FRUSTRATED!!!! And our WDW trip just days away!!!

[Polyluvr]

And living in a house for free? was the main pt here? Anywho- she should have been saving for a rainy day? Right?

God Bless and Good luck to you OP! Have a wonderful vacation!

 

[N.Bailey]

I'm sure the future in-laws are only wanting to get the house listed because he's probably pretty sure you'll be leaving in the very near future of your own accord. It's time to spread your wings and see where life takes you. Go, enjoy your trip, and when you get home, it will be time to start the next chapter of your life.

Congrats! I'm sure it's exciting and scary at the same time. You won't be living on the street anytime soon. Just know, it WILL all work out in the end.

 

[terri01p]

 

[N.Bailey]

I saw no mention of kids at all. Why are some of you saying the OP should have put money back for her kids? Dogs perhaps? They seem to be a young couple just finishing up with their formal education and ready to take on the world. I doubt there was much money to save while attending law/medical school.

OP, I know it's scary and exciting time in your life. Try to enjoy your vacation. You have the whole world just on the verge of opening up to you!! This is just the beginning!!

 

[ols386]

OP- your gratefulness is not my concern, so..

Is it possible for you and your DF to purchase this house from him? Or start a pay plan to eventually purchase it from him?

Enjoy your trip!

That is what I was wondering, if the op and the df could start some kind of payment plan, and eventually purchase the house from them? It sounds like they really love the house and location, etc., so if it were me and I liked it that much, I think that's the direction I would try to go. I would talk to the df's parents and see if something like this could be worked out.

Good luck to you, OP!! And try to enjoy your upcoming trip to WDW.

 

[sjs314]

I have to say you were most fortunate that you were given a place to live rent free for 3 years, most couples are not so fortunate. I am looking at this from the point of view as the parent having 2 grown DS myself who athough grateful always seem to need some sort of help and DH and myself give it willing since when we started out our parents were not in a position to help us out at all. As someone pointed out the taxes and other expenses have to be costing your DBF father each month/year and I know myself your going on vacation when you don't pay rent might rub me the wrong way and if it was me I might consider selling the house.
I do hope you can work something out if you both love the house, and maybe can buy it. Try to have a nice vacation but I know it will be hard with this house matter on your mind. Good luck

 

[AmazingGrace]

Well, what a blessing it that this came down before your trip. Now you can cancel your trip, get your money back and plan for the future, whether it be buying the home or having some money to get you going somewhere else. I hope things work out for you. I know it must be hard having to leave a home you're happy in.

 

[Stacerita]

Seems to me there are a lot of bitter people here on the Dis who can´t stand the fact that the OP got to live in this house for free for so many years and can afford a trip to Disney.

No, not bitter at all. I just can't stand it when people whine about how good they have it and sound entittled.

 

[My sister's princess]

Seems to me there are a lot of bitter people here on the Dis who can´t stand the fact that the OP got to live in this house for free for so many years and can afford a trip to Disney.

From the sounds of what is being said the only reason the trip is affordable is because they are not paying any bills

Well, what a blessing it that this came down before your trip. Now you can cancel your trip, get your money back and plan for the future, whether it be buying the home or having some money to get you going somewhere else. I hope things work out for you. I know it must be hard having to leave a home you're happy in.

Sound advice! Down payments, or security deposits can be very expensive!

 

[N.Bailey]

That is what I was wondering, if the op and the df could start some kind of payment plan, and eventually purchase the house from them? It sounds like they really love the house and location, etc., so if it were me and I liked it that much, I think that's the direction I would try to go. I would talk to the df's parents and see if something like this could be worked out.

Good luck to you, OP!! And try to enjoy your upcoming trip to WDW.

I could be wrong, but I think the problem lies in the fact that they don't know where they will be living. They are just finishing up with their schooling and they may likely find themselves moving out of state.

IMO, the future FIL is preparing for that exact thing.

