FREAP CHAT Part 2 ~ Everyone Welcome to our new digs

[It's A Happy Day]

Tinkerbean, hmmm... Sounds like this is the summer that the kids should learn how to use a hoe and work a lawn mower! Just remember...FEET UP...ICED TEA WITH LEMON....FEET UP....ICED TEA WITH LEMON!

Um, do we really want to teach the children what to do with a ho

 

[It's A Happy Day]

Thanks guys

The teacher is a newly graduated teacher - last year was her 1st year and she had & loved Michael. I warned her (warn is a strong word) before school started that both of my kids are VERY different.

I guess what bothers me about the comment - and I'm trying to take it as constructive criticism to help her and it's from a new teacher - is the low self esteem. The lack of confidence I kind of understand. There are some signals that I get from her that I do see this. If I ask her to spell something, add something, other school work she will say she can't do it or I forget or some excuse. I have never gotten a note home from the teacher saying that she's having difficulties at school and her grades reflect that she is advancing fine and where she should be. I just don't picture her as having low self esteem. I guess I just picture a sad suzy sitting on the sidelines with no friends and thinking she's fat, ugly, worthless - maybe things festered in my own upbringing. I can take the "negative comment" about my child - nobody is perfect and everyone has their own issues, hell, sometimes I think I can be over sensitive to things and start to think is this (whatever the thing is) a problem, should I have the dr. check it, should I have him/her evaluated for speech, hearing, etc. I try to hang back and not be a helicopter parent and let them blossom with gentle sideline help vs. being the over-interferring parent telling them how to do things. The other thing that bothers me is I wish that the teacher wrote me a 2nd note instead of writing it on her kindergarten report card. I don't want her looking back over the next few years and reading or interpreting it negatively. I know it gives us a chance to keep an eye on things and I appreciate that but I just wish it was on a 2nd sheet of paper, if ya KWIM.

DH & I have talked about it and he doesn't think that Tori has a low self esteem either but we will keep an eye on things and really watch not necessarily the what but the how we say things to her when disciplining comes about. I don't want it to come across as she is less of a person because she couldn't accomplish something or do something right, etc. I know that I have some issues and baggage of my own and I think that is interferring with how I interpret what was written. I read low self esteem and see in my minds eye that she will be 13 with an eating disorder because she thinks we don't value her as she is.

 

[It's A Happy Day]

W_L_D - trust me when I say this, and I say it from experience. Budgeting takes a lot of commitment and it is very stressful when you are getting buried by what seems like yet another bump in the road BUT it does and can be turned around! Keep your head down, make a plan, and stick to it. We are now hitting the end of the bend in the road and things are just now starting to look positive - debt almost entirely paid off, a little cushion in the bank for emergencies, and we are still standing! Remember now especially that family and friends and health are more important than money. It will come together for you! And we are hear to listen and help in any way we can.

Kellie - how are you feeling now with the treatments over? I know it's only been a couple days but hopefully your burns will start to heal soon as well!

Madd - your niece is absolutely adorable and I can only imagine the yell that comes with that karate stance! She looks like a little spitfire.

To everyone else and

 

[TinkerBean]

To everyone else and

I LOVE that smack in the head smilie - so little to amuse me

. Oh god, it's almost ten and I am still wired...Time for BED

See y'all in the morning, bonsoir mes amis

 

[mtblujeans]

Um, do we really want to teach the children what to do with a ho

You're right! Whatever was I thinking!??

 

[maddhatir]

Um, do we really want to teach the children what to do with a ho

That's enough from YOU missy!

 

[pperfectmom]

Um, do we really want to teach the children what to do with a ho

DH gets a huge kick out of it when I say "I'm going out ho'ing!"

 

[hadleysun]

Man I love you guys!

I haven't been around alot lately because I've had company, and kids out of school and you know the drill, but I drop in for a couple of minutes as often as I can pry the keyboard out of one of my cheaps grimy hands, and you guys never cease to put a great smile on my face! I am so on board with everything that everyone has been saying lately that all I can say is DITTO

The sad thing is that there is an underlying thread in the last couple of days...almost everyone has stated that they have experienced low self-esteem, lack in confidence, etc.... It's something that we, as women, have so much in common...despite our location, age, or what fabulous family and friends we have now...it still rears its ugly ugly head! I know it bothers me constantly and unfortunately I can see it in my teenage girl and her friends as well...I don't have any answers, just sadness!

OK, BACK TO THE GOOD VIBES! THAT'S WHERE I'D RATHER BE!

 

[pperfectmom]

Man I love you guys!

I haven't been around alot lately because I've had company, and kids out of school and you know the drill, but I drop in for a couple of minutes as often as I can pry the keyboard out of one of my cheaps grimy hands, and you guys never cease to put a great smile on my face! I am so on board with everything that everyone has been saying lately that all I can say is DITTO

The sad thing is that there is an underlying thread in the last couple of days...almost everyone has stated that they have experienced low self-esteem, lack in confidence, etc.... It's something that we, as women, have so much in common...despite our location, age, or what fabulous family and friends we have now...it still rears its ugly ugly head! I know it bothers me constantly and unfortunately I can see it in my teenage girl and her friends as well...I don't have any answers, just sadness!

