Have you felt attacked while posting here?

[melkimmom]

Sometimes......just sometimes I see this happening when I read this board.

Does anyone feel this way?

 

[Mike]

Sometimes......just sometimes I see this happening when I read this board.

Does anyone feel this way?

What are you CRAZY?!?!?! I can't believe how insensitive you are!!!

Just kidding

Yes it does happen .... but this is nothing compared to the old Debate Board

 

[DVC-curious]

All boards have some level of attacking going on. I think that there is less of it here then on any other board that I have used. The again I rarely say anything controversial.

 

[Johnnie Fedora]

Have you ever felt attacked?

Concerning certain topics...yes and for other topics...no. It also depends on what you consider an attack. IMO, there's to much over-sensitivity that leads to a false sense of pursecution. There should be room for health disagreement concerning Disney/DVC topics.

In my limited attack experiences, real attacks tend to come via PM. For obvious reasons, personal attacks are more well defined that way. A PM attack allows you to see the real personality of a fellow poster, and not the pixie dust version they attempt to project in their posts.

 

[lllovell]

I have not felt attacked even though I have opened myself up for it a few times. I don't let things get personal even if I am debating someone on a point.

I believe if you have to resort to attacking the person, you are out of points or never had a point to make in the first place. (kinda like during the elections - when the name calling started, I always stopped talking....it is childish to me)

 

[dianeschlicht]

I have not felt attacked here for a long time. There used to be someone on the board here who did that on a regular basis, but they kept getting banned, so now I never feel that way.

 

[newholidayx2]

yes its happened
not everyone comes from the same experiences
the boards have been "mellower" thank goodness

 

[becobscot]

Not really attacked but slightly nitpicked on occasion.

 

[Sammie]

Attacked, not really. I guess I feel attacked is a pretty strong word for heated discussions. Certainly people will always disagree and I have had my share of being called names etc. because of my opinion. But I figure everyone is entitled to their opinoin, including me. I don't take it personal. I don't know the person therefore their opinion does not matter.

I do think though that when you post on a public forum you have to expect to get differing opinions. It would be nice if that could be done with an element of politeness, but that does not always happen. Many times it's also a case of just not understanding the intent of the other person.

Like Johnnie, I don't like it when it leaves the board and goes into Private Message, I find that rude. If you are going to comment, put it where everyone can see, including the moderators.

 

[Beca]

Yes...I have felt attacked a few times....but, really...most often they were not on these boards.

I once posted on the restaurant board (on a question about tipping) that I did not feel that servers in buffets should get the 20% that full-service waiters and waitresses do. (I used to work in a "family-style" restaurant, and I was paid minimum wage, not "tipped minimum wage", and I did not report my tips. I made a LOT more money than when I was a "waitress", where I would bring home a $40 check for two weeks (AND paid 7% tipshare to the cooks, bus boys, hostesses, and expediters).

A person responded (because I had a DVC logo on my sig), "Well, I guess we know how Beca pays for her DVC...". However, MANY posters came out to tell this person how wrong they were for saying that. It made me feel good.

I think there are definitely "hot buttons" on this board...people feel very passionate about DVC...it just happens. I have been around long enough to know what those buttons are, and know that I am choosing to be in "dangerous territory" if I post.

I am also starting to get good a "biting my tongue" or just choosing not to participate when things start going "to the dark side".

I'm sorry you have felt this way!!!



Beca

 

[G00fyDad]

Yes. Actually I do. Then, believe it or not, the moderator PM's me and tells me to watch myself.

HUH?? I am just really stunned sometimes. Once I even had some girl here (I'd name names but...) PM me and chew me out because she thought I was laughing at her. All because I put a smiley in my response to her post. The stupid thing was I was agreeing with her in my post. Geez!

There are others that seem to follow me around and intentionally post attacking remarks constantly then run to the mods when I defend myself. I can think of two off the top of my head...

There is also one other poster her that has a real nasty habit of popping into threads and intentionally posting the EXACT opposite of the popular opinion just to stir up trouble.

Oh well. some people were just born to make life miserable.

 

[ArRzrbk]

Yes, on the "Restaurant" board for my PS dessert only post. But I wouldn't say attacked, but only because I don't want to think of it that way. Just got my feelings hurt a bit.

Honestly, the incident came because the person misread my note and thought I was trying to do something I wasn't. When they realized I wasn't trying to "get around the system," rather, just get a straight answer on the policy, I got a PM from them appologizing.

All has been forgiven and forgotten. And it wasn't really that bad anyway. I tend to wear my heart on my shirtsleave. E-mails are hard to "read" (no pun intended). Face-to-face conversations are hard enough. With E-mail, people do tend to read a lot into the messages that really isn't there.

Char

 

[gtrist4life]

Never felt attacked, but I do attempt to write as clear as possible and I have a diplomatic personality, so my posts aren't usually much of a target.

