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That looks Yumo!
Thanks for the words of encorragement. To be honest you and Lovemygirls need lots more hugs
for what you are going through. I have been blessed to be holding on even if its by a thread some days.Hope you guys dont mind if a take a few minutes to get some frustration out
My biggest problem is managing my expectations. My fibro pain is down and I've been sleeping for a few months now so I wake up feeling like if I can get over the morning hump then I will blaze through the day by sheer force of will. I have enough tricks in my bag that the cycle I'm in now I should be able to get my life ready for the next big wave. You know get my house completely up to speed maybe even read a magazine on a nice day like today. The problem is one that all moms face at some time the tween monsters
Both my son and oldest daughter are going through the normal tween moods, deaftness , procrastination to the extream and flat out disobediece at times and they save this all for me
: It really is like going through the terrble twos all over agin without the playpen or gate to put them behind and let them scream. (if anyone has a tween playpen let me know I"ll pay top dollar for it 
) It is much easier when they are cute and that word MOM! is new
As anyone with tweens knows they love to take advantage so when they start up I have to make sure I finish on top or next time will be worse
My ds decided yesterday would be a great day to take his turn because they seem to wait till their siblings are quiet then they pounce
It took him over six hours to clean a room that should have taken 30 min -hour tops to clean
So on a day where I should have slept late DD6 woke me up early because she just wanted time with me ok few energy dollars lost but worth it 
then DS has his tantrum and my 15 dollar day turned into a three dollar day. DD6 and I didnt even get the thanksgiving decorations up which would have been so fun for us, I just didnt have any energy left and now every musle in my body is twitching As a mom my first priority has to be to teach them responsibility, team work and that mom is not their maid. On the other had it would have been much easier to just do it myself. Now I have the added sadness of taking away his Boy Scout thanksgiving badge cermony...i tried everthing else to get through to him he finally moved when that was taken away
I really need a maid to get back on my feet and to keep me there from time to time grrrrr.
On an up side I was looking at my grocery recipt and found I have saved just under $4000 this year in fuel perks (free gas) food perks( $ off food for buying gas), sales and coupons at my grocery store
Add to that the $3000 I saved at Disney and anoher $3000 I saved on our 75% off leather sectional and Jcpenny (just this week I got my DD6 christmas dress for $15 down from 50!) and it has been about $10,000 saved this year 
My DD11 rolled her eyes when I was talking about it so I did some figuring and at the grocery store alone I would have to work nearly 4 months to make that much money. case managers with a BA and experience are still making $8-12 so when you factor in taxes, travel, clothes and eating out a bit more I save with smart shopping what it would take 6 months full time and nearly a year part time to earn. DH said i keep telling you that your "working"
I know that if I was an able bodied working mom I would be just a frustrated to come home to a mess in everyroom when I have clearly to them "nothing on the floor!" the constant bikering and MO***M!!! I have threatend to change my name
I just really hate how much it impacts my fibro and how the fibro makes it nearly impossible to wether these teen storms without me paying a big price.OK gripe over..I know I'm blessed to be walking about most days and SLEEPING AGIAN
Just needed to get this out of my system someplace where I know people will understand that I'm not being ungrateful just tired and anxious to have a normal life!tiggspring
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Here r some of my recipes I promised
Make ahead gravy
COLOR="Black"][/COLOR] can be made a month in advance!
Make-Ahead Basic Turkey GravyFrom Woman's Day | May 8, 2007
Active Time: 10 minutesTotal Time: 3 hours Recipe Ingredients
4 turkey wings (about 3 to 4 lb)
2 medium onions, cut up
1 cup water
8 cups chicken broth
1 chopped carrot
1/2 tsp dried thyme
3/4 cup all-purpose flour
2 Tbsp butter
1/2 tsp freshly ground pepper
Recipe Preparation
1. Heat oven to 400°F. Youll need a large roasting pan, a 5- to 6-qt pot and a 3-qt saucepan.2. Put wings in a single layer in pan; scatter onions on top. Roast 1 1/4 hours or until wings are browned.3. Put wings and onions in pot. Add water to roasting pan; stir to scrape up any brown bits on bottom. Add to pot. Add 6 cups broth (refrigerate remaining 2 cups), the carrots and thyme. Simmer, uncovered, 1 1/2 hours.4. Remove wings. When cool, pull off skin and meat. Discard skin; save meat for another use.5. Strain broth into saucepan; skim fat off broth.6. Whisk flour into remaining 2 cups broth until well blended and smooth.7. Bring broth in saucepan to a gentle boil. Whisk in flour mixture; boil 5 minutes to thicken gravy. Stir in butter and pepper.Plan ahead: Freeze up to 1 month. When thawed, purée in blender, then reheat. You can add fat-skimmed drippings from a freshly roasted turkey or chicken.
Fire and spice ham I make in crock for Christmas eve
Fire and Spice Ham
Recipe By :Cooking Light Magazine. December 2002. Page: 108.
