in law/law enforcement. Then there is my youngest twin son who is also a Junior. The poor kid wants so badly to know what he wants to do, but can't find a direction to head in. He ended up declaring a major the second semester Sophomore year. He had already taken some classes environmentally related so decided to go in that direction. He transferred this year to a new school and went with a different environmental major and is miserable. He only took it by default. He absolutely has no idea what he wants to do.

My husband and I have done as much as we possibly can to try and help him. Right now my son is so frustrated and discouraged. His college has a large career center and offers actual career counseling. Basically he needs to start from scratch when it comes to figuring out a direction. Thank God his school offers this service. I feel so bad for him. He's so lost right now. I wish we could tell him to take some time off, but if he does then his student loans will go into repayment. He has an appointment next week right before he has to pick classes. I feel so helpless!

 

[RejoyceoverDisney]

You know, we all want the best for our children no matter what their life choices are. We're their parents, of course we do. We pray for wisdom to help guide them when they need it and hope that the advice we give them with be helpful (if they decide to listen). Like everyone else, I want my kids to be happy and successful in their career choices.

Two of my sons (one a Senior and the other a Junior) both have a pretty good idea what they want to do. They both are heading toward a career in law/law enforcement. Then there is my youngest twin son who is also a Junior. The poor kid wants so badly to know what he wants to do, but can't find a direction to head in. He ended up declaring a major the second semester Sophomore year. He had already taken some classes environmentally related so decided to go in that direction. He transferred this year to a new school and went with a different environmental major and is miserable. He only took it by default. He absolutely has no idea what he wants to do.

My husband and I have done as much as we possibly can to try and help him. Right now my son is so frustrated and discouraged. His college has a large career center and offers actual career counseling. Basically he needs to start from scratch when it comes to figuring out a direction. Thank God his school offers this service. I feel so bad for him. He's so lost right now. I wish we could tell him to take some time off, but if he does then his student loans will go into repayment. He has an appointment next week right before he has to pick classes. I feel so helpless!

HUGS! sending your way and his.
I hope the career center can give him some great support. It will all work out eventually. My thought is if he takes time off, it might make it harder.
Good luck to you for being able to be there for him and to him to trusting it will all work out.

peace

 

[mom2rtk]

You know, we all want the best for our children no matter what their life choices are. We're their parents, of course we do. We pray for wisdom to help guide them when they need it and hope that the advice we give them with be helpful (if they decide to listen). Like everyone else, I want my kids to be happy and successful in their career choices.

Two of my sons (one a Senior and the other a Junior) both have a pretty good idea what they want to do. They both are heading toward a career in law/law enforcement. Then there is my youngest twin son who is also a Junior. The poor kid wants so badly to know what he wants to do, but can't find a direction to head in. He ended up declaring a major the second semester Sophomore year. He had already taken some classes environmentally related so decided to go in that direction. He transferred this year to a new school and went with a different environmental major and is miserable. He only took it by default. He absolutely has no idea what he wants to do.

My husband and I have done as much as we possibly can to try and help him. Right now my son is so frustrated and discouraged. His college has a large career center and offers actual career counseling. Basically he needs to start from scratch when it comes to figuring out a direction. Thank God his school offers this service. I feel so bad for him. He's so lost right now. I wish we could tell him to take some time off, but if he does then his student loans will go into repayment. He has an appointment next week right before he has to pick classes. I feel so helpless!

Hugs from here too.

I hope he finds his path soon.

 

[mom2rtk]

Anyone else feeling like they are on the down side of this semester? Yeah for November!

We got our DS for the weekend and had a great visit. We did the same thing we did a month ago, with my husband making the round trip to get him Friday and me making the round trip early this morning to have him back for his first class. I felt like it went better this time, probably because he'll be back for 9 days in less than 3 weeks..... then back for less than 2 weeks before his 5 week winter break. This is a semester I think many of us will be happy to have behind us!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

Finally getting some time to check in with all of you!

Marcy, so sorry your son is struggling, but I agree that he is doing wonderful things by figuring out how to make it all work out, and is taking steps toward that goal.

clh2, wow, London & Paris! what an amazing opportunity for your DD. I know how you feel about her not being home. DS wants to go to New Mexico and work at Philmont Scout ranch next summer. he also told us he might not come home the first part of summer. I know he has a GF and think that is probably one of the main reasons he wants to stay. So, we have our cruise planned, so at least I know I will see him for that, but I might not hear from or see DS for the most of the summer. it will be an adjustment, and not one I particularly like, but I know Philmont would be a great opportunity, and completely support that. He would love it!

nancygirl, I hope the counseling service can help him out. I can't imagine how frustrating that must be to be at college and not know what you want to do when everyone else seems to know. hugs to all of you!

mom2rtk, glad your round trips went better this time! I too am looking forward to Thanksgiving!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

Got to see DS on Sunday! We had an Eagle Scout ceremony to go to. DS was participating, so we drove to pick him up in the AM and then we dropped him off same night. it was great to see him!

