This is insensitive and unhelpful.
You read insensitive, unhelpful, and not empathetic, and I read "this person actually wants the OP to have a good time, and given the statements the OP made, going on this trip isn't going to be a good time so here are other ideas".
You don't NEED a fastpass, but it is acceptable to expect one when you spend a ton of money for a trip. This is a Disney problem; they cannot deliver enough high quality experiences to meet the needs of their customers.
The ONLY solution is to get more A&Es then. And Disney has proven themselves to be allergic to have more than two-ish sets of a character around, it seems. So there's no other solution. They can't create more time in a day.
Here is another example of why this is a legitimate thread, and why "just don't go...cancel" doesn't make sense:
The OP said "Our whole trip is about one thing...meeting Elsa."
Where else can people go with replies? Where? If this trip is about that ONE thing, and the OP feels it'll be 6 hours, other than telling her that it's not 6 hours anymore, there's nothing else to say that's helpful for their time at WDW. And even if it were going to be 6 hours, if that's literally the reason for the trip? You wait the 6 hours.
my grandmother who raised me- is sick and there are bills I must pay
In case the bills are medical, have you guys looked into whether they have to be paid, if they can be questioned, if they are bonafide, if YOU have to pay them, etc? With all the help that we've given MIL since she had her first stroke, we haven't paid a single medical bill for her, because it's not our responsibility. We did get her on a better supplemental insurance once she had been unhospitalized for enough time, but she pays that. She loves to make QVC orders then return them, and while we have called and been very stern with people when she's getting the runaround about returns, we haven't paid for any of them. We help her with her mail, we make phone calls for her, etc etc, but NO money.
we also had to come up with a lump sum of money to help family
That's not fun. We loaned FIL some money once. Took "telling on him" to MIL to get our money back; we made something like 40K, he made 150K a year...WHY was he borrowing money "for property taxes"? NEVER again, I tell you. Never.
instead of suggesting the OP cancel her trip and hire someone to play Elsa in her hometown, why don't we offer advice on how to still make the OP's trip enjoyable?
Because she said it was the only reason. If it had truly been that one reason, there's nothing else to help her with.
Haha.... totally ignoring the part where I said about people told the OP to stay home and get a someone to come dressed as Elsa... gotcha. No opinion on that, but we can jump me about my RD posts...
But YOU are the one who indicated that the person you are responding to said to run and go around the CMs. That is why the person is asking where you got that idea. She didn't bring up the other posts, YOU did. You haven't answered what was asked of you; why did you think that's what was being suggested?
Is it going to ruin my trip if I can't get the FPs that I want at 60 days? No, but I will be bummed out and not thrilled about entertaining two kids in a long line.
And it's ok to express that
Sure. But if you are expressing that it will ruin the trip because it's the sole reason for it? Then what?
I wonder if they like the frenzy over A&E.
Of course they do. Get people to stay out of the other lines to meet some minimum wage CMs? Of course they like that, rather than us creating wear and tear on a million dollar ride and rubbing the paint off the queue walls...
The reason we stayed on site is because we had heard if you stay on site you get fast passes of your choice.
Oh gracious where did you hear THAT?
And what you said was that you were staying at AKL to get the FP+s, not that you were staying onsite. The cheapest room at POP gets the same chances as your room at AKL and at the highest normally available room onsite (excluding things not obtainable by mere, non-celebrity, mortals). And it's all chances.
We have 7 days in the hotel, but we may show up late in order to save costs
Oh please don't come late; they could very well get rid of your room and reservation. Please oh please. If anything leave early, but don't purposely get there late. You said you would spend 5 of the 7 days there. 2 days into your reservation it could very well be gone.
I'm hoping that you are looking for the FP+s for every day of your trip? That way if you get them, then you can just switch the MK day to that day. And then apart from the party, the rest of the trip can be focused on the pool and wandering and going to visit other resorts to look around, etc. Do NOT let your family come join you unless they are going to pay to get you into a park.
Ignore the local family. Show the 4 year old the pictures of the pools (I think you get access to Jambo and Kidani pools?) and the stuff you can do there and have a *vacation*.
I read somewhere that night vision goggle tours were expensive. I think it was like $75-$125 if I remember correctly. Maybe this is something different?
It's something different and free. It's just a nighttime, outdoors-common-area thing (I think it's at Jambo, not Kidani, but it might be at both?). We haven't had the best time at AKL, not Jambo or Kidani, and we didn't have a good time with the nighttime vision goggles activity, but it was freezing so maybe the animals were just hiding. Oh and it was freezing. Your trip won't be freezing.