Serving Size : 18 Preparation Time :0:00
Categories : Meats
Amount Measure Ingredient -- Preparation Method
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1 33%-less-sodium smoked, fully cooked ham
half (5-1/2-to 6-pound)
Cooking spray
1/2 cup red pepper jelly
1/2 cup pineapple preserves
1/4 cup packed brown sugar
1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
Directions.
Sweet-hot pepper jelly and tangy pineapple preserves create an easy glaze for the ham.
1. Preheat oven to 425 degrees.
2. Trim fat and rind from ham half. Score outside of ham in a diamond pattern. Place ham on a broiler pan coated with cooking spray. Combine jelly and remaining ingredients, stirring with a whisk until well blended. Brush about one-third of jelly mixture over ham.
3. Bake at 425 degrees for 5 minutes. Reduce oven temperature to 325 degrees (do not remove ham from oven); bake an additional 45 minutes, basting ham with jelly mixture every 15 minutes. Transfer ham to a serving platter; let stand 15 minutes before slicing. Yield: 18 servings (serving size: about 3 ounces
Make ahead gravy
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Make-Ahead Basic Turkey GravyFrom Woman's Day | May 8, 2007
Active Time: 10 minutesTotal Time: 3 hours Recipe Ingredients
4 turkey wings (about 3 to 4 lb)
2 medium onions, cut up
1 cup water
8 cups chicken broth
1 chopped carrot
1/2 tsp dried thyme
3/4 cup all-purpose flour
2 Tbsp butter
1/2 tsp freshly ground pepper
Recipe Preparation
1. Heat oven to 400°F. Youll need a large roasting pan, a 5- to 6-qt pot and a 3-qt saucepan.2. Put wings in a single layer in pan; scatter onions on top. Roast 1 1/4 hours or until wings are browned.3. Put wings and onions in pot. Add water to roasting pan; stir to scrape up any brown bits on bottom. Add to pot. Add 6 cups broth (refrigerate remaining 2 cups), the carrots and thyme. Simmer, uncovered, 1 1/2 hours.4. Remove wings. When cool, pull off skin and meat. Discard skin; save meat for another use.5. Strain broth into saucepan; skim fat off broth.6. Whisk flour into remaining 2 cups broth until well blended and smooth.7. Bring broth in saucepan to a gentle boil. Whisk in flour mixture; boil 5 minutes to thicken gravy. Stir in butter and pepper.Plan ahead: Freeze up to 1 month. When thawed, purée in blender, then reheat. You can add fat-skimmed drippings from a freshly roasted turkey or chicken.
Fire and spice ham I make in crock for Christmas eve
Fire and Spice Ham
Recipe By :Cooking Light Magazine. December 2002. Page: 108.
Serving Size : 18 Preparation Time :0:00
Categories : Meats
Amount Measure Ingredient -- Preparation Method
-------- ------------ --------------------------------
1 33%-less-sodium smoked, fully cooked ham
half (5-1/2-to 6-pound)
Cooking spray
1/2 cup red pepper jelly
1/2 cup pineapple preserves
1/4 cup packed brown sugar
1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
Directions.
Sweet-hot pepper jelly and tangy pineapple preserves create an easy glaze for the ham.
1. Preheat oven to 425 degrees.
2. Trim fat and rind from ham half. Score outside of ham in a diamond pattern. Place ham on a broiler pan coated with cooking spray. Combine jelly and remaining ingredients, stirring with a whisk until well blended. Brush about one-third of jelly mixture over ham.
3. Bake at 425 degrees for 5 minutes. Reduce oven temperature to 325 degrees (do not remove ham from oven); bake an additional 45 minutes, basting ham with jelly mixture every 15 minutes. Transfer ham to a serving platter; let stand 15 minutes before slicing. Yield: 18 servings (serving size: about 3 ounces
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Pumpking bread pudding with bourbon sauce for christmas day
( you can make sauce day or two before )
Pumpkin Bread Pudding with Bourbon Caramel Sauce and Whipped Cream
When Emmy made this, I just about swooned. She actually had to grab the spoon away from me. We're talking seriously amazingly dessert here ... a dessert lover's dream come true. As far as I'm concerned, you can just forget about the rest of the meal. Bring on the Pumpkin Bread Pudding and don't hold back on the Bourbon Caramel Sauce.
Cooking time: 31/2 hours for the pudding, 15 to 20 minutes for the sauce
Slow cooker size: 4 quart
Bread Pudding
1 pound loaf of challah or firm textured French bread, cut into 11/2-inch cubes, about 41/2 cups
11/2 tablespoons unsalted butter, softened
11/2 cups heavy cream
11/2 cups whole milk
1 cup canned unseasoned pumpkin puree
11/2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
1/4 heaping teaspoon nutmeg
1/8 teaspoon ground allspice
2 extra large eggs
2 extra large egg yolks
1/3 cup packed light brown sugar
11/2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
1/4 teaspoon salt
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees with a rack in the center position. Place the bread cubes on a rimmed baking pan and bake for 10 to 15 minutes to dry them out. Use 1/2 tablespoon of the butter to coat the inside of the insert of the slow cooker. Press the bread cubes into the bottom; they should fit snugly and the bottom should be thoroughly covered. Turn the cooker to High and let it heat, uncovered, while you prepare the pudding.