Emotional Eagle Ceremony. the scout was the last of his patrol to make Eagle. Everyone of the scouts from that patrol made Eagle! So proud of all of our boys.

One of the things we do at the ceremony is a video presentation of the scout's journey from tiger cub to Eagle Scout. I got very teary eyed because DS was in lots of the pics and just seeing the boys grow up on the video was very touching and sad. All those little Tiger cubs... all grown up now... ***sigh*** where has all the time gone?

 

[mom2rtk]

Got to see DS on Sunday! We had an Eagle Scout ceremony to go to. DS was participating, so we drove to pick him up in the AM and then we dropped him off same night. it was great to see him!

Emotional Eagle Ceremony. the scout was the last of his patrol to make Eagle. Everyone of the scouts from that patrol made Eagle! So proud of all of our boys.

One of the things we do at the ceremony is a video presentation of the scout's journey from tiger cub to Eagle Scout. I got very teary eyed because DS was in lots of the pics and just seeing the boys grow up on the video was very touching and sad. All those little Tiger cubs... all grown up now... ***sigh*** where has all the time gone?

So glad you got to see your DS, even if it was brief.

I know exactly how you feel about seeing the photos though. One of my son's friends was also back in town this weekend so he went over to visit. His mom had found a YMCA basketball from 1st grade (I think) with my DS, that friend, and another friend at college with my DS. Oh my...... what tiny boys. Sigh.

I really need to find time to get back to my scrapbooking. I think it will be very therapeutic.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

So glad you got to see your DS, even if it was brief.

I know exactly how you feel about seeing the photos though. One of my son's friends was also back in town this weekend so he went over to visit. His mom had found a YMCA basketball from 1st grade (I think) with my DS, that friend, and another friend at college with my DS. Oh my...... what tiny boys. Sigh.

I really need to find time to get back to my scrapbooking. I think it will be very therapeutic.

ME TOO, ME TOO!!! Scrapbooking is so much fun, and I agree I think it could be VERY therapeutic! I also have a cross-stitch I made for each of my kids for their first birthdays. Of course neither one wants a "baby" cross-stitch in their room, so I was thinking I would hang them up on the first floor. But I think I want to pair them with a collage of some of my favorite pics of them when growing up, so I would have a collage of each kid. And then this past summer I went to WDW with DD and then DLR with DS. I got a pic in front of the castle with each kid and a border of "I love my mom" that I think I will add to that arrangement. Not sure yet, but in my mind it looks great!

I have so many projects for scrapbooking too, I should probably get going on those, it will at least keep my hands away from snacking too!

 

[RejoyceoverDisney]

Talked to my DS last night via text.
He was able to register for his Spring classes a day early because of the AP classes he transferred into the college. When I asked if he got the classes he wanted he said "Yes and I can still taste the lead from all the bullets I had to bite in order to get what I needed."

Where he comes up with these things I don't know.

Anyway, he said that because on Monday's his classes start very early. It will be a long day for him. He has an 8 or 8:30 class and then goes to the shuttle to get to another class over on the other campus for 11am. Then when he is done he comes back to the campus he lives on and has an evening class from 6-9pm.
I'm proud of him for biting the bullets (8am, other campus, and evening class) but he has a great schedule and is on track to potentially graduate a semester early or get in a few extra classes that will help him maybe get better prepared for competitive job searching.

I know that I pushed him harder than maybe some think I should have pushed him over the years, but I don't regret it because he is very smart, likable, and has great potential. There are reasons maybe others might have held him back but I'm glad I made the sacrifices and life choices to give him this chance and in all honesty!!! I see he has his own wings now. Not that they are full strength but and he won't get tired and come back for direction, but nice to see him take his life and make some nice decisions to give his life his own direction.

Ok when I come back crying and worried, please point me to this post.

Wishing you all this peace of mind.

