Around here, marriage is not that popular (Quebec-Canada). People tend to live together for long periods of time and then get married, often after having children.
I started dating DH at 16, he was 18. We moved in together when I was 20, DH was 22, both with degrees and employed. Had our first son at 22 (DH was 24), second at 24 (DH was 26), and last one at 26 (DH was 28). He proposed to me that summer, and we got married on our 10 year anniversary. That was 5 years ago. So we've been together 15 years, have three boys, but only married 5 years out of the 15 years.
I was married right after I turned 20, DH was 22. We had already been together 7 years, since I was in middle school! We've been married for 15 and together for 22. I hope my kids will do the same. I'd start to be a little concerned if they were approaching their mid-twenties and were not married and planning to have kids soon.
I was married right after I turned 20, DH was 22. We had already been together 7 years, since I was in middle school! We've been married for 15 and together for 22. I hope my kids will do the same. I'd start to be a little concerned if they were approaching their mid-twenties and were not married and planning to have kids soon.
Genuinely curious: why would you be concerned?
That is what YOU/I] want and I find that not fair to your kids! What an awful pressure to put on them. What if you aren't grandma till 60? Or older than that? You can still be an involved grandma.Maybe concerned is the wrong word. My mom got married at 20 and had me at 24. I got married at 20 and had DD at 24. I think I would be disappointed if I got to be 50 and had no grandchildren yet. My mom was 49 when I had DD and 50 when I had DS. We have had the best time these past 10 years camping with her, and going on vacations. I'm currently 35 and my kids are 9 and almost 11. They will be out of the house by the time I am 45. I would LOVE to spend my 50's being a grandma and camping and taking vacations with both my kids and grandchildren. I have a brother who is 10 years younger than me. He is 25, recently married and no plans on kids for a couple of years. By the time he does have children my mom will be in her early 60's. She is starting to slow down. Those children will know a completely different grandma than my kids have known. I want to be able to be a really fun, involved grandma, not an old lady sitting in a la-z-boy
Maybe concerned is the wrong word. My mom got married at 20 and had me at 24. I got married at 20 and had DD at 24. I think I would be disappointed if I got to be 50 and had no grandchildren yet. My mom was 49 when I had DD and 50 when I had DS. We have had the best time these past 10 years camping with her, and going on vacations. I'm currently 35 and my kids are 9 and almost 11. They will be out of the house by the time I am 45. I would LOVE to spend my 50's being a grandma and camping and taking vacations with both my kids and grandchildren. I have a brother who is 10 years younger than me. He is 25, recently married and no plans on kids for a couple of years. By the time he does have children my mom will be in her early 60's. She is starting to slow down. Those children will know a completely different grandma than my kids have known. I want to be able to be a really fun, involved grandma, not an old lady sitting in a la-z-boy
Why isn't marriage popular up there? Just curious.