In a medium saucepan, heat the cream and milk until the mixture is very hot and starts to bubble, but do not let it boil. Remove from the heat. Place the pumpkin puree, cinnamon, nutmeg, allspice, eggs and egg yolks, brown sugar, vanilla and salt in a large mixing bowl. Whisk them together well and then slowly pour in the hot cream mixture, whisking constantly.
Turn the slow cooker down to Low. Carefully pour the pumpkin and cream mixture over the bread and push the bread pieces down beneath the mixture to moisten them. They will pop up again but that's OK. Dot the top with the remaining 1 tablespoon of softened butter.
Cover and cook for 31/2 hours on Low, or until an instant-read thermometer inserted in the center registers 190 degrees and a small knife inserted in the center comes out clean. Turn the slow cooker off and let the pudding rest, covered, for 30 minutes.
Bourbon Caramel Sauce and Whipped Cream
2 cups granulated sugar
1 cup water
1 tablespoon strained lemon juice
4 tablespoons unsalted butter, at room temperature, cut into 4 pieces
21/2 cups heavy cream (1/2 cup is for the caramel sauce, the other 2 cups for whipped cream)
1/2 cup bourbon
1 tablespoon pure vanilla extract
While the pudding is cooking, make the sauce. Have all the ingredients ready before you begin.
Place the sugar, water and lemon juice in a large heavy saucepan. It must have at least a 2-quart capacity because the mixture will bubble vigorously when the cream and butter are added later, and you don't want to get burned.
Bring the mixture to a boil over medium-high heat; stir only until the sugar is dissolved and the syrup is clear. Continue to boil, without stirring, until the mixture starts to turn an amber color, which may take 15 to 20 minutes. Be careful, it can burn very easily; if your eyes begin to sting it means it is starting to burn.
When the mixture has darkened to a rich caramel color, remove it from the heat and immediately stir in the butter, bit by bit, then 1/2 cup of the heavy cream, and finally the bourbon and vanilla. Cool to room temperature.
While the sauce is cooling, beat the remaining 2 cups of cream with a whisk or electric mixer until it forms soft peaks.
To serve, scoop the pudding into individual bowls, drizzle on some caramel sauce (be generous), then top with a dollop of whipped cream.
Makes 6 to 8 servings.
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EASY FUDGE
oh and for gifts this is the ultimate easy fudge recipe. I can make it in minutes. Its soo good my DH wont give out the recipe and he has had a coworker buy it from me two years now. has nice choclate layer on top that hides and imperfections..I use plastic wrap to smooth mixture quickly as it cools.
JELL-O® Chocolate Pudding Fudge
prep time 15 min total time 2 hr 15 min
makes 24 servings, 2 squares each
what you need1 pkg. (8 squares) BAKER'S Semi-Sweet Chocolate, divided
1/2 cup (1 stick) butter or margarine, divided
1/3 cup water
1 pkg. (4-serving size) JELL-O Chocolate Instant Pudding
3 cups powdered sugar
Make It
MICROWAVE 4 of the chocolate squares, 6 Tbsp. of the butter and water in large microwavable bowl on HIGH 2 minutes or until butter is melted; stir. Add dry pudding mix; stir until well blended.
ADD powdered sugar, 1 cup at a time, stirring until well blended after each addition. Press into foil-lined 8-inch square pan.
MICROWAVE remaining 4 chocolate squares and 2 Tbsp. butter in large microwavable bowl on HIGH 1-1/2 minutes or until butter is melted. Stir until chocolate is completely melted. Spread over pudding mixture. Refrigerate 2 hours or until firm. Cut into 48 (1-inch) squares.
Kraft Kitchens TipsStorage Know-How
Store cut-up fudge between sheets of wax paper in airtight container in refrigerator up to 2 weeks
( you can make sauce day or two before )
Pumpkin Bread Pudding with Bourbon Caramel Sauce and Whipped Cream
When Emmy made this, I just about swooned. She actually had to grab the spoon away from me. We're talking seriously amazingly dessert here ... a dessert lover's dream come true. As far as I'm concerned, you can just forget about the rest of the meal. Bring on the Pumpkin Bread Pudding and don't hold back on the Bourbon Caramel Sauce.
Cooking time: 31/2 hours for the pudding, 15 to 20 minutes for the sauce
Slow cooker size: 4 quart
Bread Pudding
1 pound loaf of challah or firm textured French bread, cut into 11/2-inch cubes, about 41/2 cups
11/2 tablespoons unsalted butter, softened
11/2 cups heavy cream
11/2 cups whole milk
1 cup canned unseasoned pumpkin puree
11/2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
1/4 heaping teaspoon nutmeg
1/8 teaspoon ground allspice
2 extra large eggs
2 extra large egg yolks
1/3 cup packed light brown sugar
11/2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
1/4 teaspoon salt
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees with a rack in the center position. Place the bread cubes on a rimmed baking pan and bake for 10 to 15 minutes to dry them out. Use 1/2 tablespoon of the butter to coat the inside of the insert of the slow cooker. Press the bread cubes into the bottom; they should fit snugly and the bottom should be thoroughly covered. Turn the cooker to High and let it heat, uncovered, while you prepare the pudding.
