This whole conversation just all screams about sending women back to the 1950s where they know their place. You can still have a personality and be the spouse of someone famous. You don't have to adhere to ancient social norms just "because" some people think it's classy when really it's damaging. Like did you really just want her to stay quiet when her mental health was at issue? Because otherwise speaking up is damaging to the royal family?
I just don't understand those who value outdated institutions over people.
I do not believe Meghan couldn't get a therapist as Charles, William and Harry had therapists throughout their lives. Before Meghan came along, William, Harry and Kate were already working on their mental health organization Heads Together. So the importance of talking was already on their radar for longer. That Meghan felt she couldn't speak up is something I understand and relate to, but that's different from that she couldn't get help. That's something I just don't buy.
It is not a problem that she has a personality, it's how she (and Harry) tried to find her (their) way. Meghan comes across as a new manager in a company. The company is doing perfectly fine and then a new manager comes in and says: "No, I don't agree, I want to do it completely different." And if the owner of the company then tells you: "No you can't." You either leave, or you try to get your way diplomatically. In most organizations change is possible, but it doesn't happen overnight. Through the ages every royal joining the family has made some kind of changes. They are definitely more focused on the people than they were ever before.
Change management is a real line of work, it's a profession that takes hard work and mostly patience. I've said it before and I will say it again: I am sure Harry and Meghan could have had their half way system, if they had handled it differently and if they had patience.
Does Meghan have a personality problem that clashes with the UK royal family? Yes. But because she seemed to behave like a bull in a china shop. And there was a culture clash, California vs. UK.
Americans are more confrontational and that just didn't work here.
For your remark about outdated institutions and people.
When you are the head of the country, whether you are a king or a president, you are there working for the people. You as a person doesn't matter as much as the continuity and the stability of the country. This is about things bigger than a person.
But please, let's keep views on the monarchy and other forms of government out of this discussion. I think your political system is backwards, you think that about mine. Agree to disagree.