Got stood up at a DIS meet today

[Serena]

Liz, that's awful. How is she doing? Is she alright now?

Things do happen and I'm really sorry you were the final straw for Barry's frustration.

 

[Robinrs]

Awwww, barreeeeeeee....

See it WASN'T you!! Liz is such a conscientious, almost TOO conscientious, person... I KNOW she means it when she says she had an emergency.

I'm sorry you had a bad day but I hope it gets better now. You know I love you...

Robinrs

 

[Pam]

OK GUYS, YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE WHO STOOD BARRY ...Start PM-*** him and apologize. OK...it's not for me to tell you guys what to do, but I am sure you guys feel really bad and ashame for not calling him and letting him know that you guys are not going to show. Now you guys know how upset Barry is.

Fantasia, please read the post ABOVE yours.......

Liz - I am just very relieved that you are ok - I knew that you wouldn't do that on purpose! You are too responsible of a person. I was so worried about you that I PM'ed Elaine to see if she had heard from you. How is your niece feeling now? I know that those girls are the light of your life!

 

[Carl]

Barry, see everything came out alright. There really was a reason the person did not get to the meet. At least you weren't told that you "freaked" them out. For all you who in the future decide that you don't want to go to a meet that you have indicated that you did, please be considerate enough to post that you have changed your mind. Of course, in the case of Barry, there was an excuse in that there was a last minute emergency. But, if there is any way you can let the person know ahead of time, please do. It is really upsetting for a person to sit around looking for people who indicated they were coming to a meet.

 

[hentob]

I don't know you, but am sending positive thoughts your way.

I hope you don't get banned from the DIS boards b/c of missing your meet.



Hentob

 

[helenabear]

Liz I hope all is okay with your family now... I had no idea that you were supposed to be there until we chatted earlier (open mouth, insert foot ) I know you would have rather met up with the rest of them if it meant your neice wouldn't have been sick. Take care and enjoy your stay in Florida... don't feel so bad though, things do come up!!!

 

[dandave]

lizdotcom99, I don't know you, but you don't sound like an "idiot" to me. Things happen- period.
I had to fly to Myrtle Beach to my sister's wedding this weekend, and my plane was overbooked. I voluntarily got bumped, because I had flexibility. I had to stay unexpectedly overnight in Atlanta (with no luggage, makeup, toiletries, etc...), but still got to Myrtle Beach a day before the wedding. Thanks to my very understanding family, I was able to gain 400 Delta Dollars for my slight discomfort. They understood and were actually very excited for me. Now I can more easily afford to fly home, yet again.
Had I been headed to a Dis Meet, then I guess I may have been the witch who didn't show or call. That cell phone number could have very well been in my luggage with everything else, which got sent to Myrtle Beach a whole day before I did. By the time I eventually found my bag, I could have been the one being talked about here on the Dis for my apparent "rudeness".
I'm not signing up for any meets any time soon.

 

[peachgirl]

I think it's terrible that anyone is singled out for public ridicule by a moderator because they didn't make it to a Dis meet.

Whether the person had a good excuse or not, for a moderator to single them out and use their position as a moderator to claim they could ban them is wrong, period. It would seem to me that this entire subject is a personal matter that should have been handled privately.

lizdotcom99, I don't know you at all, but you just showed what I consider to be an amazing amount of self control and class in your response.


Posted at the risk of being banned......

 

[preshi]

Originally posted by peachgirl
I think it's terrible that anyone is singled out for public ridicule by a moderator because they didn't make it to a Dis meet.

Whether the person had a good excuse or not, for a moderator to single them out and use their position as a moderator to claim they could ban them is wrong, period. It would seem to me that this entire subject is a personal matter that should have been handled privately.

lizdotcom99, I don't know you at all, but you just showed what I consider to be an amazing amount of self control and class in your response.


Posted at the risk of being banned......

Call this a golf clap if you want but I totally agree, someone is owed an apology here and it isn't Barry.

 

[Hagred]

Whenever I schedule a meet with someone else, whether it's DIS or another club, I wait approximately 15 minutes past the time they're supposed to show....then I leave. After all, it's my time, too. If you can't take the time to be on time for a meet (or even show up), then I won't be taking time out of my life to wait for you.

I've had two incidences where I've scheduled to meet people, waited 15 minutes and then left. One of them called me later on to find out where I was and the other one never contacted me again. Good riddance.

I would never leave someone stranded waiting for me at a restaurant or a designated spot. If I didn't have their cell, then you can betcher bottom dollar that I'd be sending an apology email or phone them when I got back to my house or destination. I wouldn't be waiting for them to call or email with the wounded "Where were you?".

On a couple of occasions, people have called me when they were going to be late and I appreciate that. Enormously. Especially since I know they're not just blowing me off because the fabled "I found something better than meeting Hagred" came up.

Regardless of what actually happened (unless you find out later it was because of a medical emergency or car accident), that's how the waiting/stood up person feels: like the other person found something better and didn't even bother to call and cancel the meet.