 

[Polyluvr]

Well, what a blessing it that this came down before your trip. Now you can cancel your trip, get your money back and plan for the future, whether it be buying the home or having some money to get you going somewhere else. I hope things work out for you. I know it must be hard having to leave a home you're happy in.

Amen!!

 

[Katieinwonderland]

Gosh, people can be so mean! The OP was just venting! It makes some of the PPs sound so bitter when they say things like "I just paid my mortgage this morning so I have no sympathy"!!! I just paid my mortgage too but I don't get mad at people venting about living arrangments!!!

I agree that it would be perfect for you and your fiance to buy the house from his father. That would mean you wouldn't have to worry about moving...and even if you have no real downpayment, maybe you could work something out with him?

 

[AmazingGrace]

Gosh, people can be so mean! The OP was just venting! It makes some of the PPs sound so bitter when they say things like "I just paid my mortgage this morning so I have no sympathy"!!! I just paid my mortgage too but I don't get mad at people venting about living arrangments!!!

I agree that it would be perfect for you and your fiance to buy the house from his father. That would mean you wouldn't have to worry about moving...and even if you have no real downpayment, maybe you could work something out with him?

And it would work out for FIL too, in the respect that he wouldn't have to pay to list the house, or deal with Real estate agent fees or anything like that.

 

[luvsJack]

I find it utterly ridiculous that no one can vent an aggravation on this board without everyone shouting "cancel the trip!"

Good heavens.

She and her finance just finished school. Exactly how much do any of you think they would have been able to save during that time? I am sure she is appreciative, its not like she was saying "my horrible fil is taking my home" or something.

OP, enjoy the trip that I am sure you both worked very hard for and relax after all this time in school. When you get back you can take first things first.

 

[Magic Mom]

I don't think the OP sounds ungrateful, but you would think that after three years of living off of someone else's dime they would have made a plan for independence and put money aside. They sound like smart people, they had to know this was coming.

 

[aduck126]

welcome to the real world.... sucks doesn't it

 

[DisneyKT]

A lot of jealous people on here tonight. So his parent helped him out. Big deal I am sure you would do it for your children also if you could.

OP, enjoy the trip. When you come back sit down and plan for future. The house probably won't sell right away in this market. You can save for first last rent. Good Luck

 

[drag n' fly]

Hindsight is always 20/20. My husband has a sign up in his office that pretty well sums it up . "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine".

Have a magical trip and here's hoping you come up with a workable plan for when you arrive home

 

[chisnpeke]

I find it utterly ridiculous that no one can vent an aggravation on this board without everyone shouting "cancel the trip!"

Good heavens.

She and her finance just finished school. Exactly how much do any of you think they would have been able to save during that time? I am sure she is appreciative, its not like she was saying "my horrible fil is taking my home" or something.

OP, enjoy the trip that I am sure you both worked very hard for and relax after all this time in school. When you get back you can take first things first.

I agree.

If the trip to WDW cost $3,000. That's only $3,000 and in the "real world" as you all say, $3,000 does not go very far. It doesn't sound like this couple is in dire straits, and if they were I would say going to WDW is a bad idea. But they aren't.

No need for nastiness.

 

[SandrA9810]

Any change in living arragements are frustrating. Going through it right now myself. And I'm moving back in with family (not because I particularly want to, but I don't have much of a choice.

I don't think the OP is completely worried about this trip (and don't you loose your 200$ deposit if you cancel within 45 days?). It's more of here we are rewarding ourselves when there's so many other concerns at hand.

I've taken trips (not exactly vacations), but I know when I got back home, I'd be under a lot of pressure to take care of things. And even if I don't leave, I still feel things are out of control.

OP, I hope the market is slow enough that you'll be able to find work before having to move out. And maybe if you do find work where you are now, you can buy the house. Although I understand, while sometimes a particular place is great and nice now, it's not where you want to be a few years down the road. So it's about, do you stay put or just say to heck with it all and roll the dice?