In a medium saucepan, heat the cream and milk until the mixture is very hot and starts to bubble, but do not let it boil. Remove from the heat. Place the pumpkin puree, cinnamon, nutmeg, allspice, eggs and egg yolks, brown sugar, vanilla and salt in a large mixing bowl. Whisk them together well and then slowly pour in the hot cream mixture, whisking constantly.
Turn the slow cooker down to Low. Carefully pour the pumpkin and cream mixture over the bread and push the bread pieces down beneath the mixture to moisten them. They will pop up again but that's OK. Dot the top with the remaining 1 tablespoon of softened butter.
Cover and cook for 31/2 hours on Low, or until an instant-read thermometer inserted in the center registers 190 degrees and a small knife inserted in the center comes out clean. Turn the slow cooker off and let the pudding rest, covered, for 30 minutes.
Bourbon Caramel Sauce and Whipped Cream
2 cups granulated sugar
1 cup water
1 tablespoon strained lemon juice
4 tablespoons unsalted butter, at room temperature, cut into 4 pieces
21/2 cups heavy cream (1/2 cup is for the caramel sauce, the other 2 cups for whipped cream)
1/2 cup bourbon
1 tablespoon pure vanilla extract
While the pudding is cooking, make the sauce. Have all the ingredients ready before you begin.
Place the sugar, water and lemon juice in a large heavy saucepan. It must have at least a 2-quart capacity because the mixture will bubble vigorously when the cream and butter are added later, and you don't want to get burned.
Bring the mixture to a boil over medium-high heat; stir only until the sugar is dissolved and the syrup is clear. Continue to boil, without stirring, until the mixture starts to turn an amber color, which may take 15 to 20 minutes. Be careful, it can burn very easily; if your eyes begin to sting it means it is starting to burn.
When the mixture has darkened to a rich caramel color, remove it from the heat and immediately stir in the butter, bit by bit, then 1/2 cup of the heavy cream, and finally the bourbon and vanilla. Cool to room temperature.
While the sauce is cooling, beat the remaining 2 cups of cream with a whisk or electric mixer until it forms soft peaks.
To serve, scoop the pudding into individual bowls, drizzle on some caramel sauce (be generous), then top with a dollop of whipped cream.
Makes 6 to 8 servings.
Lora Brody in "Slow Cooker Cooking"
EASY FUDGE
oh and for gifts this is the ultimate easy fudge recipe. I can make it in minutes. Its soo good my DH wont give out the recipe and he has had a coworker buy it from me two years now. has nice choclate layer on top that hides and imperfections..I use plastic wrap to smooth mixture quickly as it cools.
JELL-O® Chocolate Pudding Fudge
prep time 15 min total time 2 hr 15 min
makes 24 servings, 2 squares each
what you need1 pkg. (8 squares) BAKER'S Semi-Sweet Chocolate, divided
1/2 cup (1 stick) butter or margarine, divided
1/3 cup water
1 pkg. (4-serving size) JELL-O Chocolate Instant Pudding
3 cups powdered sugar
Make It
MICROWAVE 4 of the chocolate squares, 6 Tbsp. of the butter and water in large microwavable bowl on HIGH 2 minutes or until butter is melted; stir. Add dry pudding mix; stir until well blended.
ADD powdered sugar, 1 cup at a time, stirring until well blended after each addition. Press into foil-lined 8-inch square pan.
MICROWAVE remaining 4 chocolate squares and 2 Tbsp. butter in large microwavable bowl on HIGH 1-1/2 minutes or until butter is melted. Stir until chocolate is completely melted. Spread over pudding mixture. Refrigerate 2 hours or until firm. Cut into 48 (1-inch) squares.
Kraft Kitchens TipsStorage Know-How
Store cut-up fudge between sheets of wax paper in airtight container in refrigerator up to 2 weeks
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Hi All!
Welcome Newbies!
Tink, I hope your DS gets better soon. Glad you got an appointment at the Dr. for him. Keep us posted
Bright - YAY YOU GOT THE JOB!!!!!!! Congrats, I am so happy for you!
So I had this brilliant idea that I should do some volunteer work since I no longer have kids stuff to do since they are 22 and 17. I started training this week to become a certified Tax Aide person and do taxes for the elderly at the senior center. Little did I know that training starts at 9AM 2x per week and after week one I am exhausted. 9AM is a huge stretch for me and I "forgot" what it is like to have to jump out of bed and be somewhere. UGH! But I will do this. Pehaps I will be able to sleep earlier.....
Sending pain free vibes for everyone!
Eduke glad you are doing something you will enjoy.