So I totally understand how you feel, Barry. Just try to keep up your spirits and keep verifying that the person you're meeting is really, truly in the frame of mind to keep that appointment.

 

[damo]

There was probably more than one family involved in the Dismeet. Sounds to me like a bunch of people didn't show up and that's what got Barry so upset.

 

[BarryHom]

First of all, no one is going to be banned by what they have said so far in this thread.

Second of all, I want to apologize to lizdotcom99 about this post. I hope your family is doing well.

Thirdly, even though the missed meet was due to a family emergency, I hope everyone understands why I was frustrated. I've been quiet about people who have missed meets and left me hanging out in limbo. I had a Sea World Orlando meet once. A DISer was supposed to meet me. We had set up a time and place to meet. The meeting place was at the counter where they hand out maps inside. We even confirmed this meet place. Where did she wait for me? She was by Guest Services outside the front gates. Not even close! She might as well have been by Kraken! She left her cellphone in the car too. Another time, I had a Busch Gardens Tampa meet. The people who were going to meet up called me the day before that they were too tired to meet up. So I cancelled the meet. The next day, I got a call saying that they were going to try to make the meet! The voice mail was left in the morning, but I was working nights then. I didn't get the message until an hour before the scheduled meet! Frustration after frustration built up. I didn't want to cause a stir and single out the people who stood me up. Then the straw broke the proverbal camel's back. This time it was an emergency, but the last times seem to be due to something else.

Forthly, when I receive a cellphone number, I always program it into my cellphone. It beats carrying around sheets of paper. I also know who's calling because my caller ID picks up the name and phone number. If I don't know the phone number, I generally don't pick up. I get a lot of strange wrong numbers.

Lastly, I didn't mention any names or identify who stood me up. Now I feel bad for posting this thread. I hope everyone does understand why I was frustrated.

Now I'm confused.

 

[BarryHom]

I think Hargred hit it on the head. Imagine how you would feel if you stood outside in the sun at Animal Kingdom at noon in July and you're waiting for people to show up. And you wait for 15-20 minutes. You know how hot AK is. You know how hot it is in July. If you're late, that's one thing. But I'm sweating out in the sun and I want to hid in AC in Dinosaur or It's Tough to Be a Bug!

 

[bsnyder]

Some of you have no idea what a warm, caring person Barry is is, but take my word for it, he's one of the nicest, most thoughtful people here on the DIS.

And he's apologized to Liz. And Liz apologized to him.

I'm sure that won't be enough for some people but it's more than enough for me. {{{HUGS}}} to you, Barry!

 

[hawke]

And imagine how it feels to get held up because a child has become very sick, and then you get back online to find out that someone is crucifying you because you decided that it was more important to help a family member who was in the hospital than to meet someone from the internet.

I undertand that you may be frustrated from prior events, but that does NOT give you the right to publicly embarrass Liz because of it.

 

[Serena]

Barry, you are a sweet person, and you lost your temper. It happens to the best of us and we can only hope to be forgiven and not raked over the coals for it.

I hope your future meets are more successful.

 

[Serena]

Ok, it's not right to lose your temper and embarrass someone, but it's perfectly alright to embarrass them??? At least he had a reasonable excuse.

 

[tiggersmom2]

WebmasterBarry,
I don't think you should feel bad for posting this thread! Heck, I'm angry for you! If I was suppose to meet someone at a specified location you can bet your bottom dollar I would be there or I would CALL. Sorry, losing the cell phone number just doesn't hold water! Do me a favor and set up a DIS meet in GA or a neighboring state, I'll be there!!

 

[IloveDMB]

Originally posted by tiggersmom2
WebmasterBarry,
I don't think you should feel bad for posting this thread! Heck, I'm angry for you! If I was suppose to meet someone at a specified location you can bet your bottom dollar I would be there or I would CALL. Sorry, losing the cell phone number just doesn't hold water! Do me a favor and set up a DIS meet in GA or a neighboring state, I'll be there!!

Amen, sister!

So Barry was angry and he posted about it. How many other people have done that? This is an OPEN forum, please don't condemn him. He was just expressing his frustration.

Barry, if you ever make it to Six Flags in NJ, I'll be there, it's right around the corner.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I have met Barry, and know him some, I have not met Liz, but am looking forward to meeting her here in Chicago next month when she comes here to see lots of others from here on the DIS. Barry loves to put meets together, Liz has been very instrumental in helping to get some of the Chicago stuff together for next month's meet. I know the frustration that Barry started this thread out with, which he now admits he should not have started at all. Serena said it well, bsnyder said it well. Liz had every reason in the world for missing her time with Barry, Barry flew off the handle, said some things maybe best not said, but again, like Serena said, it happens to everyone. I try to be organized with phone numbers, cell phones and all, but there are times we blow it, forget the number, the phone, dead battery, lost directions, transposed days or times, or a myriad of other things.

Liz said she was sorry, Barry said he was sorry, both involved have said they were sorry to each other. Good enough for me for two good people.

Spago, go study.