 

[mom2rtk]

ME TOO, ME TOO!!! Scrapbooking is so much fun, and I agree I think it could be VERY therapeutic! I also have a cross-stitch I made for each of my kids for their first birthdays. Of course neither one wants a "baby" cross-stitch in their room, so I was thinking I would hang them up on the first floor. But I think I want to pair them with a collage of some of my favorite pics of them when growing up, so I would have a collage of each kid. And then this past summer I went to WDW with DD and then DLR with DS. I got a pic in front of the castle with each kid and a border of "I love my mom" that I think I will add to that arrangement. Not sure yet, but in my mind it looks great!

I have so many projects for scrapbooking too, I should probably get going on those, it will at least keep my hands away from snacking too!

I have saved a fortune in therapy through the years with scrapbooking. Of course, all the scrapbook supplies cost a lot more than therapy. But let's just keep that to ourselves.

Earlier this year, I started over on my son's baby/childhood scrapbooks. I had started back in 99 and my style has evolved so much that it just drove me nuts that some of my favorite photos of him were in the ugliest format. I like your idea of a collage.

Continued good luck on your diet!

Talked to my DS last night via text.
He was able to register for his Spring classes a day early because of the AP classes he transferred into the college. When I asked if he got the classes he wanted he said "Yes and I can still taste the lead from all the bullets I had to bite in order to get what I needed."

Where he comes up with these things I don't know.

Anyway, he said that because on Monday's his classes start very early. It will be a long day for him. He has an 8 or 8:30 class and then goes to the shuttle to get to another class over on the other campus for 11am. Then when he is done he comes back to the campus he lives on and has an evening class from 6-9pm.
I'm proud of him for biting the bullets (8am, other campus, and evening class) but he has a great schedule and is on track to potentially graduate a semester early or get in a few extra classes that will help him maybe get better prepared for competitive job searching.

I know that I pushed him harder than maybe some think I should have pushed him over the years, but I don't regret it because he is very smart, likable, and has great potential. There are reasons maybe others might have held him back but I'm glad I made the sacrifices and life choices to give him this chance and in all honesty!!! I see he has his own wings now. Not that they are full strength but and he won't get tired and come back for direction, but nice to see him take his life and make some nice decisions to give his life his own direction.

Ok when I come back crying and worried, please point me to this post.

Wishing you all this peace of mind.

Good luck to your DS with his new schedule! My DS had to be at school every morning at 6:45 last year, so he found his fall semester to be a gift from the heavens with no class before 9:30. I'm not sure he's adjusted enough yet to consider an 8 AM class! I had my share of early classes, but then I've always been an early riser. DS? Not so much.

You did pretty good though if you got your DS to a point where he's willing to do what has to be done.

Your post reminded me that today was DS's spring enrollment day too. I texted to see how it went and am still waiting to hear back. I think he was going to have to log onto his laptop in the middle of history class. I'm curious how that went. But heck, it all beats the long lines I had to physically stand in back in the day.

 

[RejoyceoverDisney]

I have saved a fortune in therapy through the years with scrapbooking. Of course, all the scrapbook supplies cost a lot more than therapy. But let's just keep that to ourselves.

Earlier this year, I started over on my son's baby/childhood scrapbooks. I had started back in 99 and my style has evolved so much that it just drove me nuts that some of my favorite photos of him were in the ugliest format. I like your idea of a collage.

Continued good luck on your diet!



Good luck to your DS with his new schedule! My DS had to be at school every morning at 6:45 last year, so he found his fall semester to be a gift from the heavens with no class before 9:30. I'm not sure he's adjusted enough yet to consider an 8 AM class! I had my share of early classes, but then I've always been an early riser. DS? Not so much.

You did pretty good though if you got your DS to a point where he's willing to do what has to be done.

Your post reminded me that today was DS's spring enrollment day too. I texted to see how it went and am still waiting to hear back. I think he was going to have to log onto his laptop in the middle of history class. I'm curious how that went. But heck, it all beats the long lines I had to physically stand in back in the day.

My son for high school for 4 years had to leave for school carpool at 7am. So ya when he was able to schedule all afternoon classes this semester he was happy. Even last semester his classes were after 10am but that was because he was placed on a campus that he had to shuttle each morning so that still was a pain.

He'll be fine and yes I'm proud of him. I'm not trying to pat myself on the back but feel like it seems like that. However what I have done is lead by the example that there are somethings in life you don't want to do, but to get to the end result of what you want in life, you make the sacrifice (bite the bullet) and do what you have to do. There are roses and sweetness when you get stronger working through it.
My son on a couple occasions commented he saw that in me. It felt good to have him say it, but now feels good to know he is rising to the occasion and doing it himself. Super proud of him.