I eas telling hubby that once kids gone and he is full time Proff I want to go into the city with hime once a week and volenteer for an hour or two at the Childrens hopital. Of course that will be 12 yrs from now How have you been feeling. you have been so supportive lately that I think we forget to ask.
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Thanks for the suggestion. This may work for my youngest someday. I'm not sure how old your kids were when you tried this but I'm not sure it would work with her now at 6 years old. Then again she is no problem. Her temperment is middle of the road unlike her polar opposite brother and sister. The fighting is really between and about the two oldest more than chores. DD11 is very bossy and once DS turned 3 and was a big brother he decided to do things his own way and the fights have been on going ever since. She thinks he should do everything her way and he says no. Then I have a headache
We did something similer out of desperation three years ago when oldest DD was 9 and DS was 6. I had basicly spent all summer in bed that year after two months with familiy memebers alternating with the flu and strep (DS got scarlet fever from strep). Then my heart condition started and my liver started to act up and DH had 4 surgeries on his eyes so it was a very bad year. 24hrs a day with three kids all summer had really taken its toll.
Anyway we told the kids if they could just not fight with each other and throw things away as they went along I would take care of their chores and their rooms (they didnt have many at this point). My DH was going to be away for a few days so I was on my own. Well my oldest DD took this to mean she could do whatever she wanted and co-oped her brother.That week they played however they wanted leaving everthing on every floor in the house. Of course I was bearly moving and kept my littlest with me in my bedroom(her BR is connected to mine and our master bath) so when I would go around the house to check on kids I would get BIG SURPRISES that I could not deal with. When I talked to DD she replied that was now " MY Job " and she didnt have to do it I did what I could but being so sick and DD3 needing my full attention it was difficult to take back what I said and clean up. Needless to say by the time DH came home to pull rank on DD everyroom in the house was trashed. My house hadnt been clean in months but now it was up to the ancles reality show "Horders" kind of trashed To top it off when DH reurned home we had an attempted break in while DH and I were out. The state police insisted on doing a sweep of our house for saftey and had to go through the house like that with guns drawn. It was a wonder they didnt shoot themselves
My DD now 11 is a great girl everywhere else and much improved at home . I have one friends grandparant that DD is the ONLY friend she lets over for the night. That being said DD is an Alpha, A-type personality who we affectionatly call the "lawyer" because she can twist any argument 10 ways to sunday. If there is a way for her to turn something to her advantage she will. She has in the past tried to use my fibro against me ie saying i forgot something when i didnt or trying to sneek somthing by me. It means being on top of her attidude had been Job #1 since she was about 7. DS while not so A-type takes her lead and is a super procrastnator. Luckily now that DD has a cell phone my life is much better. No help.. no cel. She often does things without being asked now. Cant imagine what a set of car keys will do for me
That doesnt stop the fights with her brother however.
DS used to be a super procrastnator with his homework until he finally realized he was not getting tested for gifted (wanted to prove to his sister he could do it) until he did what was expected. Last year it "clicked" and he was tested. Homework is no longer a problem. This room thing this past week was him seeing if those rules still applied. When I have giving him a break in the past everthing has fallen appart at home and school
I have a great relationship with both my older kids with both telling me very private things about friends and teachers. Things ranging from bulimia, "dating" and drug issues at school, to the accidental shooting that killed DD11 potential boyfriend I dont have to worry about them out in the world right now but at home is a challege with these two strong willed children. (wonder were they get that from
oh yeah me and their Dad)
For now it is the one thing that spins my fibro out of control faster than anything and the one thing I cant change with DS for a few more years. Hopfully DD6's personality will help me avoid this in the future and DD11 seems to be outgrowing it She actually asks me how I am from time to time thoughout the day which is a relatively new and unexpected develpment.
Thanks for the support and the suggestion.
I'm just tired and it sucks...cant stop being Mom just cause your tired.
I promised to update, but first I want to tell "you" a story.
My kids don't do anything chore wise. Around 1/2 way into my adventure it was to the point that I was making myself more ill getting upset with my children. I would yell, they would ignore, then my mild-mannered DH would raise his voice and the only one being affected was me. I was totally losing it. I was ready to walk away from my family. It just wasn't working. So DH and I talked first, then we sat down the kids. They were given life assignments: keep up your grades, do your homework without being told, make sure any paperwork made it immediately to Mom or Dad, be respectful to everyone, ask any requests with plenty of time, learn to read the calendar, and make a group of friends who could help with school work if needed, had parents who would at least do 1/2 of the car pool. Their father and I would take over all the house work including cleaning their rooms. BUT and this is a big but, it would be at my pace. If they needed a special item to wear, they had to tell me ahead of time. I did not feel guilty if something was not done. If the favorite pair of jeans were behind the bed and I wasn't up to cleaning rooms, only the clothes in my immediate eyesight were done.
The fighting upsetting days were over. I no longer had to scream at them. They embraced the new system and while their rooms are not the cleanest, neither is my house. They have cleaned the bathroom, done wash, did yardwork etc, just because they knew they should be helping, not because they were told.