OK, BACK TO THE GOOD VIBES! THAT'S WHERE I'D RATHER BE!

Somebody is always here when you need a pal! And I know what you mean about the self-esteem issues teenagers(especially girls) have. I'm reading the book "Nineteen Minutes" by Jodi Picoult right now and it is a great book but so depressing. It's about a fictional school shooting and delves into the psyche of teenagers and the effect bullying has on kids. It's not a book I would have picked on my own but I have to read it for my book club and I am glad it was picked even though it is painful to read.

 

[mtblujeans]

Ooooh...it's been a looong day!

I went to the dds yesterday and, with holding my mouth open for 2 hours and my neck being wrenched in a funny position all that time, I had a headache all day today. Grrr...

I had to go into town to meet up with DH and go to a zoning meeting this evening...they always get me !!

DH, in his infinite wisdom and compassion, tells me my hair looks "really good today....from the back"! Then he laughs 'cause HE thinks he's such a funny guy!! Talk about 'self-esteem issues'...the guys that live at my house make me defensive and adversarial!! And THEN we went to the $%^& zoning meeting!!

Oh yeah, it has been a great day for everyone! Those poor guys down at the Planning Office don't know how DH gets me rolling before those stupid meetings!

Tomorrow night should be better: One of our neighbors just became a US citizen and we are throwing him a surprise party tomorrow evening. The champagne should be flowing and the cake will be flying!

 

[It's A Happy Day]

Ooooh...it's been a looong day!

I went to the dds yesterday and, with holding my mouth open for 2 hours and my neck being wrenched in a funny position all that time, I had a headache all day today. Grrr...

I had to go into town to meet up with DH and go to a zoning meeting this evening...they always get me !!

DH, in his infinite wisdom and compassion, tells me my hair looks "really good today....from the back"! Then he laughs 'cause HE thinks he's such a funny guy!! Talk about 'self-esteem issues'...the guys that live at my house make me defensive and adversarial!! And THEN we went to the $%^& zoning meeting!!

Oh yeah, it has been a great day for everyone! Those poor guys down at the Planning Office don't know how DH gets me rolling before those stupid meetings!

Tomorrow night should be better: One of our neighbors just became a US citizen and we are throwing him a surprise party tomorrow evening. The champagne should be flowing and the cake will be flying!

How late have you been up?

You posted at 1AM!!!! here on the east coast so I'm hoping that there's a time difference

 

[mmkk]

Good morning freaps and meaps!! I just got back in town last night from a quick trip to Alabama (so tired

!)

It sounds like its been somewhat of a rough week here! IAHD, I have always had issues with self-confidence, not as much self esteem. I think part of it comes from our society. But I manage it-I'm aware of it and I try to catch myself before it gets too bad. I also had issues with depression after my dd was born, which I think came partially from my lack of self-confidence. But again, I recognized it and did something about it. Just keep reassuring her and stay as positive yourself as you can!

I also notice I start feeling depressed when I think about the economy and I see all these new homeless people on our streets, that I haven't seen before and I can tell that they haven't been homeless long. Its so sad to see what is happening to people. I have to say a quick prayer whenever I see them.

Okay, on to more happier things! Lets all have some chocolate today!

Madd-your niece is adorable!!! And its terrific that she already seems to have a passion for something!

 

[Tinker_]

Good morning old freaps and new! I am baaack And wanted to start by showing you how huge my kid got! lol... look how big compared to my siggy! Any of you guys going to be in WDW from Sept 3-12??

 

[Tinker_]

OK.. a few more!!

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Oh, he is just so stinkin' cute!!

 

[NATALIEBELLESmom]

Tinker he has really grown. SOOOOOOOO Cute. We have missed you around here. Welcome back HOME

 

[It's A Happy Day]

What an absolute cutie!!!!! I LOVE the big boy jeans...somehow on little tikes jeans look so freakin adorable He is a little man now instead of a having that baby look. It happens too quickly

 

[mtblujeans]

I am not sure how late I was up....maybe midnight. I couldn't sleep so I balanced my checkbook. How stupid is that!??

Gosh, Tink, that boy is HUGE! He looks so much like you...I agree with everyone else, of course, he is a cutie! I like your matching shirts, too. Hope you guys have been having a good summer your way.

 

[mtblujeans]

Tinkerbean, I found a new family member you can add to your siggy:

I saw him in the siggy of ColoradoMom!! and she was willing to share him with you! Isn't he cute!??

 

[Tinker_]

Things are going great considering the divorce and everything! Can you believe he is two and a half!?!?!?! Craziness, it does fly fast! Thanks for the warm wishes everyone I am glad to be HOME to! hehe-- yes I love dressing him like a "little man" the Wes LOVES the ladies!