Fairy, there is hope out there, my son has ADHD and asburgers, we have him on meds, but they are VERY low dose. We had tried concerta, but that made him violent. Now he's on Risperdal and Strattera. He's 10, and it's a challenge daily on different things. We have passes to DW, and he LOVES going. I don't try to make him do things he doesn't want to do, like Imagination in Epcot, the blast at the end ALWAYS makes him jump AND cry, even at 10, and even knowing it's coming. He'll hold his ears thru just about every ride, but if he knows he likes them, he'll do them. I have never gotten a GAC, even tho I might look into that, for both of us

I usually use the pins to distract him, or talk about food, that's his favorite thing. I do understand about the toys, we go thru that too. I tell him with the legos, that I'll put them together once, and then it's up to him what he does with them. We have a file full of instructions on different things, and a bin full of single legos

So I feel ya there! But, even with the disability, I wouldn't trade my ds for anything, he has a sweet side that is just to die for! And I eat it up!! Enjoy, it could always be worse! That's how i figure it anyways.