With the number of registered posters (over 63,000 ), "conflicts" and mis-perceptions are going to be par for the boards. Live, learn, and move on more the wiser.

Peace,
G4L

 

[Muushka]

Well, yes I have felt attacked while posting here (on the DVC board). There was a time, not too long ago, we had one or two posters that really attacked you if you did not agree with what they were saying. I once had one of them write me about a 10 paragraph post (BIG paragraphs) as to the fact that I was not using my DVC correctly and that I should sell my points!
Whew, thank God those days (and posters) are gone.

I have received PMs apologizing for behavior on the boards. Now THAT takes a big person.

What truly amazes me is that people will PM one another and attack them. I did not even realize that sort of behavior existed. Boy, when PMing is used to cuss me out, that thing will be turned off ASAP!

 

[DrBond007]

Yes. Actually I do. Then, believe it or not, the moderator PM's me and tells me to watch myself.

HUH?? I am just really stunned sometimes. Once I even had some girl here (I'd name names but...) PM me and chew me out because she thought I was laughing at her. All because I put a smiley in my response to her post. The stupid thing was I was agreeing with her in my post. Geez!

There are others that seem to follow me around and intentionally post attacking remarks constantly then run to the mods when I defend myself. I can think of two off the top of my head...

There is also one other poster her that has a real nasty habit of popping into threads and intentionally posting the EXACT opposite of the popular opinion just to stir up trouble.

Oh well. some people were just born to make life miserable.

I've seen the same. Well, at least your getting the courtesy of a warning by mods. Sometimes it is if a poster is stalking, posting response after response to have the last word. Oh well.

Unfortunately, discussions about a topic have reverted to personal dispersions when people aren't able discuss thier position about the topic very well. Sometimes boundaries get blurred and unclear, I'm sure the mods do their best to be equatable. Just seems like some are allowed to get away with personal dispersions, and some are held to a higher standard. It's probably not intentional, just a matter of interpretations.

I have received PMs apologizing for behavior on the boards. Now THAT takes a big person.

Good point. There's been a time or two when I've gotten caught up and gone overboard. Oh well.

The debate board was a tough place to visit during the political season, especially if you had a republican viewpoint. Republican posters were regularly the target of personal disparaging attacks and personally abusive comments that were substituted for discussions of issues, much more than I saw in the opposite direction. Fortunately that season ended.

 

[geffric]

Not really attacked but slightly nitpicked on occasion.

or ignored...

 

[lsutigger2]

Not really attacked, but made to feel bad because they felt that I had been lied to about my purchase of DVC points. BTW, DH and I have never regretted our purchase.

I tend to stay clear of controversy. And I try to be very clear about what I'm posting.

 

[MiaSRN62]

ArEzrbk states : Yes, on the "Restaurant" board for my PS dessert only post.

Just have to ask......do you mean you made a PS for dessert only ? Did Disney allow you ? I'm just really curious about this because I'm not exactly sure what the policy is on "dessert only". I had an experience 2 summers ago where my family wanted to go to Tony's for dessert only ( was craving the bananas foster there !) and they turned us away !? It was about 4 pm as I recall. They told us for dessert only we could use the Main Street Bakery. I cannot tell you how put-off we felt. I always meant to write a letter and ask about this. Is this set policy ? I know I should post this on the restaurants board, but since it was brought up here, I was just curious.

As for the attacking. Yes .....I have felt this but fortunately very rarely when a thread becomes heated and somehow turns very personal. Luckily I've only felt this maybe once a year.

 

[melkimmom]

I understand that everybody takes DVC very seriusly.... I do to....but there are ways of saying things and then...there are ways of saying things.

Disney is the happiest place on earth...Why can't this be the happiest board on the www?

I believe we are all here for the same reasons.....Get informed about DVC....Trade helpful information about DVC....and have the most wonderful time using DVC. Don't we all live in the same neigborhood after all?


I feel that is important to learn to agree to disagree with politness and respect.

I admire you guys who don't take it personal...in my case.... call me sensitive but everything is personal to me. It's not nice to be hurt by anybody even if they don't know who you are or your name. I know I have to lighten up but lets play nice

 

[athenna]

I understand that everybody takes DVC very seriusly.... I do to....but there are ways of saying things and then...there are ways of saying things.

Disney is the happiest place on earth...Why can't this be the happiest board on the www?

I believe we are all here for the same reasons.....Get informed about DVC....Trade helpful information about DVC....and have the most wonderful time using DVC. Don't we all live in the same neigborhood after all?


I feel that is important to learn to agree to disagree with politness and respect.

I admire you guys who don't take it personal...in my case.... call me sensitive but everything is personal to me. It's not nice to be hurt by anybody even if they don't know who you are or your name. I know I have to lighten up but lets play nice

Don't worry, we are all here to help each other
And just ignore the (few) folks who don't have a good attitude.