Dis703
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- Aug 24, 2010
What is so frustrating is that we agreed back in 2015 that my daughter and I would go to Disney in 2018 for a mother/daughter trip because my husband didn't want to back so soon, but now that I can actually start planning, he's changing his mind. I already purchased tickets through undercover tourist before the price increase. I checked with him before buying the tickets and he was ok with it. I've also been saving money and asking for gift cards for Christmas and birthdays to help pay for the trip. I almost have enough saved to pay for our food and souvenirs so that only thing left to pay for is our room and airfare. I don't buy a lot of things for myself, but the one thing I splurge on is Disney. My husband has expensive hobbies that he spends money on, but I don't complain when he buys something.
I've told him that we could go somewhere close for a couple days, he doesn't like to be gone for a long time anyway. We don't take a family vacation every year. This year we don't have one planned, but will take a couple long weekends and travel closer to home. Last year we went to Gatlinburg and his whole family came and that was a disaster.
I've pretty much decided that we won't go, unless my husband has a change of heart and is ok with us going. It's disappointing, but at least I purchased tickets before they have an expiration date and the gift cards won't expire so one day when I do go back I'll already have those things.
I had a similar reaction from my husband. We took a family trip when my twins were almost 2 with plans for a second family trip just under a year later (and bought APs to save money). The summer in between there was talk of going again for a short trip and his response was to go without him because we were already going too many times. So I planned a mother/son trip with my oldest who was 5 years old. Since we had APs already and found cheap flights it didn't cost much to go for just a few days. He was grumpy about it after even though he told me go without him.
FF we've had a few more annual trips. It's really the only place I have interest in going and our three kids absolutely LOVE it and ask me all the time when we are going back. He told me after our May 2015 trip he was done, and given his general grumpy attitude I was fine with that. He also told me he doesn't think we need to vacation every year and that we could just do day trip stuff at home (which we already do anyhow). So that fall I went to Disney just overnight with my sister and her BF and then got APs so I could take the kid's on individual mother/son trips the following year. Then he whined about me getting vacations and he didn't. The same guy who told me vacations weren't necessary. I told him if he wanted to find a place that we would all enjoy going, that we wouldn't have difficulty with safe foods for the kids (all three have major food allergies) and that was no more expensive than our usual budget he could plan a vacation. He had zero interest in planning anything so I went forward with a 3 day trip with each of my twins and then planned one for my oldest that turned into a 5 day trip with all of us. Again he says this year he absolutely will not go to Disney so I'm planning more mommy and me trips with my boys. I wish I could find another adult to come along so I could take all three, but there is no way I'd manage the parks with all of them alone so shorter individual trips it is for now.
I know plenty of moms who take their kids on trips without their spouse or one child at a time to get a little individual quality time together and I think it's great.