Funeral Attire, have you always worn black/dark colors?

[Todd&Copper]

I've always worn black or navy, but I have worn white or yellow blouses with my suits. I've never had anyone request a particular color (or to aviod a particular color) as of yet.

DH's aunt wore electric lime green (a suit - GAH!) to her FIL's funeral. I thought it was a very odd color to wear, and I knew she was often frustrated and angry at the man. Given her history with him, I found it inappropriate, almost like she was gloating that he finally kicked the bucket.

 

[Thats_for_Shore]

Personally, I normally wear black (or mostly black).

However, I have never once been offended at anything someone chooses to wear.

Although my particular town has well-to-do people, many of the neighboring towns are extremely poor. Some people just don't have the option of what they wear, without spending money that they don't have to buy a new outfit.

I have seen people show up in t-shirts and jeans. And you know what? It doesn't bother me at all. That person knows they're underdressed, but came anyway, out of love or respect for the deceased or the deceased's family.

And that love and/or respect is really all that matters in that situation.

 

[Minnesota!]

I try not to wear black. Maybe dark pants/skirt but usually a colored top.

For my dad's funeral I wore a caribbean blue skirt w/ green designs on it, a white top and a caribbean blue blazer. (It was pretty - can't describe it correctly).

For my goddaughter that died last summer (age 9) I wore a hot pink tee-shirt with a princess crown on it that I had bedazzeled (lol) onto it with a knee length off white skirt and sandals. Her mom requested colors.

For everything else, I wear what's dressy enough, but I don't care much about what color it is.

 

[kingdomheart2]

My dad passed in dec. we had people come in everything from sweats to suit and ties, some of the attire bothered my mom but it didn't bother me because thats how my dad was he was friends with everyone rich or poor. i always wear dark colors to funerals.

 

[EltonJohn]

Apart from one funeral, where the wife of the deceased requested we all wore anything but just black, as that is what he would of wanted, I always wear black or dark attire.

The same thing applied at my wife's uncles funeral, his niece wore red as that was his favorite color.

They can wear any color they want at mine.

I'd go one step further-I don't want a funeral!

 

[Disney Doll]

I generally go subdued, although I can't say I am in head to toe black.

 

[Chicago526]

For my mother's wake last fall, I wore black pants with a black sweater with a white shirt underneath. For her funeral I wore a mid calf length black skirt (with black tights and shoes) and a white shirt with a black sweater vest over it. Generally, guys wore dark suits (black or grey) with either white shirts or darker color shirts (DH wore a dark red shirt I think), most women wore dark colored dresses or pant/skirt/top combos.

However, if the decessed or their family requests people wear more upbeat colors, then that's great. When in doubt as to their wishes, best to err on the side of caution and be more traditional.

 

[Robinrs]

I wear black everyday... so Yes!

 

[Fire14]

I wore at soft blue t shirt dress to my mom's funeral. I was halfway between Ohio and MI When I got news and told DH to grab one of my few dresses from closet and my dress shoes and get his butt on road to Michigan as I need support.

 

[lvanleer]

I usually try to wear dark or subdued colors however when I die I want people to come to my service in whatever they feel comfortable in...if that's jeans I have no problem with that because I want them to celebrate my life and that's what I feel most comfortable in.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Honestly? I wear whatever because the only funerals I've ever been to have been close family. And we are a very casual family, I know they wouldn't want everyone looking all stuffy and dark.

When I die I think I'll request everyone to wear bright colors.

 

[candykisses]

I wear black or subdued colors. I think people should be comfortable in what they're wearing. It's more important that they came.

At my father's funeral I wore a black dress. My mother wore a black suit with a red silk blouse. My father had bought her the blouse on Friday and had left that evening for a fishing trip. He never got to see her in it, so she wore it to the funeral.

 

[Talking Hands]

It really depends on what capacity I am at the funeral as and the desires of the deceased family. If I am interpreting I do wear black. If I am just attending I may not wear black. At my Dad's funeral I wore a forest green dress. At Mom's my Dad choose a red dress for me.
When I die I want all my friends to wear bright colors and patterns except whoever interprets. And the interpreter doesn't need to wear black but no patterns.