Okay..this is a family issue and I would just like to know whether you all think I was right or wrong on it.
My brother (who is 28) called me today asking to "borrow" my son's Wii for a while (he just moved and does not have cable hooked up yet). I told him that I did not feel comfortable with that as he had "borrowed" my son's XBox 360 8 months ago and has not returned it either. I told him that I was concerned that I would not get the Wii back either. I told him to let me think about it and I would get back with him (I intended on discussing it with my husband first). My brother said calmly, "Never mind, I will just go ahead and buy one for myself." I said, "Okay."
About 15 minutes later, my dad calls and asks me if he was going to have to buy my brother a Wii. I told him that was between he and my brother and the decision was his. He said, "You really are not going to let him borrow the Wii for a few days?" I proceeded to explain to him the situation. He then stated that he could not believe that I would do that, that he can't believe I am "that kind of person" and that I am not being helpful to my family, and that my decision was going to "come back to haunt" me. I got angry at this point and told him that it was really my decision and that he should not be involved in it at all and should respect my decisions instead of guilting me. He then stated that this was a disrespectful comment to make to him. I told him again that this was my decision and a situation between me and my brother and that I was finished discussing it with him. I hung up.
I am so frustrated because I hate feeling guilted by him and I hate feeling like a bad person for making a decision someone didn't like. I am usually very helpful toward everyone in my family. I hardly ever say no to them. I just felt that since he had already failed to return one game console, why should I let him "borrow" another?
Anyway, what do you all think? Was I wrong? Right?
My brother (who is 28) called me today asking to "borrow" my son's Wii for a while (he just moved and does not have cable hooked up yet). I told him that I did not feel comfortable with that as he had "borrowed" my son's XBox 360 8 months ago and has not returned it either. I told him that I was concerned that I would not get the Wii back either. I told him to let me think about it and I would get back with him (I intended on discussing it with my husband first). My brother said calmly, "Never mind, I will just go ahead and buy one for myself." I said, "Okay."
About 15 minutes later, my dad calls and asks me if he was going to have to buy my brother a Wii. I told him that was between he and my brother and the decision was his. He said, "You really are not going to let him borrow the Wii for a few days?" I proceeded to explain to him the situation. He then stated that he could not believe that I would do that, that he can't believe I am "that kind of person" and that I am not being helpful to my family, and that my decision was going to "come back to haunt" me. I got angry at this point and told him that it was really my decision and that he should not be involved in it at all and should respect my decisions instead of guilting me. He then stated that this was a disrespectful comment to make to him. I told him again that this was my decision and a situation between me and my brother and that I was finished discussing it with him. I hung up.
I am so frustrated because I hate feeling guilted by him and I hate feeling like a bad person for making a decision someone didn't like. I am usually very helpful toward everyone in my family. I hardly ever say no to them. I just felt that since he had already failed to return one game console, why should I let him "borrow" another?
Anyway, what do you all think? Was I wrong? Right?
you were right and I think you explained it very factually to your brother and father.
Tell him to get a Library Card and read some books until the cable is hooked up. And remind him that if he doesn't return the books they could affect his credit rating!