I know that many parents are very strict with chores, making sure kids are accountable, etc. That didn't work for us, this did. Lastly, I did make sure they were able to complete any task they would need in life after Mom, but we did it at their pace.
Okay, off to post my drs. appt, and copy some recipes!!!
Thanks for the suggestion. This may work for my youngest someday. I'm not sure how old your kids were when you tried this but I'm not sure it would work with her now at 6 years old. Then again she is no problem. Her temperment is middle of the road unlike her polar opposite brother and sister. The fighting is really between and about the two oldest more than chores. DD11 is very bossy and once DS turned 3 and was a big brother he decided to do things his own way and the fights have been on going ever since. She thinks he should do everything her way and he says no. Then I have a headache
We did something similer out of desperation three years ago when oldest DD was 9 and DS was 6. I had basicly spent all summer in bed that year after two months with familiy memebers alternating with the flu and strep (DS got scarlet fever from strep). Then my heart condition started and my liver started to act up and DH had 4 surgeries on his eyes so it was a very bad year. 24hrs a day with three kids all summer had really taken its toll.
Anyway we told the kids if they could just not fight with each other and throw things away as they went along I would take care of their chores and their rooms (they didnt have many at this point). My DH was going to be away for a few days so I was on my own. Well my oldest DD took this to mean she could do whatever she wanted and co-oped her brother.That week they played however they wanted leaving everthing on every floor in the house. Of course I was bearly moving and kept my littlest with me in my bedroom(her BR is connected to mine and our master bath) so when I would go around the house to check on kids I would get BIG SURPRISES
that I could not deal with. When I talked to DD she replied that was now " MY Job " and she didnt have to do it I did what I could but being so sick and DD3 needing my full attention it was difficult to take back what I said and clean up. Needless to say by the time DH came home to pull rank on DD everyroom in the house was trashed. My house hadnt been clean in months but now it was up to the ancles reality show "Horders" kind of trashed To top it off when DH reurned home we had an attempted break in while DH and I were out. The state police insisted on doing a sweep of our house for saftey and had to go through the house like that with guns drawn. It was a wonder they didnt shoot themselvesMy DD now 11 is a great girl everywhere else and much improved at home . I have one friends grandparant that DD is the ONLY friend she lets over for the night. That being said DD is an Alpha, A-type personality who we affectionatly call the "lawyer" because she can twist any argument 10 ways to sunday
. If there is a way for her to turn something to her advantage she will. She has in the past tried to use my fibro against me ie saying i forgot something when i didnt or trying to sneek somthing by me. It means being on top of her attidude had been Job #1 since she was about 7. DS while not so A-type takes her lead and is a super procrastnator. Luckily now that DD has a cell phone my life is much better. No help.. no cel. She often does things without being asked now. Cant imagine what a set of car keys will do for me That doesnt stop the fights with her brother however.DS used to be a super procrastnator with his homework until he finally realized he was not getting tested for gifted (wanted to prove to his sister he could do it) until he did what was expected. Last year it "clicked" and he was tested. Homework is no longer a problem. This room thing this past week was him seeing if those rules still applied. When I have giving him a break in the past everthing has fallen appart at home and school
I have a great relationship with both my older kids with both telling me very private things about friends and teachers. Things ranging from bulimia, "dating" and drug issues at school, to the accidental shooting that killed DD11 potential boyfriend
I dont have to worry about them out in the world right now but at home is a challege with these two strong willed children. (wonder were they get that from oh yeah me and their Dad)For now it is the one thing that spins my fibro out of control faster than anything and the one thing I cant change with DS for a few more years. Hopfully DD6's personality will help me avoid this in the future and DD11 seems to be outgrowing it
She actually asks me how I am from time to time thoughout the day which is a relatively new and unexpected develpment.Thanks for the support and the suggestion.
I'm just tired and it sucks...cant stop being Mom just cause your tired.
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So any information on Savella is hereby needed. Please!!!!!
Just checked with a friend who took Savella
She said it worked so so for symptoms. She had the side effect of more extreme exhastion (can you imagine that?) but that it was an unusal side effect. She also had one of the epipens misfire which was painful and left a bruise.
someone else here mentioned it and I thought it had worked for them. Was it Brighteyes?
hey bright hope the Jobs going well!
ok I'm shutting up for the night
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Okay, first my visit went well at the drs. There is some TMI information in this post, you are forewarned:
My blood pressure was low. So my dose of BP pill is reduced back to the original amount and my water pill was decreased. There are no physical signs of infection aka nose, eyes, lungs, throat, chest, but I am still running phantom fevers. He touched upon the possibility that the bones/muscles etc may be holding onto the infection.
I told him that I just can't do the pain anymore. Either hook me up to some high power drugs or we needed to start a new plan. I admitted my faults with not telling the truth, etc. HE wants me to double pain meds as needed and start on Savella. I have to educate myself on the drug, but he provided all the pills. He said if it works he will make sure that I get them for free all the time. He can not do that with Lyrica, so if this does not work, we are out of "new Fibro" drug options. He will not push me if I don't feel comfortable taking anything and will try different pain med options if this does not work.