Oh I hope your son got his classes ok. Yes it does beat the long lines only to find out the class you wanted is full. My son has done the midnight until 2am trying to make a schedule work. Again more character building in a different way.

Weird how when I feel proud of him, I miss him in the way I just want to give him a big hug. Love the way he has been giving me those little boy hugs lately when I've seen him. He just melts in my arms like he used to as a little boy.
I love that he doesn't feel too old to do that.
Shhhhh do'nt tell him I told you or he'll think he has to stop.

 

[mom2rtk]

My son for high school for 4 years had to leave for school carpool at 7am. So ya when he was able to schedule all afternoon classes this semester he was happy. Even last semester his classes were after 10am but that was because he was placed on a campus that he had to shuttle each morning so that still was a pain.

He'll be fine and yes I'm proud of him. I'm not trying to pat myself on the back but feel like it seems like that. However what I have done is lead by the example that there are somethings in life you don't want to do, but to get to the end result of what you want in life, you make the sacrifice (bite the bullet) and do what you have to do. There are roses and sweetness when you get stronger working through it.
My son on a couple occasions commented he saw that in me. It felt good to have him say it, but now feels good to know he is rising to the occasion and doing it himself. Super proud of him.

Oh I hope your son got his classes ok. Yes it does beat the long lines only to find out the class you wanted is full. My son has done the midnight until 2am trying to make a schedule work. Again more character building in a different way.

Weird how when I feel proud of him, I miss him in the way I just want to give him a big hug. Love the way he has been giving me those little boy hugs lately when I've seen him. He just melts in my arms like he used to as a little boy.
I love that he doesn't feel too old to do that.
Shhhhh do'nt tell him I told you or he'll think he has to stop.

I totally get what you are saying. We as parents know which things will push our kids out of their comfort level the most. And when we see them step up to the plate and accept the challenge, we just burst with pride. They might even be things that are easy for other kids, but we know our kids best and know just why a certain thing was particularly hard for our kid.

As we left home the day we took our DS to school, I could tell it was hard for him. I sat down and talked with him for a bit and told him it's the hard things we do in life that we are proudest of later. I hope that really settled into his brain.

Thanks for your post today. When I read it I texted him to see if he got his classes, and he called me back! So apparently I have you to thank for the call from my son tonight! Oh, and he did get all his classes with minor tweaking. I wish he had been able to get Monday or Friday off to make trips home easier, but that's a pretty low priority in the greater scheme of things.

 

[marcyinPA]

I just checked with DS about when he registers for classes. His day is Friday. I hope he knows what he is doing....

 

[RejoyceoverDisney]

I totally get what you are saying. We as parents know which things will push our kids out of their comfort level the most. And when we see them step up to the plate and accept the challenge, we just burst with pride. They might even be things that are easy for other kids, but we know our kids best and know just why a certain thing was particularly hard for our kid.

As we left home the day we took our DS to school, I could tell it was hard for him. I sat down and talked with him for a bit and told him it's the hard things we do in life that we are proudest of later. I hope that really settled into his brain.

Thanks for your post today. When I read it I texted him to see if he got his classes, and he called me back! So apparently I have you to thank for the call from my son tonight! Oh, and he did get all his classes with minor tweaking. I wish he had been able to get Monday or Friday off to make trips home easier, but that's a pretty low priority in the greater scheme of things.

Awe! This made my day.

I just checked with DS about when he registers for classes. His day is Friday. I hope he knows what he is doing....

Didn't you say he met with his advisor? I'm sure he knows what he's doing. Deep breath. This last semester my son didn't have a class he wanted and that is hard to get into but he needed it for his specialization. After classes were scheduled and the college adjusted and added more classes my son was able to get the class he wanted. So it's not the end of the world. Just a relief when they do get what they want first shot.

Best of luck to all our kiddos.

 

[LisaR]

I can't take it anymore!!! DD just called and she has ANOTHER fever, headache, swollen glands, and is achy. These are the exact same symptoms she had two weeks ago. Why is this happening to her? I'm so worried! She is going to come home tomorrow. I really don't want her driving if she feels like crap, but she doesn't want me driving that far. I told her to call when she wakes up in the morning (afternoon) and we will see how she feels. I'm going to make an appointment with our doctor for Friday. What could this be? I want her tested for mono. Why would a perfectly healthy kid suddenly start having fevers? I don't think she has had a fever since she was like 10. Ugh! I'm not going to sleep tonight.