So any information on Savella is hereby needed. Please!!!!!
I told him about the blood that appears with my bowel movements. He does agree that it is most likely the hardness of the movement and pushing causing outside blood. It is red and it is NOT in my stools. He also felt there may be fissures. So at my pace as soon as I feel better, he will schedule my first colonoscopy, but he is NOT at all concerned. I can take my time on this.
He is re-doing all my blood work. 10 tubes full and a urinalysis.
He now knows that my balance is also being affected and we will be discussing the MRI's and stuff next visit. He will contact the Neurologist and get him back on board since I haven't seen him in quite a while.
So, here's the condensed version
I have Fibro.
I have progressed in a decreasing manner for the worse. What was a 4 is now an 8 or 9.
I am controlling my weight and blood pressure better.
I am off my stomach meds and he is very pleased with me.
We are re-checking tests to update my file.
This is not going away, it may not go back to 4, but he doesn't want it to go up either. He is willing to do what I want to do.
I am coming to terms with it more, I cried today for the first time in a long time, and I know that I have a healthy heart, healthy lungs, and am not clinically depressed. (so sick of drs. thinking everyone with Fibro has to be depressed). I am just normal 40ish year old woman depressed.
Okay, enough babbling, any questions let me know. Gotta call to find a store with Turkey wings or the butcher to make that gravy!!
Wishing you pain free fancy vibes today!Diane
Warning may have TMI.....
Hey Diane, I know I sound like a broken record but have you been tested for Celiac? I have had the stomach pills, the blood, the sigmoidoscopy and so many of the same things you do. Once I got off gluten all the stomach issues went away, along with the forced BM's. blood etc. and the fibro got so much better. It has been almost 2 years and my quality of life is so much better. Even my herniated disks are better due to the decrease in inflamation in my body. It is worth the antibody bood test just to see. I can't help with the meds, I only take tylenol when I absolutly have to because I react to most meds severly so I stay away from them as much as possible. I am glad your BP is down! That is great news! And I cry alot these days because I am a 40ishish perimenapausal woman with the normal amount of mood swings and misery that goes along with it! The worst thing I am finding is that I wake alot at night all sweaty and it is making my fibro a little flairy because of the sleep interuption. I have the feeling that menapause is going to be a little agravating to the fibro
. Sounds like you have a good Doc who is willing to work with you. That is great news too. I have a lot of reading to do on this thread to catch up and have to read tax codes so it will have to wait. I hope noone is feeling slighted by me - I am thinking of everyone and wishing easy times for ALL!
My DH goes to the Doc tomorrow for his BP. He had a very high reading at the ER in Sept when he had a kidney stone and another very high reading at Urologist this week. I called our PCP and got the first appt they had so I am a bit worried as this is a "new" problem for him.
I wonder how that pumpkin pudding would be with gluten free bread..... it's sounds amazing!
If you don't "see" me, I am around, just reading tax codes lol!
Stay healthy and warm!
~Erika
PS Did that baby come yet.... ?
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While googling I found this poem and would like to share it all with you as a reminder of our worth during the upcoming holiday seasons...
This pain is present every day
Unyielding, oppressive, still there.
Why doesnt it take a day off,
Who said, Life is always fair?
Inhabited by the unwanted
I feel victimized, possessed.
I ask myself all those questions,
What did I do? Was I too stressed?
How much is psychological?
How much is left to chance?
Will it get worse or better?
Should I take a reflective glance?
Depression displaced by anger
I felt helpless, betrayed by fate.
Blaming myself, my parents, my genes
I faced my own Watergate.
I began to count my losses,
Labored through my grief,
My life, my body, my ego
All vandalized by this thief.
What can I expect to change?
What is always to be?
It seems all I valued before
Is now questioned, constantly.
Daily pain has rocked my world
As war, earthquake and flood,
As my own Richter scale responds
By changes deep within my blood.
I felt alienated from other
Those so vital, healthy and tanned
While I was despondent, alone
An alien in my own homeland.
For awhile I wallowed and floundered
Kicked by the foot of fate,
Then one day I passed a mirror and said,
This is your life. Its getting late!
Suddenly thats when it hit me.
Id had enough of that pit.
My life was leading me around
Instead of me living it.
I began to look for solutions
If this pain is always to be.
I had to find some hope in my life,
Imprisoned, I longed to be free.
I took a personal inventory
Of all that I have left,
Gradually I stopped asking, Why?
And began feeling less bereft.
Instinctively I reached out to joy
Laughter felt so delicious inside.
As it rippled through my body,
Bringing its healing tide.
Ive learned to love each day
Even the dark side and strife
For hidden within the heartache
Is a seed of renewal, called life.
- Sue Falkner Wood
This pain is present every day
Unyielding, oppressive, still there.
Why doesnt it take a day off,
Who said, Life is always fair?
Inhabited by the unwanted
I feel victimized, possessed.
I ask myself all those questions,
What did I do? Was I too stressed?
How much is psychological?
How much is left to chance?
Will it get worse or better?
Should I take a reflective glance?
Depression displaced by anger
I felt helpless, betrayed by fate.
Blaming myself, my parents, my genes
I faced my own Watergate.
I began to count my losses,
Labored through my grief,
My life, my body, my ego
All vandalized by this thief.
What can I expect to change?
What is always to be?
It seems all I valued before
Is now questioned, constantly.
Daily pain has rocked my world
As war, earthquake and flood,
As my own Richter scale responds
By changes deep within my blood.
I felt alienated from other
Those so vital, healthy and tanned
While I was despondent, alone
An alien in my own homeland.
For awhile I wallowed and floundered
Kicked by the foot of fate,
Then one day I passed a mirror and said,
This is your life. Its getting late!
Suddenly thats when it hit me.
Id had enough of that pit.
My life was leading me around
Instead of me living it.
I began to look for solutions
If this pain is always to be.
I had to find some hope in my life,
Imprisoned, I longed to be free.
I took a personal inventory
Of all that I have left,
Gradually I stopped asking, Why?
And began feeling less bereft.
Instinctively I reached out to joy
Laughter felt so delicious inside.
As it rippled through my body,
Bringing its healing tide.
Ive learned to love each day
Even the dark side and strife
For hidden within the heartache
Is a seed of renewal, called life.
- Sue Falkner Wood
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Hi. Guys,
Got my new droid today love it but hate the fibro learning curve
don't even ask how long it took to type this!
Got my new droid today love it but hate the fibro learning curve
don't even ask how long it took to type this!
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Happy Thanksgiving you guys! Hope you all have a restful pain free day.
~Erika
~Erika
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Today starts the big cooking frenzy
.thanksgiving is a big@ deal for our family since I can trace my family tree to the mayflower. My kids get mad becauase thanksgivng seems to get lost between halloween and christmas. We have a rule no christmas, movies or music until thanksgiving so we can focus on the beauty of fall and being thankful that it wasour relatives not us on the mayflower!
We spend this weekend watching movies getting our tree and seeing the christmas .
HAppy Thanksgiving!
.thanksgiving is a big@ deal for our family since I can trace my family tree to the mayflower. My kids get mad becauase thanksgivng seems to get lost between halloween and christmas. We have a rule no christmas, movies or music until thanksgiving so we can focus on the beauty of fall and being thankful that it wasour relatives not us on the mayflower!We spend this weekend watching movies getting our tree and seeing the christmas .HAppy Thanksgiving!
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Finally on computer so I can type more.
Hope everyone is well. Eduke it was nice to see your post. My thoughts always go to New England this time of year,
I have been neither here nore there. Well enough to gets kids on bus and to activities in afternoon but inbetween and afterwards is a bust.In one way I'm greatful, I'm not having days I'm completely bedridding on the other its stinks to be up and about but unable to get things done. I have to rest too much to complete the am routine and the hour or two I am commited in the evening. Since I'm driving I have to be ok otherwise it's just too dangerous to be on the road in a full fibro attack. So nothing is getting done
I finally, after 6 months of renuing my Diney photopass photos,(dont ask how much that cost) got my book done. It ended up being a very expensive blessing in disguse because they have a new system and several new covers and many many more pages, stickers etc. I went back to try again when I noticed the $20 off the books and the new setup allowed me to get the book done in only a few hours! DH was home for a few days, several activities had been canceled and the kids had been good last week so sat night I got it done It was really wonderful being creative again and it is so different from the last one.
Well enough about me how is eveybody doing? Is that baby here yet? I miss that cuddly baby feel in a pouch with me all day. What they turn inot after four I can live without any more than three of those
Happy Thanksgiving ...again
Hope everyone is well. Eduke it was nice to see your post. My thoughts always go to New England this time of year,
I have been neither here nore there. Well enough to gets kids on bus and to activities in afternoon but inbetween and afterwards is a bust.
In one way I'm greatful, I'm not having days I'm completely bedridding on the other its stinks to be up and about but unable to get things done. I have to rest too much to complete the am routine and the hour or two I am commited in the evening. Since I'm driving I have to be ok otherwise it's just too dangerous to be on the road in a full fibro attack. So nothing is getting doneI finally, after 6 months of renuing my Diney photopass photos,(dont ask how much that cost
) got my book done. It ended up being a very expensive blessing in disguse because they have a new system and several new covers and many many more pages, stickers etc. I went back to try again when I noticed the $20 off the books and the new setup allowed me to get the book done in only a few hours! DH was home for a few days, several activities had been canceled and the kids had been good last week so sat night I got it done It was really wonderful being creative again and it is so different from the last one. Well enough about me how is eveybody doing? Is that baby here yet? I miss that cuddly baby feel in a pouch with me all day
. What they turn inot after four I can live without any more than three of thoseHappy Thanksgiving ...again
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